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Your view on birth control?

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Project 86 -

I will answer your question. I took Ortho Tri-Cyclen (I probably slaughtered the spelling of it, lol!), and after I switched insurance companies, Nordette - its generic equivalent. Physically, it was great - it dropped my periods down to three days and made me virtually cramp-free. Emotionally, it really did a number on me, which is why I stopped taking it. It just made me really moody, depressed and lethargic, and my husband asked me to stop taking it because of that!!

As I mentioned, I was very concerned about taking a pill that could potentially kill a life that had been formed, and I did ask my doctor about it. It could be that she was misinformed about it herself, and if she was, I apologize for getting your hopes up about it...

As for the rest of you, I have already mentioned that I am no longer participating in this debate, so please refrain from quoting me in hopes of getting a "rebuttal" to your argument. I no longer take BC pills anyway, so it's sort of a moot point!
 
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kidsminister said:
First, I believe it is God's design for sex to be recreational and pleasurable. !

Hi there

By all means have your pleasure, test it though! Tell the Lord you just want pleasure and ask him to stop you conceiving!
Proverbs 3:6 NIV
in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.


Doing things your way is not acknowledging God's sovereignty

Also if you need healing: God still heals today. Theres no need to take your water from the world, God is our all sufficient one!

Jeremiah 2:13 NIV
"My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.
 
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Yes, die to self, pick up your cross and follow Jesus. The priority for a beliver is not private parts but God's will.
 
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kidsminister said:
As for the rest of you, I have already mentioned that I am no longer participating in this debate,

Greetings

Debate is not a valid employ for the redeemed. All that has happened so far is you have demonstrated the extent to which your walk with christ revolves around THY needs and opinions.

 
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kidsminister said:
- it dropped my periods down to three days and made me virtually cramp-free. !

Press in to Jesus.

Mark 5: 25And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years. 26She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse. 27When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, 28because she thought, "If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed." 29Immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering.
 
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Collum Cille of Iona said:
Greetings

Debate is not a valid employ for the redeemed. All that has happened so far is you have demonstrated the extent to which your walk with christ revolves around THY needs and opinions.


You do not know me at all. You have no idea what my walk with Christ is like. If you read my previous posts, I was simply looking for Scripture that prohibited the use of birth control (other than the story of Onan, which has been interpreted to be everything from anti-birth control, anti-masturbation, and just about anything else someone wanted it to be about). As no one could provide it for me, I decided to withdraw from this discussion.

Since we believe that the Bible is the inerrant Word of God and our final authority, I would imagine that if an issue were important, God would give us specific instructions regarding what to do.

I am not a vehement pro-BC activist - As I've said many times, I don't use it! I am just interested in Scripture that addresses this issue specifically.
 
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1. I do not use birth control! DH and I sort of practice NFP, as in, we try to abstain during my fertile days...but it's not really an absolute . Personally, I don't think it's God's plan for me to get pregnant right now. If He were to bless me with a child, I assume that He has a plan in mind as to how we could possibly take care of him or her between our 2-3 jobs each!! And I'm fine with that.

2. Are you married? Sex IS designed for mutual pleasure and satisfaction between a husband and wife. Of course it is also the way we procreate, but if God did not want sex to be pleasurable, He would have created another way for us to reproduce.

3. I am a licensed Pentecostal minister. I totally believe that God still heals today. I also believe that He sometimes uses doctors to accomplish His will to heal us.

Finally, for the last time...I am NOT trying to debate birth control, or my personal views, or my sex life! All I was doing was asking for some Scripture that specifically addressed the issue. Someone posted that it was absolutely wrong to use, and since we use the Bible to tell us what is right or wrong, I assumed that there was an absolute in Scripture that dealt with the issue.
 
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Thanks for replying even though I know you don't want to post on this thread any longer.

 
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Project 86 said:
Thanks for replying even though I know you don't want to post on this thread any longer.

Yeah, well, as you can see, I ended up replying a few more times .

God bless you as you prepare for your wedding and marriage, and I wish both of you the best. May He provide you with all of the answers that you need for a successful marriage and walk with Him!!
 
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This has got to be one tof the strangest threads I have ever seen. I cannot believe people are trying to make a doctrine on birth control where there is none and use it to hold others in bondage.

As in all things, pray for God's guidance and follow him.
 
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THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for being a voice of reason here!

That is the point I've been trying to make...is there Scripture that deals with the issue? If so, let's see it! If not, why is this even such an issue?

As I said, I no longer wish to debate or argue this issue, but I am definitely going to rep you .
 
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Quite the opposite actually. I say that society's ideals hold us in bondage from accepting the fullness of God's gifts and blessings. There is scripture that deals with it, Onan, his only sin was not disobedience or he would not have been struck dead. There are many examples of people who disobeyed and were not struck dead so we must assume there was more to Onan's sin or God does not deal with each of us fairly. Chemical methods all prevent implantation should they fail to prevent an egg from dropping and are therefore abortificants. I don't think I need to show how that is sinful. Scripture says not to deny one another except for a time of prayer and fasting so NFP doesn't work according to scripture unless the couple is praying and fasting. That leaves only block methods and even those deny the fullness of God's creation. Have we become so arrogant as to tell God when to bless us or how much to bless us? In some aspects we certainly have and that is bondage in and of itself. We are slaves to society's ideas and thoughts regarding children when in fact those ideas and thoughts do not line up with what scripture says regarding children. There isn't anyone trying to put anyone into bondage here but rather to free people to accept the fullness of God's wonderful creation for man and wife.
 
