Would you date a Christian that doesn't go to church?

[ThisIsMe123]

This recent thread about Christians dating/marrying non-Christians spun off into men attending church, although they are Christian, less than women. Statistically it was shown that women attend church than men.

That said, and this is a question geared towards more women than men (due to obvious reasons), as a woman...would you date a Christian that doesn't attend church...even though you do?

Men...would you do the same...would you care if your future Christian spouse wasn't a chruch-goer?

A friend of mine, says he's a Christian, but you get the same response, "You don't need to a building to go into to be Christian."

And...I bet there are tons of men and women that honestly believe this.

 

[mukk_in]

Yes .

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

Nope, but then again I wouldnt have dated non-catholic Christian either...
(The exception wouldve been a Eastern Orthodox girl)

 

[DawnStar]

Yes

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

if one would refuse to gather with the saints I would question their profession of faith.

 

[Sam91]

No. I would want him to be able to be a spiritual leader. He can't do that if he isn't showing commitment to God.

 

[Netgear]

Dating someone who doesnt go to church is an opportunity to bring another lost sheep home to Christ.

 

[redblue22]

Depends on her reason for not going.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Yes .

Okay, if so then why?

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Yes

Okay, if so then why?

 

[ThisIsMe123]

if one would refuse to gather with the saints I would question their profession of faith.

People can still have their faith...because one doesn't need to enter a structure or building to profess it.

 

[DawnStar]

Okay, if so then why?

Because I do not go to church either. Having been to many churches, I have found better people outside of church.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Because I do not go to church either. Having been to many churches, I have found better people outside of church.

Yeah, I've heard of people...even in the singles ministries...they found people there to be a bit socially awkward, which is a turn off to some...esp. the women (if it's men approaching them). Options are limited in church.

 

[mukk_in]

Okay, if so then why?

Sometimes it may be difficult to find a suitable church. I live in an area where the language is foreign to me. Although, there are translators its still difficult to follow. There may be others in similar situations. Online fellowship, may not be real to many, works out in such cases. There could be Christian women in similar circumstances. Peace in Christ.

 

[princesstatyanna]

Well I would want to date someone who I can go to church with

 

[Applekrate]

This recent thread about Christians dating/marrying non-Christians spun off into men attending church, although they are Christian, less than women. Statistically it was shown that women attend church than men.

That said, and this is a question geared towards more women than men (due to obvious reasons), as a woman...would you date a Christian that doesn't attend church...even though you do?

Men...would you do the same...would you care if your future Christian spouse wasn't a chruch-goer?

A friend of mine, says he's a Christian, but you get the same response, "You don't need to a building to go into to be Christian."

And...I bet there are tons of men and women that honestly believe this.

to answer and gave my opinion as a man-
You ask - "would you care if your future Christian spouse wasn't a chruch-goer?"

answer- yes and very much so. Not only attending a healthy Bible believing church is important, membership in a church is important. We are called to be accountable and church membership shows that a believer it, at least, trying to do what is pleasing to the Lord.
Now, if I was to meet a gal who claimed to be a follower or Christ ( Christian ) and did not attend and have membership in a healthy church, this would become a main subject of discussion as to why. There may be valid reasons that are temporary but, do not see any valid reason why a gal calling herself a Christian would not belong to and be active serving in her church.
Hoping my answer helped with with what you are looking for.
For a long time, I did not attend church every Sunday and did not become a member. At those times, I was also not a committed Christian man. I was a Christian in name only. As a result, I sinned more often and did not grow my faith. I stayed a baby Christian for far too long.
As my faith grew, I realized how wrong I was and how deep I was lacking in my faith. Since then, I have attended church regularly, learned to serve and to attend more Bible studies, etc Church membership is very important and something all of us should be doing or striving to do. It is pleasing to the Lord.

 

[Applekrate]

we are not saved by works but we are saved to do works. Being a member of a healthy church give many more opportunities to serve. I regret not becoming a church member earlier in my life and strongly encourage other believers here to not only attend church each week but, become a member! support /commit to a good church and get involved! Serve your church, grow your faith, attend Bible studies as many times a week as you can. Important.
I belong to one church but, attend other churches as well different times/days of the week for serving and Bible studies because my church does not offer as many ways to do so.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

to answer and gave my opinion as a man-
You ask - "would you care if your future Christian spouse wasn't a chruch-goer?"

answer- yes and very much so. Not only attending a healthy Bible believing church is important, membership in a church is important. We are called to be accountable and church membership shows that a believer it, at least, trying to do what is pleasing to the Lord.
Now, if I was to meet a gal who claimed to be a follower or Christ ( Christian ) and did not attend and have membership in a healthy church, this would become a main subject of discussion as to why. There may be valid reasons that are temporary but, do not see any valid reason why a gal calling herself a Christian would not belong to and be active serving in her church.
Hoping my answer helped with with what you are looking for.
For a long time, I did not attend church every Sunday and did not become a member. At those times, I was also not a committed Christian man. I was a Christian in name only. As a result, I sinned more often and did not grow my faith. I stayed a baby Christian for far too long.
As my faith grew, I realized how wrong I was and how deep I was lacking in my faith. Since then, I have attended church regularly, learned to serve and to attend more Bible studies, etc Church membership is very important and something all of us should be doing or striving to do. It is pleasing to the Lord.

I think you would have to take it on a case-by-case basis. A lot of people had bad experiences with churches, which led them to not going. I know someone that was a police officers and had put in jail clergy-types.

I know of old-school Catholics that stopped going to church when the Vatican II made its debut in the (60s?) I think.

But it's typically some bad experience they had with church members that escalated to that point of not going anymore.

 

[Soul-searching]

This recent thread about Christians dating/marrying non-Christians spun off into men attending church, although they are Christian, less than women. Statistically it was shown that women attend church than men.

That said, and this is a question geared towards more women than men (due to obvious reasons), as a woman...would you date a Christian that doesn't attend church...even though you do?

Men...would you do the same...would you care if your future Christian spouse wasn't a chruch-goer?

A friend of mine, says he's a Christian, but you get the same response, "You don't need to a building to go into to be Christian."

And...I bet there are tons of men and women that honestly believe this.

For me it would not matter if my spouse was not going to church, i don´t go to church either. But i would be happy and support whatever my spouse would choose as long as he would do the same for me.

 

[Applekrate]

I think you would have to take it on a case-by-case basis. A lot of people had bad experiences with churches, which led them to not going. I know someone that was a police officers and had put in jail clergy-types.

I know of old-school Catholics that stopped going to church when the Vatican II made its debut in the (60s?) I think.

But it's typically some bad experience they had with church members that escalated to that point of not going anymore.

No, I would not buy that answer as we all have had bad experiences at church ( including myself ). Having a bad experience is not an adequate excuse to not attend and belong ( membership ) to a healthy, Bible believing church. If a gal is a real Christian, not just a said Christian, she will actively seek and join a Bible believing church and be involved in it.
If a Christian is on fire for the Lord, as we should be, then one can tell right away! She wil be bringing up the subject within minutes ( if not in the first minute ) because it is important to her ( as it is for me ).
The church I am a member of right now is in a transition and not doing well. It is not the best church but, it is the best in the area for now and I support it with membership, attendance and serving. But, I also attend other churches too.