Wife wont talk!!
I wrote her a letter this week as she wont talk to me properly! I need to talk about our marriage etc but she doesnt! She is willing to talk to a counselor though!! I told her the letter is there for her to read but she said 'when i have time!' Its been over a year now since my affair and things need to be discussed. I have not asked her many times to talk though. I have not pressurised her. This is why i decided to write a letter instead, so that she could read about my feelings etc rather than us going into an argument.
We are supposed to be going away in April too! All booked but i am seriously thinking of cancelling it.
Praying...wanted to say that right off the bat.
I think a letter was a wonderful idea, it gives her time to process before trying to address things. I imagine she is still devastated from the whole affair issue, you broke her trust in you and that is a very hard thing to recover from.
As of late, my prayers have been focused on the needs of people we know. I needed to return some worship and praise into my prayers, so my husband and I decided to take an attribute of God and incorporate it into our prayers, the last three attributes we picked I think would be especially good for you right now.
1. God is patient...in fact, scripture tells us that it is His patience that leads us to salvation. Likewise you are called (and me) to be patient, to wait upon the Lord to work in our lives as well as those lives we are praying for HIm to change.
2. God is peace....Isaiah tells us that we will be kept in perfect peace when we set our eyes on Him and don't let those eyes stray, this means even straying to the things He is asking of us, no matter how difficult. Peace is like your measure of where your eyes are focusing.
3. God equips us...He gives us everything we need in order to accomplish what He wants us to accomplish. It is His equipping that we can rest in. You have been equipped, make use of that and thank God that He is a God who leaves us without excuse.
As to the counselor, I'm not a huge fan, I think way too many give way too worldly of advice, none the less, if your wife is willing to start there, it is at least a place to start and might be the very thing God needs you to do....maybe, counseling is one of the tools God has equipped you with to reach your wife with the forgiveness she needs. No matter what the end result is, God wants her to forgive. So among other things, we can pray that she will learn to forgive you for this is the will of God.