Would you be mad? Advice!?

[WeirdFrizzball67]

Well, my mom is great & all, but sometimes she can get in really bad moods and yell a lot. I'm guessing some it has to do with her going through menopause. She's a great mom, she can just be very moody & get mad easily and that kinda stuff. But anyways, sometimes my mom can be kinda rude to my best friend, and she doesnt act like she likes my friend that much. The worst time probly was the most recent one (i think). Well my mom is pretty paranoid about keeping the house clean for people so it doesnt look "trashy" or w/e. And my friend accidently dropped windex on the table at my house, so she wiped it up w/ a paper towel. so then she goes, 'i dont wanna waste the windex'(that was on the paper towel), so bein weird like she is, she starts wipin the microwave w/ the paper towel, and my mom comes in. and i was just jokin around and i was like "my house not clean enough for you?" and she goes "no, thats my house" and my mom thought my friend said somethin about our house not bein clean enough or somethin and she got soo mad, she started yelling at my friend. and i told my mom what really happened later, and she still didnt seem to believe, and she still seems to be a bit mad about it. she might believe me now, but i dunno. but anywayz, now my best friend is like scared of my mom. and just today, when my other friend (who's never met my mom) was gettin a ride home w/ me from band, and we thought my mom was pickin me up. and she says somethin about bein scared becuz ___(my best friend) said that my mom was mean. i felt...i dunno if i was mad at her, but angry or somethin when she said that. i was really surprised that my best friend would tell my other friends that my mom is mean? i dont know if im feeling mad at my best friend for saying that to someone else, or just angry that my best friend & my mom don't "get along" i dunno if thats the right words, but... ya i just wanted some advice maybe and to know if you think i should ask my best friend about it, or just leave it alone, or if you guys think you would be mad at your best friend if that happened. sorry if im not clear on the whole story, tell me if i need to be more clear, or if u have any questions. i'd really like some advice, comments, or anything would really help. thanks for listening!

~Kelly
(I posted this same kinda thing on another board, but I wanted to see different opinions. Just lettin u know in case u thought u already read this!)

 

[Picture.Of.Obedience]

your mom sounds like my mom. she can be so sweet and then she can be so mean. my mom is bad though. when my (now husband) and i were dating she would get mad and be screaming at me in front of him and my friends. she would go off about him to me in front of him like he wasnt there, etc.....
he talked about my mom and rude she was to thers, i didnt care though cuz it was true and i think she needed an attitude check anyways,
sorry i dont know if i answered your question or anything, i can just relate to your post.

p.s. dont be mad at your friend

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I think you have a right to be a little bit irritated over the entire thing, but I think you need to understand where your mom's coming from. She's going through "The Change" and from what I've witnessed with my mom and others, is that their hormones are seriously out of wack--more so than your monthly PMS. They deal with those hot sweats and I noticed that they become even depressed.

I'd let your friend now that your mom's going through a bit of a time now and that she's usually not so cranky. I'd also let your mom know that what's going on and her attitude and it's affects on everyone. I think sometimes they don't even realize what kind of effect they have on others.

 

[WeirdFrizzball67]

thanks for all ur advice, it really did help. yeah, i've talked to my mom about it before, but i think i could've had a bit less attitude when i did, if u know what i mean. my mom thinks my best friend can tend to be controlling, but she also said that about my last best friend. i think thats mostly my fault, because i let it happen, i sometimes let people control me, or w/e. but i dont think my best friend now is that controlling, i might let her sometimes tho, i dunno. and i've also told my best friend about what my mom is going through. im just really surprised that my best friend would actually say that my mom was mean. i mean i would think that if they were talkin about my mom she might've said somethin about how she yells at her sometimes, but i wouldnt have expected her to say she was mean. i mean i feel where she's comin from, its just...i dunno, "mean" is such a strong word it seems like. i mean, my mom's not always mean, she just gets in those moods sometimes, ya know. well, i guess ill just have to let things happen. i was thinkin about talkin to my best friend about what she said, in case maybe she really didnt call her mean, she just said somethin about my mom. but i dunno, im not sure what im gonna do. just pray is all i can think of to do that will actually help and for sure wont make the situation work. im very confused, as u all can probably tell. thanx again guys!

~Kelly

 

[TheMainException]

Wow, jeese, menopause, such a bad time for a woman to go through...really stinks...well...pray for your mom...this may be harder on her than you know. Talk to your mom some more if you get the chance, put all anxieties behind you and go for it...and talk to your friend and see if you can't make her understand. Most of all, pray about it... God can do miracles with even the little stuff in your life.

 

[wayfaring man]

Greetings ,

Anger is like getting wet .

It's not so bad to get wet , as it is to stay wet !

[ This word came to me while I was doing a lot of hiking / backpacking . ]

And then there's this :

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath . <-----> Ephesians 4:26

Peace in The Beloved ,

wm

 

[D-Lisch]

I'd be mad if my mom was like that.. I'd have a serious talk about it with her.. because honestly, I wouldn't want my friends being there.. nor would I want to be there.

 

[WeirdFrizzball67]

i'm not sure what did it, but for some reason the last couple times my mom & my BFF have been together, it's been fine. i get nervous that my mom's gonna say somethin or be rude, but she hasnt been, she's actually been nice. it was probly all the praying that helped, and i think my mom has been takin her pills lately also. hopefully this keeps up. thanx again to all of u, u guys are awesome!

~Kelly

 

[desi]

You are not alone. My grandmother was hellish to my mother during her HS and college years. Your lot is one of suffering and self sacrifice to deal with such a woman. Hopefully she can be convinced to get drugs to deal with it but if not, do you best as a Godly child.