your perfect mate...

[collegekid]

... tell me about your idea of a perfect mate for you. i want to hear.

 

[bkg]

Already met her. She's amazing. And she's not perfect... she's the one that God chose for me - what else could be more perfect?

 

[but'n'ben]

Met him...but he don't want me anymore. My perfect guy would be:

Tallish. Bigger than me anyway but I'm small so not hard to do.
Well built. Not necessarily muscle
Protective
Easy to talk to
as devoted to me as I am to him. This is a biggie
Keep me laughing

 

[Living4Him03]

I don't know physically, I like all sorts of varieties and thrive on that. Yes, he has to be attractive to me, of course, I want to be attracted to him a lot (makes love making easier I would imagine )

Otherwise, here are a few things I want/need:

Sense of adventure
Willing to drop everything and follow God wherever He leads
Can laugh at himself and laugh with me at myself
Passionate
Resilient
Cares about people
Always wants to know Christ more and more
High sex drive but not a pervert
Likes to travel
Can put up with me
Has some type of hobby or passion
Wants to have children if God is willing
Humble
Would sacrifice everything for me and his future family

 

[waterbear]

Myself only a gorgeous female

 

[LovinGod]

Our course for teenagers uses this poem in one of our lessons. I thought it would be appropriate here:

The Man I Want


(by Ruth Bell)

[Source: The Timothy Report, Copyright (c) 2002 Swan Lake Communications]

This is a poem written by a teenage girl looking for a husband. It was written as a prayer, and this is what she said:

Dear God, I pray all unafraid
As girls are wont to be
I do not want a handsome man
But make him, Lord, like Thee.
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
Nor need he be some genius
or wealthy, Lord, at all;
But let his head be high, dear God,
and let his eye be clear,
His shoulders straight, whate'er his fate
whate'er his earthly sphere.
And let his face have character,
a ruggedness of soul,
And let his whole life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal.
And when he comes
as he will come
With quiet eyes aglow
I'll know, dear Lord,
That he's the man
I prayed for long ago.


That girl's name was Ruth Bell, and she later met and married Billy Graham.

 

[goat37]

Just someone who actually understands me, and means it when they tell me they love me.

 

[Living4Him03]

Our course for teenagers uses this poem in one of our lessons. I thought it would be appropriate here:

The Man I Want


(by Ruth Bell)

[Source: The Timothy Report, Copyright (c) 2002 Swan Lake Communications]

This is a poem written by a teenage girl looking for a husband. It was written as a prayer, and this is what she said:

Dear God, I pray all unafraid
As girls are wont to be
I do not want a handsome man
But make him, Lord, like Thee.
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
Nor need he be some genius
or wealthy, Lord, at all;
But let his head be high, dear God,
and let his eye be clear,
His shoulders straight, whate'er his fate
whate'er his earthly sphere.
And let his face have character,
a ruggedness of soul,
And let his whole life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal.
And when he comes
as he will come
With quiet eyes aglow
I'll know, dear Lord,
That he's the man
I prayed for long ago.


That girl's name was Ruth Bell, and she later met and married Billy Graham.

wow really cool

 

[Tink]

I think I'll start praying that prayer.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[bubblegirl23]

From most important to least important:

- able to "shoot blanks"
- average looking but great heart & sense of humour
- faithful and happy to not have kids
- live chemical free
- be a good Dad to my dog and cat
- good listening skills
- typical bloke happy to just sit down to a beer and sport on the weekend
- loves sweets

Ok, I'm done

 

[collegekid]

Myself only a gorgeous female

what if she is beautiful, but stupid?

there is more than looks to a girl man. you need a good heart after God, someone who is good with kids and one who gets along well with you.

 

[Quiet Storm]

A heart after God
my best friend/accountability partner
loving and kind (fruits of the spirit manifest in her)
someone who I'd want my daughter to grow up to be like

You know...I'm usually one to post a loooong list. I guess there are a lot of things, but for some reason those four things just about sum everything up at this particular time. *shrug*

 

[carine]

Um he would love the Lord and spend time in prayer . Play guitar and enjoy christian music um probably be dressed in jeans and walking boots be not too tall and not too fat. He would Love nature be romantic,kind affectionate probably not pentecostal probably brethren or baptist.He wouldnt be mean and would have a heart for the lost. And he would love me and accept my strengths and weaknesses! Oh and he wouldnt drink or smoke. Ahh one can dream!

