I have been on very few first dates, but none of them have been formal. I have seen some folks dress to the nines and go to some expensive places. Personally, that right there would turn me off. If she wants to go to an expensive restaurant for our first date, what would that say about our tenth? Our twentieth? What would that say about what she expects as far as holidays?
Am I taking that a bit far? Probably, but why go all out when you're just getting to know someone? We have a place in Colorado Springs call the Cliffhouse. It's the kind of place with small servings and $75 plates, $12 sodas, and so on. It's very ritzy, and great for special occasions, but sorry--I don't see a first date as a special occasion.
For a first date, I want to go to Scooter's Coffee House, or maybe the Denver Museum of Natural History. Heck, I'll take her to Village Inn for lunch, then maybe a walk in Memorial Park. We could go paintballing, or horseback riding (yes, I'll suffer the allergies). I have a few rules for a first date:
1. Barring legal or moral problems, I will show up on time and take her home.
2. I will not go somewhere where the dress code is beyond jeans and a collared shirt.
3. I will not go somewhere qualifying as "fast food."
4. I will not go somewhere centered around an activity where we don't talk (i.e., a movie).
5. I will not go somewhere too loud to talk (i.e., a concert).
Now, I might be willing to go to a movie and dinner, or a concert followed by drinks, or even a symphony and a walk around the park. I just don't want to pick her up, head to the theater, watch the movie, and head home. I also don't want to just sit there and talk, with nothing else to do (can you say "awkward?").
What's your take on a first date? I know there's a lot of advice out there, but they don't seem to be so hard. You might spritz on a bit more cologne (a bit, not a boatload). You might pay a little more attention to styling your hair. Sure, you'll leave the tie with the mustard stain in the closet, and maybe the Hot Topic gothic 12" high heel boots need to stay at home, but really, first dates don't seem that hard. To me it seems a matter of it's just going to work, or it just isn't.