Mkgal1,
That's a tacky assumption, not something I'd expect of you. No, I'm not going through this, and definitely not today.
That's kind of a tacky statement...
But if it's a "common problem" as you state, why so insulted that the assumption is out there that this is something you struggle with in your marriage. TBH, since you post about it overly much, I just assumed it was a problem in your marriage but never mentioned it as you seem to take the topic of female sexual unavailability in their marriage so stinking personally. MKgal just said what I bet, if you ask, most of us have been assuming for awhile.
Since it's apparently not an issue for you, as you kind of crudely pointed out, now I'm really curious about the fascination you've had for years on the topic of sexual availability in a marriage and why it's all our moral and Christian duties to drop trou 100% of the time one is asked.
But I have read enough online posts and interacted with enough people to know that this is a problem in a lot of marriages. Why would you think I wouldn't care about other people's marriages?
While the "it's common knowledge" statement seems to be the 2015 version of "I know a guy" and "I heard it somewhere," I think the assumption that it's a huge problem that is "common" because you see people post about it a lot is a bit... Well... Presumptuous.
There are, optimistically, 20 or so regular people who post on this subforum, very few of which have mentioned this as an issue. And the reality is that, aside from the 20 or so of us who post on and off because we enjoy it here (or are gluttons for punishment), the rest of the people aren't coming through to post about how awesome their marriage is... They're posting because they have an issue. Meanwhile, a majority of people on CF as a whole don't seem to be coming on here and complaining this is an issue.
So to say this is a "common knowledge" and "common problem" because 12-25ish people a year wander through and gripe about this issue and projecting that to mean it's something that most people deal with is a little inaccurate.
I also think that asking about why you have this utter fascination with how much sex people are or aren't having is a valid one. If somebody says "hey, this is a problem, what do I do" and you post the video... Ok, I get it. But opening up a new post to remind people that you think it's everybody's job to have sex is just bizarre. Why do you care how much we are or are not having sex? Unless somebody asks, the reminder on your viewpoint on the issue is unnecessary.
Btw, I think the video is good even for people that don't have a specific problem with this.
I thought the video was baloney, but that's just me. I have no patience for the "God says you need to have sex with your spouse and be available regardless of how you feel" viewpoint to be tantamount to spiritual and emotional blackmail. One would think if this was an issue, they'd explore with their partner why, not use God as the excuse to get what you want without having to deal with the pesky issues your partner may be having.