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flesh99 said:
Quite the opposite actually.
The opposite would mean that there is explicit instruction from God in this manner. Where is that if you suppose that it exists?
flesh99 said:
I say that society's ideals hold us in bondage from accepting the fullness of God's gifts and blessings.
I would tend to agree.
Okay. But that does not support your premise that the other reason was one of birth control. In the mouths of two - three witnesses, let a thing be established. Where are the other 2-3 witnesses that condemn birth control? if they do not exist, then you err in trying to establish a doctrine around your interpretation of this one verse.

Further, I contend that it was not about birth control at all. Look at the text. "And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother." Onan was trying to avoid raising up seed to his brother; that was the issue at hand.

Onan knew that the child he had by Tamar would not be his, but would be his brother's. Maybe he was greedy and did not want his brother's name to continue because without a lineage to his brother, he would get more of his father's inheritance. Maybe he had a grudge against his brother (who was called evil) and thereby did not want to honor him by raising up seed.

Regardless of the reason, what Onan did was evil on many levels because he could have opted not to raise seed to his brother. However, admitting this would have subjected him to a humiliating ceremony before the elders where he and his family would be disgraced. Instead of being a man and taking this disgrace, he chose to be sneaky and try to make it appeasr like he was honoring his brother when he was not.

Such was also an evil act towards Tamar because she would be potentially left with no one to provide for her. Had he acknowledged his reluctance to comply with this act, she would have been free to marry someone outside of the family. Or had he complied, she could have been cared for by her children when they got older. We all know how close to Jesus' heart it was that we ensure ensure widows are taken care of appropriately.

There is no proof you have provided that the sin was related to a condemnation of birth control.
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Chemical methods all prevent implantation should they fail to prevent an egg from dropping and are therefore abortificants. I don't think I need to show how that is sinful.

Not true. Some simply prevent the creation and/or release of eggs to begin with. No fertilization or life then occurs.

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Scripture says not to deny one another except for a time of prayer and fasting so NFP doesn't work according to scripture unless the couple is praying and fasting.

That is a rather twisted interpretation of that text. If a husband and wife decide together that they will abstain from sex during certain times, then pray tell, WHO is being denied????

By your understanding, a husband and wife must have sex at all times that they are not fasting and praying. Do you really believe this is God's intent?

Married individuals must be always having sex unless they are praying and fasting. They cannnot agree not to have sex so that they can go to work. They cannot agree not to have sex so that they can go to the grocery store. They cannot agree not to have sex so that they can go to church. Only for prayer and fasting? Is this what you are saying??

If a man and woman agree that neither desires to have sex at a time, no one is being denied and this text is not applicable.

flesh99 said:
There isn't anyone trying to put anyone into bondage here but rather to free people to accept the fullness of God's wonderful creation for man and wife.

And you are the definer of that? Hogwash! You are trying to put others in bondage by forcing your potentially false interpretation of one and misapplication of another Scripture to establish a doctrine that is obviously dear to your heart but has no biblical foundation whatsoever.

I am sorry, but I take unbrage at what you are doing. Regardless of how strongly you feel about this topic (and it is your right to feel that this is a sin) there is no Scriptural basis for you to try and use this as a way to condemn others when God is silent on this matter.

God does not leave His people without instruction. He has given us everything we need to know His will and walk in it. He does not leave such matters to ambiguity. If you have to guess at the meaning of one text and misapply another, then that is not God's revelation, but your own.

If you feel that such is a sin, then you should certainly not partake in any of these activities. Let every man be fully pursuaded in his own mind.
 
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Ainesis said:
Not true. Some simply prevent the creation and/or release of eggs to begin with. No fertilization or life then occurs.

Actually it is true. Some try to prevent the creation of eggs but they sometimes fail to do so. When that happens they can cause the egg to not attach to the wall after the sperm as combined with the egg to form a human life. Because the new human can not attach to the wall he/she dies. If you have medical proof that you can show me that says otherwise I would like to see it. This is an important topic we should be educated in.
 
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Randy Alcorn has written a great book on the subject called Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?. I just discovered you can read it online for free. You can read it online in html or you can download it and read it in PDF.
 
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Ainesis said:
The opposite would mean that there is explicit instruction from God in this manner. Where is that if you suppose that it exists?
The statement was in reference to being accused of putting people in bondage, and I still stand by it. I am by no means trying to keep or put people in bondage.

I would tend to agree.


I can gather any two Catholics and myself and cover this verse without any issue therefore meeting your standard with the wrongly applied scripture. I could also gather any number of Protestants as well. I am the only person really still debating it but there are at least two others in this thread in agreement with me, and that's just this thread. The scripture you are attempting to apply is being used wrongly, just as you are accusing me of doing.

