Would you be concerned?

[leothelioness]

Guys, would you be concerned if a potential girlfriend revealed to you that she had never been in a relationship before?

Would that affect how you felt about her and would it cause you to be concerned about her ability to have a relationship given her inexperience? In short, would you be turned off by it if you already liked her?

 

[SilkRainn]

I'd be more attracted to a girl if that was the case.

In high school I had a friend who would purposefully date home schooled girls for this reason.

Not all guys like it though. I think you will find answers all over the board with a question like this. Might as well ask men if they like blond or brunettes.

 

[Wookiee]

Everyone's gotta start somewhere. I don't see why it'd be a problem.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I'm not a guy....But I can see how one party in a relationship lacking experience could be an issue. I personally know somebody who is in a relationship with a girl with no experience, and it's a challenge for both of them.

Not saying it's a bad idea to date somebody with no experience, just that both should be prepared for those kinds of challenges, and ready to work through them. Learning to communicate, learning to compromise, etc. I think having one person in the relationship with experience would be better than both being inexperienced, but that's just me.

 

[Senator Cheese]

Guys, would you be concerned if a potential girlfriend revealed to you that she had never been in a relationship before?

Would that affect how you felt about her and would it cause you to be concerned about her ability to have a relationship given her inexperience? In short, would you be turned off by it if you already liked her?

In short: no.

In long: no, I wouldn't care at all. In contrast, I think most guys would feel even more appreciated if a girl that doesn't "date around the world" shows interest in them.

 

[iambren]

Depends on age--16 then no problem. At age 26 some red flags appear.

 

[Dark Winter]

I would wonder why she never dated. She might be a loner.

I might also suspect that she is playing games with the word.

 

[leothelioness]

I would wonder why she never dated. She might be a loner.

So nobody will love me because I'm not a social butterfly? I guess I'm doomed, then.

 

[dayhiker]

I guess I'd like to know the context of why she hadn't been out dating. My Canadian GF hadn't dated in 16 yrs. Well, after her husband died she focused on raising her kids. They are now raised and she so she became interested in dating. So I didn't have a problem with that. Ya, she is having to learn a bunch of things about dating and being a GF. But even tho I've been dating, I still had things to learn to be her BF.
I've heard teaching about its good to not be hanging around with the opposite sex while single. But I honestly think that isn't healthy. We life in a very complicated world with a lot of things happening with peoples lives, and if one has not experience dealing with change I suspect it will throw most people for a loop.

 

[1ofGodsChildren]

I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. A relationship should be first about friendship. One doesn't have to date to have friends. We are Christians and should abstain from sexual relationships. I don't see why it would be a problem to date someone who hasn't dated before. Friendship is key. All the other "experiences" shouldn't apply to us. We follow Christ and not the world.

 

[spr]

You should be proud of not having any experience. You wouldn't want to be involved with the kind of people that look for that sort of thing anyways.

 

[1ofGodsChildren]

You should be proud of not having any experience. You wouldn't want to be involved with the kind of people that look for that sort of thing anyways.

Amen! Totally agree with you!

 

[leothelioness]

You should be proud of not having any experience. You wouldn't want to be involved with the kind of people that look for that sort of thing anyways.

You mean dating? What's wrong with it or with those who look for it?

BTW, since posting that, I'm not longer inexperienced.

 

[spr]

The problem is life's focus needs to be God. When your dating your doing nothing more than looking for and thinking about what best suits you. People get your hopes up, you get other peoples hopes up, and most of the time the whole thing disintegrates because you were both conditioned to go out and go shopping for what you each think you need.

The truth is people don't have a clue what they need. God does. And if you serve him, and think about how you can minister to others, things have a way of falling together all on their own.