You sir are so wrong!
We are only together 'Because' of our child! So that destroys your first statement.
As for divorce well, neither of us wants that really. Its not something we would be looking forward too and money wise i dont care about money. That is the least of my worries!
Wrong again on your third statement as i told her precisely because of guilt and my betrayal! It would have been easy to say nothing and be a coward pal! I was not pressured in any way to tell her. Our marriage was at its depths for many years. We were not 'In Love'. I told her because of Guilt in my heart and i knew it was the right thing to do, whatever the outcome. I was prepared to join the gutter to live my life!
inappropriate content? What inappropriate content? Are you for real? Have you actually read any of my posts? Dont go stating things you have no evidence for! Seems to me like you are not a real Christian at all. You are so cruel and unthoughtful in your words etc.
The way it triggered you tells me I'm anything but wrong. Your ego immediately got engaged. I think you wanted someone to "cuddle" you, rather than give you advice.
Men don't tell women they cheated unless they can't bear the burden alone. That was your cross to bear and your work to do, but you offloaded it onto her because you didn't have the gonads and the guts to carry it yourself. Now again you still feel lust for another woman. That should tell you everything you need to know.
I think you might want to do some work around what "love" is. It's not the flowers and butterflies. That's infatuation and it only typically lasts long enough to form the relationship and maybe a year or two after marriage. Marriage is hard work. It's obvious that's not being done.
I think you also might want to do some work around what women are looking for and how a man survives in a relationship. She invites you into that relationship as her guest. You know nothing about relationships. No man does. You can't fix it because you know nothing about them. That's her job and she's not doing it. She checked out. She may not know how to manage a relationship or she may not want to, but that's her work to do, not yours.
You're work to do is being the man you need to be. You've given away all your power (the gonads in the purse reference). You want someone to tell you it's all ok, it's all her fault. It's not. You both murdered it, likely because you're serving yourselves and not what's best for the relationship (that's obvious, you're sleeping around and lusting after other women). If you don't do the work and be the strong man you need to be you're going to get slaughtered (again that's rather obvious, you're in a forum looking for someone to lick the wounds and somehow bring God into this to give you justification).
You bring God into this, but God doesn't really play a factor in this and isn't going to give you a free pass. God/the universe is neutral. God is going to give you what you put out into the universe. I think you really need to take a good hard look at what messages you're putting out there, either on a conscious or unconscious level.
Be the man you need to be. Be the man she thought she was marrying (again, that's her bad, she should have done her homework and worked hard at cutting through the facade men put forward to "get the girl"). There's a lot around being the man you need to be that I can't get into here and I don't think you're ready for it. I think all I can give you at this point is this:
First: You need to be the man your wife would cheat on you with. If she was to go out and have an affair tomorrow, you should be the type of man she would have it with. I don't need to tell you that you're not doing that. The results tell us the reality. The fruits reveal the roots. That's your work to do.
Second: Find out what women really want. Pro tip: She wants a strong, successful warrior that buys her stuff.
Finally: Being in a relationship with a woman is like having an alien invite you over for dinner. If all you do is stuff yourself and then go watch TV, or make a mess, burp and then stink up the bathroom before running out the door then you're not a very good guest. It would make sense that alien wouldn't invite you back. However, if you brought some flowers for the table and a bottle of alien wine, cleaned up after yourself, engaged in some conversation and thanked them for dinner, they might be inclined to invite you back.
The "inappropriate content" comment was facetious and actually a metaphor.
That's all for now.
