Yes, I am married.

[charligirl]

I have received a direct PM asking me why I sometimes post in this forum even though I am married. I thought I would answer this publically incase anyone else was wondering the same thing.

This forum is called Singles ministry, I read the 'please read before posting' sticky before I first posted here, this says, The Singles Forum at CF is a forum of support for Single Christians and Christians with the gift of celibacy. My understanding of that is that this is a forum for the support of and ministry for single christians. So if I have a heart to support single christians, then this would be a pretty good place to post.

It does not suggest that only single people can offer advice or post in this forum, but rather it is the appropriate place for single people to make friends, hang out and get advice.

Until recently I was single for many years, in fact I was celibate and didn't date anyone for 10 years until I met my husband last year, I know what it's like to be happy and single and to struggle with being single. I have now reached a different season in my life but that doesn't stop me understanding and wanting to offer support to people with questions that I myself once asked.

I'm very sorry if I misunderstood the rules, can I suggest that if this forum is for support to singles only FROM singles then that is made clear.

 

[wvmtnkid]

charligirl-

The Singles forum is open to anyone who would like to post here. There is no rule that states a married person can not post in the Single's forum. I for one welcome your input as I have found it very helpful and encouraging. Please, do not feel like you can not post here.

 

[GarethS]

I have received a direct PM asking me why I sometimes post in this forum even though I am married. I thought I would answer this publically incase anyone else was wondering the same thing.

This forum is called Singles ministry, I read the 'please read before posting' sticky before I first posted here, this says, The Singles Forum at CF is a forum of support for Single Christians and Christians with the gift of celibacy. My understanding of that is that this is a forum for the support of and ministry for single christians. So if I have a heart to support single christians, then this would be a pretty good place to post.

It does not suggest that only single people can offer advice or post in this forum, but rather it is the appropriate place for single people to make friends, hang out and get advice.

Until recently I was single for many years, in fact I was celibate and didn't date anyone for 10 years until I met my husband last year, I know what it's like to be happy and single and to struggle with being single. I have now reached a different season in my life but that doesn't stop me understanding and wanting to offer support to people with questions that I myself once asked.

I'm very sorry if I misunderstood the rules, can I suggest that if this forum is for support to singles only FROM singles then that is made clear.

Don't worry about certain people Charligirl, don't stop posting in here just because someone tells you to... I like reading what everyone has to say.

 

[TriptychR]

I think the problem might just be a residue of resentment towards married people. Sometimes we can get a little jealous and think, "These people have been lucky/blessed enough to find someone and they think that means they know all there is on how to help us?" And, to tell the truth, there have been some married/dating people who show up every now and then who actually do seem to have that mindset. But that doesn't mean we should ignore everyone outright who isn't single.

I thought there was a sort of "unwritten rule" that this was a singles only forum, much like the gendered forums are only for men and women respectively. But I think I was wrong.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Thread closed. Again, there is no hard rule about married folks posting in the Singles forum. If you are concerned about this, please PM on of the mods and we will address your concerns.