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Apparently that Josh guy had a paid Ashley Madison account.
if you're going to have a family of good religious people that large under one roof, someone is bound to fall off the table.
But you cannot judge the whole family by the one bad kid...sometimes nature rules over nurture.
"train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it"
As a psych major that made me laugh. Yes, it has generally been agreed by experts that nature and nurture both have a hand in development.This is where the whole nature vs nurture debate comes in. I believe they both have value.
It's his behavior that is bad.With some people, no matter how they are raised they will end up bad.
It's not a "disorder", it's lust.Some people have personality and other disorders that cannot be controlled and are not even discovered until something like this happens.
He wasn't a "kid" when he chose to sign up and pay for a website through which ADULTS have extra-marital affairs, and he wasn't a kid when he chose to meet a woman or women from that website and have sex with them.He may have had a different way of dealing with things that lead him down that path, he may have not listened as well as the other kids, may not have cared...could be a million possibilities.
Kids have free will yes. And unfortunately they are more influenced by peers and the media more than parents once they reach a certain age simply due to the contact hours. You have to be confident as a parent. Keep them in church, encourage them to be a part of good influences such as youth groups, college groups, any positive influences they can have. Be confident in your choices, in your actions. You have 18 years to make a positive influence in their lives and then just hope and pray they stay the course. "train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it" always comes to mind. Instill in them good values, set a good example, let them be themselves, listen and encourage.
You're taking for granted that any of them are good religious people, and not just opportunists.