My dad annoying- one example is I can't even complain about how much work I get without him suggesting I quit school. Today he said that because I said after the semester is over, I want to throw out my folders and all the papers in it. He says that over and over again in different days-almost to the point of cliche.
I'd say half of this stress and mis is caused by me being indecisveness. In the short term, I like some of the classes my counselor picked for me because of my indecievness. But in the long term, it's just making my family stressed out and misreable. If i was studying something i liked, i would probably have less stress and it would be a much smaller issue for me.
Stress for me is my "bad side"-that is the reason I have had meltdowns since high school, as far as i can remember. Stress caused by a lot of boring difficult long assingments and study overload is the reason I have meltdowns where I yell and say horrible profanity. I normally can be very calm and chill, but certain things just affect me in a bad way.
If you did quit college, what would you pursue instead? Have you researched jobs that are of interest to you to find out what their qualifications are so you can make plans accordingly? If you don't know what jobs might be suitable for you, see if there are career counselors at your school who could give you an aptitude test or other advice. You don't need to have your entire life mapped out in your teens, but deciding on a general direction to go in can help you to navigate your life. It's possible that a vocational program could be more aligned with your interests than college.
Even if a physician, psychologist, or other professional equipped to make a diagnosis read through your posts here it would still be very difficult to properly evaluate you in this setting, so do not take what I or anyone else here writes as being anything remotely official. I'm also a college freshman, with only a neuroscience class and high school AP Psychology as my sources of academic knowledge, so take everything I write with a grain of salt. To me, the behavior you've described is symptomatic of
ADHD. Many people imagine a kid who is excessively hyper and bouncing off the walls when they think of ADHD, but it can manifest in other ways, especially in adolescents and adults. Teens with ADHD often have a harder time regulating their emotions, so when they are stressed out and frustrated they might have an outburst or meltdown like the ones you've told us about rather than a more appropriate, proportional reaction. Indecisiveness; disorganization (which can include not just unorganized school work and living spaces, but challenges with organizing a life plan); a strong dislike for activities that require sustained concentration (homework, writing a paper, studying for an exam); careless and inattentiveness that can lead to avoidable mistakes in work or misplacing things; a lack self-discipline and self-motivation; difficulty in processing and retaining information (which can lead to substantial anxiety and frustration); impulsivity; a tendency to procrastinate and avoid tasks; jumping from one project / task / assignment to another without having completed the first one; and an inability to adapt well to changes are other possible symptoms.
If you do have ADHD it doesn't mean you aren't intelligent, or that it's in any way shameful. Several friends have ADHD, and I know there are many students at Stanford who also have it. Students who have an official diagnosis of ADHD can receive special accommodations, such as taking tests in private rooms rather than with everyone else to help minimize distraction. Those who think they may have ADHD but haven't been diagnosed prior to coming to campus can go through the health center to be properly assessed. It's possible your college also their own assessment process students can go through on campus, or that they can point you towards a professional who could evaluate you. I would talk to your counselor about this.
There are coping methods college students with ADHD can learn that can help them be successful. This might be helpful to you:
http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-guide/college.html Even if yo don't have ADHD, following some of the suggestions for how to manage your time and be better organized could benefit you. It's very important to organize your time, your work, and your thoughts. You don't need anything elaborate. There are free apps you can download to your smartphone to help you to stay on top of your assignments, such as Studious. You enter in the information for each class, such as test dates, assignment deadlines, and the like, and will send you reminders. A simple calendar app can help you to manage your time. Enter in all classes and obligations for your day. Plan out times for when you'll study. Finish one assignment or task before beginning another. When you are feeling really scattered and mentally disorganized, looking through your plan for the day and your list of things to do can help you to refocus.