Would you marry your partner if...

[GHCharlie]

1.) You found out he/she was sterile?
Yes there is always adoption.

2.) You found out he/she was bisexual?
No it is clearly against God's commands

3.) You found out he/she had AIDS?
I am not sure about this one.

Let me add a couple more cases.

4.) You found out that he/she was born intersexed and geneticaly are the same sex as you but physically the oposite sex?

5.) You found out that he/she was born intersexed and used to be physically the same sex as you but with surgery got their physical appearance of their sex to match their genetic make up ?

In both cases I am not talking about Transexuals, that is a whole nother can of worms. I am talking of those born with say XX sex chromosones and have the physical appearance of a male (male plumbing) or XY sex chromosones but born with female plumbing.

 

[fieldmouse3]

1. Absolutely. I wouldn't want anyone to not marry me if I were sterile.
2. No. It goes against what God wants.
3. I don't know...probably not because I'd rather not get AIDS myself. Still...I WOULD marry someone if they had cancer or something else that COULDN'T kill me, too, so I don't know...

 

[fieldmouse3]

4) Probably not
5) same answer

 

[GHCharlie]

4) Probably not
5) same answer

So you would probably not marry a guy if he told you that even though he was born with the outer appearance of a male yet has the sex chromosones of a female (XX instead of XY). But if he just left it at that he is sterile and not explain why you would marry him?

 

[Blank123]

Would you marry your partner if...

1.) You found out he/she was sterile?

2.) You found out he/she was bisexual?

3.) You found out he/she had AIDS?

What would you do if you found out?

1. yes, like the others have said there is always adoption
2. Nope, if he was Bi, that to me would be unequally yoking myself with him
3. Nope. and not just because I would be worried about getting AIDS myself, but what if I were to get pregnant? there would be a chance the baby could be born with HIV or AIDS, and I couldn't do that to my child.

 

[waterbear]

Would you marry your partner if...

1.) You found out he/she was sterile?

2.) You found out he/she was bisexual?

3.) You found out he/she had AIDS?

What would you do if you found out?

1 - Yes.
2 - Yes. I would only consider a virgin anyway, so it isn't as if the person has really done anything offensive.
3 - No. While I can conceive of marriage without sex, I don't believe in re-marriage. I'd rather not spend most of my life without a spouse to share it with.

 

[Cjwinnit]

A question, what if it was just something like Hep A or B? Something that can go away and the partner can vaccinate themselves against it? I know fore sure I wouldnt have a problem with this kind of virus.

If it wasn't going to significantly shorten my life and our children could be born without it (i.e. if it can't cross the placental wall) then I wouldn't mind.

 

[rockwell]

2 - Yes. I would only consider a virgin anyway, so it isn't as if the person has really done anything offensive.

and what's the chance of finding a virgin bisexual? 1 in a billion?
Very unlikely i must say...

 

[waterbear]

and what's the chance of finding a virgin bisexual? 1 in a billion?
Very unlikely i must say...

I've met a bisexual who says she's virgin strangely enough. That said, non-religuous virgins are especially rare.

 

[fishstix]

Yes, it is discriminating against someone with an incurable disease if they can't

Some places do require testing for STDs before a marriage licence is issued though...

Many people do everyday. If my husbands life was going to be cut short I'd want mine to be too. I could not and would not want to live without him. So if he was going to die due to AIDS I'd actually want to go too. The drugs for helping those with AIDS have come a long way and many people live for many years after contracting the disease. If the man I love had a couple of decades or several years left then I'd want to spend them with him. If he had only a year or a few months or even just one day left, I'd want to spend it with him. And I'd still want to spend that time with him even if that meant I risked getting what he has through trusting my life to a condom.

Many people do, and many people end up with pregnancy or disease when something goes wrong. Condoms aren't 100% effective, even when used properly. What do you think it would be like from the other side of the coin though? What if you were the one with AIDS? Would you want his life cut short just because yours was going to be? Would you knowingly risk his life so that you could spend the last few years or decades of your life married to him? Even if he said something like what you have said here? Would you trust his life to a condom? If you had found out that you had AIDS shortly before your wedding, what would you have done then?

4.) You found out that he/she was born intersexed and geneticaly are the same sex as you but physically the oposite sex?

I guess I would consider this similar to the sterility case, as I assume that would be the main physical issue. So yeah, that would be ok with me.

5.) You found out that he/she was born intersexed and used to be physically the same sex as you but with surgery got their physical appearance of their sex to match their genetic make up ?

For that one I think it would depend on when and why the surgery was done. If the surgery was done when they were young and they had grown up in their current state then I wouldn't have a problem with it. But if the surgery was done when the person was in their teens or later then it would start to have a transsexual kind of feel to me, which I would be uncomfortable with.

 

[LiberatedChick]

Many people do, and many people end up with pregnancy or disease when something goes wrong. Condoms aren't 100% effective, even when used properly.

Nothing is 100% effective even when used properly.

What do you think it would be like from the other side of the coin though? What if you were the one with AIDS? Would you want his life cut short just because yours was going to be? Would you knowingly risk his life so that you could spend the last few years or decades of your life married to him?

