This is a video from very articulate marriage counselor on the sex-starved marriage.
Where is the citation for it being a "common problem?""
I don't have a citation. It's common knowledge. But I don't have a citation for that either, because that's common knowledge.
I'm sorry that you're dealing with that (that's the reason why you're focused on this....correct? Because it just doesn't make sense to be so concerned about other's marital issues to this extreme). Prayers for you and your wife.
Mkgal1,
That's a tacky assumption, not something I'd expect of you. No, I'm not going through this, and definitely not today. But I have read enough online posts and interacted with enough people to know that this is a problem in a lot of marriages. Why would you think I wouldn't care about other people's marriages?
You do realize that doesn't change the content of the topic.....right?Link said:I labeled it as I did so as not to put 'sex' in the title.
Btw, I think the video is good even for people that don't have a specific problem with this.
I'm not implying that you wouldn't care about other people's marriages--it's the particular focus that I'm noticing. You're the one that titled this, "a common problem in marriage" (not me). When someone gives unsolicited advice about something so uniquely personal and seems to infer that it's something a lot (maybe even most) of people go through (that's the definition of "common", is it not?)---I just find it odd. I don't know what's "tacky" about what I posted (to be honest).
I'm not implying that you wouldn't care about other people's marriages--it's the particular focus that I'm noticing. You're the one that titled this, "a common problem in marriage" (not me). When someone gives unsolicited advice about something so uniquely personal and seems to infer that it's something a lot (maybe even most) of people go through (that's the definition of "common", is it not?)---I just find it odd. I don't know what's "tacky" about what I posted (to be honest).
I think that it doesn't take too much poking around to realize that this IS a common problem.
Breezyberlin said:If I posted something about dealing with financial stress in marriage, I wonder if people would think it was MY problem, rather than something I have observed is a common problem?
My point wasn't to challenge the idea that it's a common problem. My point was that this is the topic that he posts a lot about--and it's the single laser-focus that has me wondering: why?
Again....it's not a one-time thing, it's kind of habitual. If you were habitually posting lectures on how to stop being irresponsible with money? Yes.....you'd get the same reaction from me.
One more thing (for now): I disagree with her idea of "mutuality". What she's advocating is one-way decisions ("adopt Nike's philosophy and Just Do It". That's *not* mutuality---that's one person giving in under compulsion.
I just know I wouldn't pay this "counselor" anything if that's her solution for conflict and dissatisfaction. If it were the wife wanting to buy a bigger & more expensive house, and the husband was reluctant and unsure and that had the couple at a standstill (and the wife was feeling rejected and unloved....dismissed)...I doubt she'd say, "Just Do It". But it's the same thing....isn't it?
With her reasoning, she's saying the husband is "making the decision unilaterally" by holding them back from buying. Resolving that by expecting him to just give in is not what "two becoming one" means (IMO). There's a step in between---where the two actually listen to one another and arrive at a decision that *only* the two of them can.
I mean... not to beat a dead horse... but... why would this be a Ted X talk if it weren't a common topic? LOL.
My point wasn't to challenge the idea that it's a common problem. My point was that this is the topic that he posts a lot about--and it's the single laser-focus that has me wondering: why?
That's the focus I mean (and it's not overlooked that by "some posters" that means female posters).Link said:But I do focus on topics on this forum where it seems to me that some poster's views do not line up with scripture and this is one of them
That's the focus I mean (and it's not overlooked that by "some posters" that means female posters).
Now Link has no obligation to give a defense of his interest in the topic. However, if I recall he posts in the Charismatic section. Link seems pretty balanced on his Scriptural discussions.