Church history agrees with me, even Protestant church history. The doctrine of birth control being allright is less and 100 years old and in fact still the widest accepted doctrine. The doctrine of the Trinity is not clearly laid out in scripture and is one of the base doctrines of Christianity. There is as much support for the idea that birth control is wrong as there is for the understanding of the Trinity that we have. Are you really willing to apply your criteria for right doctrine to every doctrine?

Not true. Some simply prevent the creation and/or release of eggs to begin with. No fertilization or life then occurs.
And if they fail to do that the next thing they do is stop the egg from implanting, making all versions of the pill abortificants.

That is a rather twisted interpretation of that text. If a husband and wife decide together that they will abstain from sex during certain times, then pray tell, WHO is being denied????
It is exactly what the verse says. It is a mutual verse:
[bible]1 Corinthians 7:5[/bible]
Look at what it says, it speaks of consent but the only reason for giving that consent is a time of prayer and fasting.

They must not deny each other. Agreeing to not have sex places, usually the husband, in a position to be denied as he is likely not going to be able to go the whole time it is necessary without feeling the urge. This is ground already well covered in this thread. You really should read the whole thread before attempting to pick apart what is said in one post.

If a man and woman agree that neither desires to have sex at a time, no one is being denied and this text is not applicable.
The text disagrees with you.

The majority of Christendom today and throughout history agrees and has agreed that artificial birth control is wrong, from the church fathers to the reformers all the way up to the 1930's. This is not a new doctrine and my interpretation of scripture is no less potentially false than yours.

I do not feel God is silent on the matter at all, you can claim the scripture is all day long but I say you overlooking what is in fact laid out and testified to in scripture. Again we go back to applying your logic to all doctrine. You believe in the Trinity and yet is less clearly laid in scripture than this doctrine.

I am not guessing at the meaning, I have the wisdom of many, many learned men throughout history backing my position, and I am not misapplying scripture I am applying a straightforward reading of scripture. There is no bondage in what I am teaching, there is bondage in denying the fullness of God's creation and the thought that we have any right to tell God when to bless us and how much to bless us. In fact that is pure arrogance.

If you feel that such is a sin, then you should certainly not partake in any of these activities. Let every man be fully pursuaded in his own mind.
I feel there is enough backing for the pill being wrong and NFP being wrong that I can safely teach those and as such should. If you go through the thread before responding you will see that I have plainly stated over and over that I cannot teach against block methods and call them sinful. It is impolite to comment at the end of a thread because you are commenting without context. Before you respond again please read the rest of what has been said so you have an idea of what I am talking about to begin with instead of basing your idea that I am teaching wrong doctrine on a single post. This is lot like scripture in that aspect, you cannot assume to know what I am teaching without having the context.
 
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For those who think it a sin, what about those who take BC out of medical necessity, like the personal example I posted earlier in the thread? Are they sinning by taking something that they need? It reminds me of the stories I've read lately about the pharmacists who refused to disburse meds they think violate their religious beliefs. Nevermind that they don't know the medical history of the patient nor the diagnosis that's being treated. Bah.
 
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I would say it is intent that matters. You can eat meat and sin by doing so but it is not a sin to eat meat. The pharmacists you refer to are refusing to distribute the morning after pill which IS an abortificant and they have every right to refuse to hand out those meds just a pharamacist that is a Scientoligist would have a right not to distribute psychoactive medication. If it is the intent that matters then taking birth control for medical reason outside of birth control wouldn't be an issue. I would suggest using a barrier method along with it so that you do not unkowngly kill an unborn child. I personally would advise against the pill because it can and does kill unborn children. The question is how far are you willing to go to feel comfortable? If it is just for pain then would you sacrifice your child to stop feeling the pain? The question is valid because that is the risk involved. If it is life threatening then a case can be made for taking a life to save a life but that could be avoided by using a barrier method along with the chemical that is required for a medical condition. I don't think there is any situation where God is allright with killing an unborn child so where is the justification for the pill when the very real risk is killing an unborn child?
 
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Okay...gotta jump back in for a moment!

According to your profile, you are a man. You have never had, nor will you ever, experience crippling menstrual cramps. You will never experience that kind of pain that is so excruciating that you can't even walk, but you literally are crawling from room to room. Bleeding so heavy that you don't even dare go out in public! Needing to make the choice between taking an allergy pill and avoiding a migraine, but whose side effects intensify cramps. Either way, we're talking a sick day or two!!

I have experienced these symptoms. Fortunately for me, they lessened as I got older...when I was in high school, I missed at least a day each month because of my cramps.

It is not just a matter of "discomfort," and many times, Tylenol and ibuprofen just don't cut it.

Had I known that there was something available to take for the pain, you'd better believe I would have taken it. Many women DON'T grow out of this. I think God understands - and I believe that He is bigger than a little pill if He really wants a child to be born.

Yes, He still heals today! But sometimes He provides us with the wisdom and technology of modern medicine to do so. Doctors are our allies in healing, not God's competitors!!
 
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