- Jun 5, 2005
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3 years ago a lady came to me in church and told me that she was uncomfortable with my husband. She told me that while he was talking to her he kept on looking down at her breast which made her feel very uncomfortable, she also told me that he has wondering eyes. A couple of months later she asked me if my husband was behaving himself and I said Yes and she said "well no he hasn't, I have had my eyes on him"
(this was said 3 years ago) Well 3 years ago me and my husband were having an argument and in that argument I blurted out what the lady at church had said and he said "Yuk, thats rediculous" he said I was crazy for believing in her. Since then for 3 years now my husband has held a grudge towards this lady. He won't be in her company at all.
I was visiting her the other day and we spoke about Alpha we were doing together and how much we enjoyed it but she said that my husband was always distant from her and that she said that she spoke to him and said that she really cares about him but my husband told me and said that she was lying and probably feeling guilty about what she said about me. I told the lady that my husband doesn't believe her because of how she saw him. I left her home after saying our goodbyes.
Half an hour later I get a call from our youth leader asking if we could meet up at church for a chat about my conversation with this lady. I also had to bring my husband and the lady and her husband were there.
The woman told the youth worker that she was sick of my husband ignoring her and not believing something good when she said something about him.
My husband said "I didn't like what you said about me 3 years ago, she said that she didn't say anything and she said if I did, then who told you. My husband didn't want to say it was me at first but then he had to.
He told her it was me and she tried to deny it and make me look like a liar and then she said that she did remember and can't believe thats the reason why my husband won't speak to her. He also said to her that "you carried on and told my wife that you were watching me and that I was continuing to stare at other women (breast, bottoms, the usual) and she was shocked and she said "yes I did, I thought Jacqui had a right to know" all the time she was looking at me.
I felt really embaressed because my husband had kept this grudge for 3 years.
She said sorry to my husband and said to him "do you forgive me" but my husband didn't and left it at that.
I feel really enbaressed now. I find it hard to face the lady and I was also upset that I told my husband about what another woman had said about him.
Would you of told your husband if another woman had said this about him?
It took me about 2 months to mention it to him about what she had said and then it only came out because I was upset with him.
Have I messed up the relationship even further now?
(this was said 3 years ago) Well 3 years ago me and my husband were having an argument and in that argument I blurted out what the lady at church had said and he said "Yuk, thats rediculous" he said I was crazy for believing in her. Since then for 3 years now my husband has held a grudge towards this lady. He won't be in her company at all.
I was visiting her the other day and we spoke about Alpha we were doing together and how much we enjoyed it but she said that my husband was always distant from her and that she said that she spoke to him and said that she really cares about him but my husband told me and said that she was lying and probably feeling guilty about what she said about me. I told the lady that my husband doesn't believe her because of how she saw him. I left her home after saying our goodbyes.
Half an hour later I get a call from our youth leader asking if we could meet up at church for a chat about my conversation with this lady. I also had to bring my husband and the lady and her husband were there.
The woman told the youth worker that she was sick of my husband ignoring her and not believing something good when she said something about him.
My husband said "I didn't like what you said about me 3 years ago, she said that she didn't say anything and she said if I did, then who told you. My husband didn't want to say it was me at first but then he had to.
He told her it was me and she tried to deny it and make me look like a liar and then she said that she did remember and can't believe thats the reason why my husband won't speak to her. He also said to her that "you carried on and told my wife that you were watching me and that I was continuing to stare at other women (breast, bottoms, the usual) and she was shocked and she said "yes I did, I thought Jacqui had a right to know" all the time she was looking at me.
I felt really embaressed because my husband had kept this grudge for 3 years.
She said sorry to my husband and said to him "do you forgive me" but my husband didn't and left it at that.
I feel really enbaressed now. I find it hard to face the lady and I was also upset that I told my husband about what another woman had said about him.
Would you of told your husband if another woman had said this about him?
It took me about 2 months to mention it to him about what she had said and then it only came out because I was upset with him.
Have I messed up the relationship even further now?