 

[Living4Him03]

We sure talk a lot about what we want in another person, what about US? What are WE doing to become someone desirable? I'm sorry, but I see a lot of guys on these threads especially talking about what they want a female to be and how she has to be attractive and all, but I got news for ya, if YOU aren't becoming the man God wants you to be and if you aren't working to be attractive, then you have no room to talk! She's not going to fall out of the sky!

 

[Tink]

I would just like someone who strives continually to become like Jesus Christ. Everything else will fall into place.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[waterbear]

what if she is beautiful, but stupid?

there is more than looks to a girl man. you need a good heart after God, someone who is good with kids and one who gets along well with you.

But the thread is called "your perfect mate." Consider a candidate mate, that she can be made more attractive means that she isn't perfect

(or ideal, there are two notions of perfection I can think of -

1 - The best possible (time dependent)
2 - The best overall (time independent)

Whomever I marry will be perfect in the first sense, but not the second sense which is what I was considering in the original post).

It would appear from that my original post put a bit of emphasis on appearance. That's only because appearance and a few form dependent behaviors/mannerisms are the only deviations from perfection in my spouse that would not be present in myself. That is to say, I don't favor the notion of a spouse complementing you, rather both should be complete people striving for similar notions of perfection in themselves. Less need I think makes devotion (i.e. love) more choice-driven, and more significant.

I actually place a larger emphasis on commonality in values than appearance, but that certainly isn't evident from my original post.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I would just like someone who strives continually to become like Jesus Christ. Everything else will fall into place.

In Christ,
Tink

YOu hit the nail right on the head with that one.

He has to be compasionate
Caring
Family man
Good sense of humour
Humility
Able to pick up and leave everything behind to do God's calling
Good looks (hey Im allowed to be attracted to him)
High sex drive... once we are married of course (but not a perv... good thinking)
Leader of our house... in a Biblical marriage... all these things

Uhhh... yah I guess the biggest one is that he strives to be more like Jesus and wants to know Him more.. everything will fall into place.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I would just like someone who strives continually to become like Jesus Christ. Everything else will fall into place.

In Christ,
Tink

While a Christlike heart and continually growing in intimacy with God are certainly THE most important qualities to look for in a spouse... I disagree completely that they are everything, or that it is simply that easy. Two people need much more than a common bond in Christ to be compatible. An extreme introvert and an extreme extrovert wouldn't understand one another very well, for example... nor would an extreme intellectual type and someone who despises discussing all things academic.

That said, my proverbial "list" would be as follows:

Christian with strong faith and character
servant's heart
introverted enough to relate to me
very intellectual/academic
physically attractive to me (meaning I could care less if other people think he's cute, so long as I do)
virgin (ideally the less experienced the better, so since this is a total ideal list, let's also add never kissed, just like meeee )
interested in theology and other abstract and/or theoretical subjects
supportive

 

[KeilCoppes]

interested in theology and other abstract and/or theoretical subjects

Wake up all you guys! Someone who enjoys thinking is a rare blessing!

 

[Tink]

While a Christlike heart and continually growing in intimacy with God are certainly THE most important qualities to look for in a spouse... I disagree completely that they are everything, or that it is simply that easy. Two people need much more than a common bond in Christ to be compatible. An extreme introvert and an extreme extrovert wouldn't understand one another very well, for example... nor would an extreme intellectual type and someone who despises discussing all things academic.

That said, my proverbial "list" would be as follows:

Christian with strong faith and character
servant's heart
introverted enough to relate to me
very intellectual/academic
physically attractive to me (meaning I could care less if other people think he's cute, so long as I do)
virgin (ideally the less experienced the better, so since this is a total ideal list, let's also add never kissed, just like meeee )
interested in theology and other abstract and/or theoretical subjects
supportive

I believe that my post should have read...."everything else will fall into place, if it be God's will." Sorry.

Now that I have clarified that, I hope you can see what I'm saying.

In Christ,
Tink