I would want whatever he wanted. It would be his decision.

If you had found out that you had AIDS shortly before your wedding, what would you have done then?

Well that would have been too late.

Even if he said something like what you have said here? Would you trust his life to a condom?

He wouldn't need to if he didn't want to. As I said before, which you have completely ignored, is that sex isn't the be all and end all. There are other ways to be intimate in a relationship without having sex. I would have still married him if he had AIDS and I believe he would have still married me if it were the other way around. As I said before, which you have chosen to ignore, if it were the case that one of us had AIDS then we would be intimate in other ways unless we both made the decision to have sex.

 

[horuhe00]

1.) You found out he/she was sterile?

2.) You found out he/she was bisexual?

3.) You found out he/she had AIDS?

1.) If she was sterile, it'd be a bit of a downer, but I would still marry because I myself am adopted.

2.) If she told me that she was bisexual, that would turn on a warning bell in my head (as it happened) because that's just not right. Even though every guy's fantasy is to be with 2 women, I just couldn't handle it. It's bad enough about worrying over other guys trying to woo her away...

3.) If she had AIDS, I wouldn't marry her. Even if she told me the day before we married. ESPECIALY if she only told me the day before we married. It would break my heart but I'm not going to marry someone that has the potential to kill me and is already going to die.

 

[TommyDude]

1) if she coulden't have children, yes i would marry her still, that's no reason not to marry someone plus who knows, God could have some other plan that involves adoption or whatever
2) if she way Bi, MABYE depending on the situation, if she was just BI and commited to me and no one else i would gladly, if she was fooling around i woulden't but i woulden't marry a STRAIGHT person if they were fooling around either. just because someone is BI doesn't mean they have to have bad morals and fool around
3) if she had aids, NO
just because i've seen people die of this and theres no way i'd risk doing anything to contract it. i want someone who i can grow old with, TOGETHER and ALIVE

 

[fishstix]

Nothing is 100% effective even when used properly.


I would want whatever he wanted. It would be his decision.


Well that would have been too late.


He wouldn't need to if he didn't want to. As I said before, which you have completely ignored, is that sex isn't the be all and end all. There are other ways to be intimate in a relationship without having sex. I would have still married him if he had AIDS and I believe he would have still married me if it were the other way around. As I said before, which you have chosen to ignore, if it were the case that one of us had AIDS then we would be intimate in other ways unless we both made the decision to have sex.

I haven't ignored it, I said earlier that sex is supposed to be a part of marriage and I didn't think it would be healthy to marry someone who one wouldn't be actually having sex with. In that hypothetical situation, I personally wouldn't risk my loved one's life by potentially giving them AIDS, even if they insisted that it was ok with them. And thus I wouldn't marry them at all and would stay single myself. I'd still love them and be close friends with them but I would not marry them because I would not want to risk killing them. After all, a married couple may finally decide to have sex because both of them want it so bad and since they are married there is really nothing stopping them. And if that happened and my spouse got AIDS, I would forever regret that. But if you feel differently, ok.

 

[JillLars]

3.) If she had AIDS, I wouldn't marry her. Even if she told me the day before we married. ESPECIALY if she only told me the day before we married. It would break my heart but I'm not going to marry someone that has the potential to kill me and is already going to die.

3) if she had aids, NO
just because i've seen people die of this and theres no way i'd risk doing anything to contract it. i want someone who i can grow old with, TOGETHER and ALIVE

Ok, I just wanted to point something out. A couple of people have expressed that they wouldn't marry someone who was going to die sooner than old age. Hate to break it to you, but we can't decide when we die and when we promise "to death do us part" it doesn't neccessarily mean till old age. What if you find out your future spouse has cancer before the wedding? Would you call it off just because he/she is going to die.

I'm not saying you should marry someone who has aids, I'm just saying that not marrying them because they are going to die is not a very logical reason (given the vows we promise one another during a Christian marriage ceremony).

 

[Echoes Peak]

Would you marry your partner if...


2.) You found out he/she was bisexual?


What would you do if you found out?

Can I get clarification on this question? Are they bisexual and practicing? Are they bisexual and non-practicing? Do they think be bisexual is a good/bad thing?


Seem like a lot of factors go into that one.

 

[horuhe00]

Can I get clarification on this question? Are they bisexual and practicing? Are they bisexual and non-practicing? Do they think be bisexual is a good/bad thing?


Seem like a lot of factors go into that one.

Bisexual and non-practicing, or has practiced, or might practice. I leave it all to you guys to express yourselves.

 

[Echoes Peak]

Bisexual and non-practicing, or has practiced, or might practice. I leave it all to you guys to express yourselves.

Crafty aren't you.

 

[Godsgirl481]

1/ Maybe not. As selfish as it is, I would want us to have a litter of kids.

2/ Yes, If she was commited to loving me and she wouldn't cheat on me. It would not be an issue then.

3/ No.

I find the fact that you wouldn't marry her cause she couldn't have kids so mean. I can't have kids because I was sexually abused when i was really little and there was too much damage. But I want to get married one day...and adopt beautiful children that God created that don't have homes

 

[horuhe00]

Crafty aren't you.

Muahahahaha!!!