Imagine viewing any physical interaction and exploration, such as kissing or sexual intercourse, as mere recreation between two or more people, in the same way people decide to eat an ice-cream for its taste or listen to music because it stimulates their curiosity; watch a movie because it entertains them and brings laughter, or take a hike in the mountains to relax their mind and body - to sum it up: it pleases the senses.
If this was the case, and if we detach sexuality from any notions of love and commitment, i.e. you don't need to limit sex to one person in order to be committed or demonstrate love, and if we don't consider the practical consequences of sex (procreation, STDs, etc.), would fornication be acceptable in the eyes of God?
I ask this to understand better why Christianity prohibits fornication.
Personally, I think that any sexual expression is to strengthen the bond of two people, provide intimacy and therefore should be strictly combined with the idea of love and one's "most important person", i.e. marriage.
However, many people, especially those who embrace ideas of open relationships and free love, are able to truly love one person while having sex with others. I am trying to understand their point of view, and I think the main attitude is to detach sex from love, i.e. the idea that having sex is nothing "special" in the context of love and spiritual development.
Talking about pleasure: there are many other things that bring pleasure and used to be dangerous, but thanks to civilization they are no more dangerous and go beyond their original functions. Traveling was dangerous and was mainly meant for connecting people, but now also serves to provide development and pleasure. Food was only about nutrition, but people have created chocolate, and other foods that bring pleasure. While they have been dangerous at a time (obesity, etc.), our civilization has made those things healthier.
From this point of view, would sex and kissing, if done danger-free (no STDs) and beyond its original function (procreation), be something good in the eyes of God?
Please see this question as an exercise to better understand and explain why we choose not to have casual sex.
If this was the case, and if we detach sexuality from any notions of love and commitment, i.e. you don't need to limit sex to one person in order to be committed or demonstrate love, and if we don't consider the practical consequences of sex (procreation, STDs, etc.), would fornication be acceptable in the eyes of God?
I ask this to understand better why Christianity prohibits fornication.
Personally, I think that any sexual expression is to strengthen the bond of two people, provide intimacy and therefore should be strictly combined with the idea of love and one's "most important person", i.e. marriage.
However, many people, especially those who embrace ideas of open relationships and free love, are able to truly love one person while having sex with others. I am trying to understand their point of view, and I think the main attitude is to detach sex from love, i.e. the idea that having sex is nothing "special" in the context of love and spiritual development.
Talking about pleasure: there are many other things that bring pleasure and used to be dangerous, but thanks to civilization they are no more dangerous and go beyond their original functions. Traveling was dangerous and was mainly meant for connecting people, but now also serves to provide development and pleasure. Food was only about nutrition, but people have created chocolate, and other foods that bring pleasure. While they have been dangerous at a time (obesity, etc.), our civilization has made those things healthier.
From this point of view, would sex and kissing, if done danger-free (no STDs) and beyond its original function (procreation), be something good in the eyes of God?
Please see this question as an exercise to better understand and explain why we choose not to have casual sex.