My almost-SO (we're in 'discussions' at the moment - laying down groundwork, developing things slowly, etc) has a lot of friends that are female. I also have friends that are men.
My problem is that he and a particular girl often talk about meeting up for dinner. This other girl has a boyfriend, and of course, Brad has me. I feel VERY weird about this. I talked to him about it, and he just doesn't see a problem with it, as he doesn't see her in the same light he sees me. To him she's just a friend.
Now I know, if it was a marriage - it would be simple. You shouldn't go out with another man's wife/woman's hubby alone to dinner. But what about this situation?
Women - have you experienced this? Can you explain it? I'm not jealous per se, nor am I afraid that they'd get together - I know they only see each other as friends, and she's deeply in love with her man, as Brad is saying he is with me. I just feel, deep down, this is wrong.
Men - Am I over-reacting? Should I be calming down? How would you feel about your girlfriend going out with a male friend without SOs being around???
Anyone who has an article on this, or some valid discussion points about how to help me relax about it, and also about how it is risky to a relationship, would be warmly welcomed!!!
I have talked to him about 'opinions of others' (ie someone from church sees it and assumes something and tells me). He says that it shouldn't be a problem since he would all ready have told me, and I shouldn't feel so bad about this going on.
Part of me would like to then go out with a male friend of mine, but I feel it would be more retaliation than because I want to - when I'm in a relationship, I refuse to go out with my male friends alone - only when there's a large group of people, or my SO is there as well...
Sasch
ps. Sorry if I babbled...
My problem is that he and a particular girl often talk about meeting up for dinner. This other girl has a boyfriend, and of course, Brad has me. I feel VERY weird about this. I talked to him about it, and he just doesn't see a problem with it, as he doesn't see her in the same light he sees me. To him she's just a friend.
Now I know, if it was a marriage - it would be simple. You shouldn't go out with another man's wife/woman's hubby alone to dinner. But what about this situation?
Women - have you experienced this? Can you explain it? I'm not jealous per se, nor am I afraid that they'd get together - I know they only see each other as friends, and she's deeply in love with her man, as Brad is saying he is with me. I just feel, deep down, this is wrong.
Men - Am I over-reacting? Should I be calming down? How would you feel about your girlfriend going out with a male friend without SOs being around???
Anyone who has an article on this, or some valid discussion points about how to help me relax about it, and also about how it is risky to a relationship, would be warmly welcomed!!!
I have talked to him about 'opinions of others' (ie someone from church sees it and assumes something and tells me). He says that it shouldn't be a problem since he would all ready have told me, and I shouldn't feel so bad about this going on.
Part of me would like to then go out with a male friend of mine, but I feel it would be more retaliation than because I want to - when I'm in a relationship, I refuse to go out with my male friends alone - only when there's a large group of people, or my SO is there as well...
Sasch
ps. Sorry if I babbled...