Hey,
This is my first post in Childfree Couples.
I am getting married in June and my fiance and I are both young and finishing up school and graduate work. He and I don't want to have children for at *least* 5 years, maybe more like 6 or 7 years. I want to get into my occupation before I'm out of work for 10-12 years raising kids. We love kids and want kids in the future.. just not soon. We want to have married life alone, just the two of us. Not be like those people who get married right out of college then start having babies within 2 years and the wife, who got a great education and is career driven, is now out of work for 10 years. No offense to people who did that, it's just not my DF and I.
So, my question is.. what do we do when people bug us about kids? My fiance's sister-in-law has laughed and scoffed in my face when I told her that we didn't want kids for another 6 years. She said "of course you will. I give it 3 or 4 years and you'll be pregnant!"... which is absurd. If I can help it, we won't have kids for another 6 years! It just hurts when people expect you to have kids in *their* timing.
Why can't we just be us?
This is all coming at a bad time because I'm going through a phase where kids don't really jazz me a whole lot. I feel awkward around them and just go "ugh"... but I really do want kids.
Sorry this all sounds so jumbled.
I suppose I'm posting this here because maybe some of you can relate. I hope my DF and I will be "childfree for a time".. a long time, but not forever.
This is my first post in Childfree Couples.
I am getting married in June and my fiance and I are both young and finishing up school and graduate work. He and I don't want to have children for at *least* 5 years, maybe more like 6 or 7 years. I want to get into my occupation before I'm out of work for 10-12 years raising kids. We love kids and want kids in the future.. just not soon. We want to have married life alone, just the two of us. Not be like those people who get married right out of college then start having babies within 2 years and the wife, who got a great education and is career driven, is now out of work for 10 years. No offense to people who did that, it's just not my DF and I.
So, my question is.. what do we do when people bug us about kids? My fiance's sister-in-law has laughed and scoffed in my face when I told her that we didn't want kids for another 6 years. She said "of course you will. I give it 3 or 4 years and you'll be pregnant!"... which is absurd. If I can help it, we won't have kids for another 6 years! It just hurts when people expect you to have kids in *their* timing.
Why can't we just be us?
This is all coming at a bad time because I'm going through a phase where kids don't really jazz me a whole lot. I feel awkward around them and just go "ugh"... but I really do want kids.
Sorry this all sounds so jumbled.
I suppose I'm posting this here because maybe some of you can relate. I hope my DF and I will be "childfree for a time".. a long time, but not forever.