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Love will overcome evil (Romans 12:9-21)
- Jul 10, 2014
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I don't think any of the guys in this thread, who advocated the idea of waiting to kiss till marriage, have stated that the Bible condemns kissing before marriage. What they said was that they find it easier to remain pure if they don't excite desires through kissing/physical contact.
I also really disagree with the concept that no one is pure. While it is true that all of us are sinners and impure apart from the grace of God, that statement seems like a cop out. I am not condemning guys who do kiss, etc before marriage. I don't personally think that is a sin. (I do think that what the guys in this thread are advocating is a higher standard and safer). I just don't agree with the concept that since none of us are pure, we shouldn't try to have some standards.
I think if any individual wants to not hold hands and not kiss, that is fine it is up to them. However if one day they become a church elder and start preaching that message, it is very dangerous.
I just feels that the more rules we put on Christian dating, the harder it will be. And reality is a large number of Christians are dating non-Christians. We should aim to make Christian dating Christian easier, not harder.
Like I said 80% of the Christians had sex before marriage, as Christians! That means when you see couples in your local church, 80% of them are actively having sex before marriage. They of course will never tell you.
I am not saying sex is acceptable or right. I am just saying that we got to deal with reality.
Take me for example. I refused to have sex with my ex multiple times, against all of that attraction. And I am pretty sure that's one the major reasons we broke up. But I do not regret it. I was very discouraged and hurt. But hey I know I did the right thing. Not sure if I can do the right thing again next time, so I pray that God be merciful toward me.
And I also have this very biased opinion and generalization: The more "holy" someone say they are, the more sins they hide behind close doors.
That's why I prefer that we agree that more things are sins, but we will always love through the sin. Perhaps kissing is a sin. But let's love that person through that sin. Perhaps hand holding is a sin. But let's love that person through that sin.
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