Before we got married, I discovered the passage that states not to be yoked to a nonbeliever. In my stubbornness, I married my now husband. However, lately, I feel a tug on my mind telling me to divorce. Our relationship isn’t doing well right now and I’ve been considering leaving on my own. However being forced my God doesn’t seem right. I have OCD as well.
I hope the following information is used by God to help you in your situation.
1. If both people in a marriage are Believers in Jesus when they enter a marriage they are bound by God to honor the marriage vows. If only one is a Believer, there is a problem right off the bat since the Believer was not to be marrying the un-Believer to begin with. The marriage is not sanctioned by God.
2. Once adultery has been committed within a marriage, the ‘spiritual right’ to a divorce is available. Divorce due to infidelity is not necessary but is a viable option. Adultery breaks the holy covenant of marriage and is the most grievous offensives within marriage.
3. How the two individuals within the marriage view marriage is crucial. If they did not enter marriage as a holy union, a covenant between the two of them and God, then the union is most likely legal instead of legal and spiritual. The concept of a covenant and the importance of a covenant are usually lost on this type of mindset. Therefore, their degree of accountability to God is affected. Those with more knowledge of God’s principals have a greater accountability to Him. Those with a personal relationship with Jesus have a greater accountability in life to His teachings via the Bible than a person who only knows about God and does not have a person relationship.
In the New Testament:
Marriage binding as long as life
Mark 10:2–9; Rom. 7:2, 3
Divorce allowed because of adultery
Matt. 5:27–32
Reconciliation encouraged
1 Cor. 7:10–17
Scriptures on the Issue
One must always remember when reading and studying the Bible on a matter that Scripture will prove Scripture and that a single verse can be misunderstood or misconstrued without understanding the Bible’s overall teaching on a topic.
With that in mind take a New Kings James Bible and review the following verses for yourself.
Marriage in I Corinthians 7:10-16
10Now to the married I command,
yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from
her husband. 11But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to
her husband. And a husband is not to divorce
his wife. 12But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such
cases. But God has called us to peace. 16For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save
your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save
your wife?[1]
Marriage and Divorce Deuteronomy 24:1-4
1“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts
it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, 2“when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s
wife, 3“
if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts
it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, 4“
then her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that
is an abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God is giving you
as an inheritance.
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Jesus on Marriage and Divorce Mark 10:2-12
2The Pharisees came and asked Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce
his wife?” testing Him. 3And He answered and said to them, “What did Moses command you?” 4They said, “Moses permitted
a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss
her.” 5And Jesus answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6“But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ 7‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9“Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” 10In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same
matter. 11So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12“And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
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Remarriage Romans 7:2,3
2For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to
her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of
her husband. 3So then if, while
her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
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Jesus on Remarriage Matthew 5:31,32 and Luke 16:18
31“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32“But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
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18“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from
her husband commits adultery.
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Unequally Yoked 2 Corinthians 6:14
14Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
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