Yay me!

[HopeFaithLove4u]

Altho, if I were his current GF (who is moving in with him soon), I wouldn't want all the furniture my SO had with his ex-wife.

I know, it's funny, because it definitely was/is a reminder of when the ex & I bought this table, couch, etc. But, it's been almost five years now, so the reminders were down to almost forgetting and now I have five years of new reminders of when my daughter broke this and that.

Also my ex moved in with his gf 3 months after I decided to quit going to counseling with him and told him the divorce was going to go thru. (we were STILL MARRIED when he moved in with her....talk about being needy! )

 

[ido]

I know, it's funny, because it definitely was/is a reminder of when the ex & I bought this table, couch, etc. But, it's been almost five years now, so the reminders were down to almost forgetting and now I have five years of new reminders of when my daughter broke this and that.

Also my ex moved in with his gf 3 months after I decided to quit going to counseling with him and told him the divorce was going to go thru. (we were STILL MARRIED when he moved in with her....talk about being needy! )

*bites tongue* I'll be good and won't give any more opinions about my ex. LOL

I will say this tho - the only reason I even have the opinions I have is b/c his lifestyle/choices influence our children. 'Nuff said.

 

[GritsnGrace]

*bites tongue* I'll be good and won't give any more opinions about my ex. LOL

I will say this tho - the only reason I even have the opinions I have is b/c his lifestyle/choices influence our children. 'Nuff said.

I know what you mean. Fortunetly, my ex lives in Nebraska, and my daughter doesn't even like to talk to him. Mainly because of his 'choices'

 

[jcj3803]

Wasn't it sad splitting everything up during the divorce?!

Truthfully? No.

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

Truthfully? No.

Awww, guys prolly don't get as emotional as, we women do.....OR I'm just a 'sap' and cry at everything!

 

[jcj3803]

Awww, guys prolly don't get as emotional as, we women do.....OR I'm just a 'sap' and cry at everything!

Ummmm, I think I saw it as just "stuff". No sentimental value. Now if she had tried to take the dog...

 

[GritsnGrace]

Awww, guys prolly don't get as emotional as, we women do.....OR I'm just a 'sap' and cry at everything!

I didn't have to worry about any of that. Most everything I had, I had before we got married. I was divorced with a 3 y/o. He took the very little he brought into the house with him when he left.

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

I didn't have to worry about any of that. Most everything I had, I had before we got married. I was divorced with a 3 y/o. He took the very little he brought into the house with him when he left.

Oh, my ex and I bought EVERYTHING together. So, everything that I have in my house, my ex and I bought.

But, when I ever get serious with someone again.....all the furniture will be sold (except a few pieces that I really like) and I will buy new stuff with my new SO. But, for now, it's fine.....and it's very familiar and 'homey' for the little one.

 

[ido]

Ummmm, I think I saw it as just "stuff". No sentimental value. Now if she had tried to take the dog...

 

[ido]

Oh, my ex and I bought EVERYTHING together. So, everything that I have in my house, my ex and I bought.

But, when I ever get serious with someone again.....all the furniture will be sold (except a few pieces that I really like) and I will buy new stuff with my new SO. But, for now, it's fine.....and it's very familiar and 'homey' for the little one.

I can totally understand where you are coming from. In my case, our house stopped feeling like "home" several months before we actually separated.

I did take some things to make our new home "familiar" for the boys - which I think is really important when their little lives are being emotionally (and often physically) upheaved by separation/divorce. I'm glad you were able to give your daughter that familiarity, HFL.