Wrong of my friends to do?

[HolyOne87]

Do you feel its wrong that your friends say they wont treat you any differently when you tell them something, then they do treat you differently?

I am having that problem now. My "friends" dont treat me the same anymore, like they once use to. I told them I am an SIer (luckily I havent done that in a week), and then told them I am going to get help. They seemed happy about it. I figured after that point things would change and turn around for me. Well, they didnt seem like they did.

My friends use to wait for me after class so we would all walk out together..they dont do that anymore. They use to always talk to me and I always use to know everything that was going on..now they dont. They use to text me a lot, just to talk...now they dont.

I find this very hurtful. How do they expect me to change when I do not have their support? They say they do..but they are treating me like an outcast...its like High School all over again.

Do you feel its wrong that they are doing this to me?
Any words and advice will be greatly appreciated.

**this was also posted in the Depression forum**

 

[LazeyWinde]

*Hugs HolyOne*
I don't even want to think about how my offline friends would react if I told them I'm a self harmer, though I see them so rarely...
But your friends really should be more supportive. They otta realize that you were a self harmer before you told them and that you're still the same person. People can be so ignorant. I hope your friends start being more supportive soon.

 

[cinnabunch]

I think you should tell them how they are behaving differently and that it hurts you.

cindy

 

[angelkiss]

After being in that situation, and sometimes still find myself dealing with it, I confront them and let them know that just because I have been honest about my feelings and my life, doesn't mean that I am any less of a person than before they knew the buried truth.
I would much rather be open and honest than to keep the "true me" hid. Although it is painful that people just don't want to accept it, I have finally decided that if they accept me for ME that's great......if they don't, then their are others out there who WILL accept me unconditionally.

I know it hurts your feelings but I wouldn't fret. It's better to have 1 TRUE friend than to have 10 friends that can't accept the truth.
Praying for you,
's and es!!

 

[HolyOne87]

good points.
I recently told them how i felt.
So far they all are getting back to their normal habits (talking to me more and stuff)..except one.
This one girl feels I have to rebuild the friendship again..this is mainly because I didnt tell her right away about anything. I mean, i had my reasons..She isnt my super closest friend either.
I opened up to my best friend first b/c she's been through it and plus she has KNOWN me the longest.
That one friend who wants me to build the friendship knew me for a while (a year to be exact), but doesnt KNOW me that well. She only sees me as that super holy girl that is always so good and nice. Other than that, I dont feel she knows much more about me.
Hopefully things start turning around now. I'll keep you updated.

 

[chloeobrien]

Good luck with it all... my living friends... do the same to me. Since they've found out... but I've noticed not all frineds act that way. I have one that I told and she's there and she listens and doesn't try to hide sharps from me, or ask me what I am going to do if I have something sharp in my hand, she trusts that I won't do anything when she is around, and I respect that and I don't do anything when I am around her. She has helped me through a lot, this and she helps me with the rape situation I've been coping with, and she is an amazing friend. I wish you the best of luck with your friends!