Since you were elected before the foundation of the world, then you must have felt compelled to be in the presence of the living God ALL YOUR LIFE. Is this true?
Was there ever a point in your life you were not saved? Is so, then we have unsaved elect. Is this true? Do you have scripture to back this up?
Neither you nor I know the state of your salvation, since you believe it is a 50/50 chance you are either predestined to heaven or foreordained to hell. The sad part is you have no choice nor say in the matter. You must be a lucky one for God to choose you, since it is unconditional. Hope is your only friend in salvation.
Not sure where you're going with this, but I'll try to answer:
Yes, there was a point when I hadn't come into the knowledge of my salvation, so to speak. The work was done, but for God's purposes, He allowed me to do what I thought I wanted to do. Unsaved elect? Sure, but the Lord won't let His own die before revealing Himself to them.
"But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved) and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,…"
Election and salvation are not the same thing, at the same time: election precedes salvation. Election was God's sovereign act before time was time. See Ephesians 1:3-5 again:
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will."
Yes, I know the state of my salvation. I have no real knowledge of yours, nor frankly, you of mine. What we can know is whether the professing believer demonstrates the fruit of the Spirit in their lives. Bearing fruit is the natural result of being born again of the Spirit of God. No one who is born again will keep on living in perpetual sinful lifestyles according to 1 John 3:9, so that would be solid evidence of renewal, rebirth, restoration. Further, as we are called a "chosen generation" a "royal priesthood", the believer is compelled to honor Christ by obeying His commandments. Finally, we shall be known by our
agape love for one another within the Body of Christ. By all these means, we may have confidence in another's faith, but in all candor, the Christian faith is not about others' relationship (or lack) with Jesus Christ; it's about our personal relationship with Christ.
Which brings me to your final assertion: if I am by nature a sinner (which I was, and of the flesh, still am) as Paul states in Romans 5 and was spiritually dead, in other words, unable to act
spiritually, then the Holy Spirit
had to intervene, because of my own power, I was unable to make myself alive (Romans 5:6-8). Now, filled with the Spirit of God, I act as one who is spiritually
alive: I love God with all my heart, mind and strength, I love my neighbor as myself, imperfect though I be.
You say that it is sad that I have no say, I say, PRAISE GOD! I was dead in my trespasses. The dead have no choice; they stay dead. God is not under any obligation to "choose" anyone, but He does (Romans 9:21) for His purposes, according to the counsel of His own will (Ephesians 1:11). Of the flesh, I didn't, wouldn't and couldn't "choose" God, I could only "choose" Hell.
As a Christian, I don't believe in luck when I worship a God who is sovereign over all things, great and small and is omnipotent, omnipresent and omniscient.
So to your last statement, I have the assurance that because He does the choosing, that my salvation has been worked out in eternity past (as it has for ALL of God's people), I know that there is no force in all of Creation that can take me from my place (Romans 8:37-39, John 6:37, John 10:28-29). I--WE--have been placed in the hands of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords by our Heavenly Father, not some decision you or I made long ago. I rest in that security and I pray--earnestly pray--that you will come to as well.
God bless you all!