Worst senario possible...

[bluedragonfly73]

.Also, if your boyfriend just happens to not become your husband, a child raised by a single woman can develop HUGE behavioral problems when she (or especially he) reaches adolescence. QUOTE]

I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you there....I am a single mother of four..When I married my kids had no behavioral problems ,but occured in a two parent family...I beleive it has more on how you raise your kids.....

I will be praying for your decision I know its that the easiest of decisions for I want there at one time my senior year.. I had planned on giving up my baby for adoption but the more my son grew in me the more I feel in love and couldn't do it.... Me and my son have talked about it and you know what he told me.."Mom I'm so glad you didn't give me away I love this family and I love you" and he just clung on to me....My children are my heart. I have known some that have given them and it was the best for them...PRAYER is the KEY to it all.......but I agree the worrying can keep your period from coming..... but take a test be sure...Tell God your sorry and repent and have a long talk with boyfriend if your not you don't want to find yourself in this position again..Not an easy place to be....Prayers out to you....

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

are you a storng christian too?

No, I fall short in so many ways...but I don't plan to sin and then dismiss it by making excuses. That's the difference. It's what the Bible calls reaching the fork in the road - the straight and narrow or the wide path that leads to destruction. I'm certain you had ample opportunity to flee sexual immorality, but you fell prey to Satan's trap - that if you love someone enough it's okay with God if you have sex.

Everybody tries not to lie or sin, but it sitll happens, and sometimes you lie just not to hurt someones feelings.

A lie to keep from hurting someone's feelings is a little different than lying for your own benefit. And it doesn't seem, from what you posted, that you strived to not have sex. I get the impression that you planned it, which isn't "trying not to sin but it still happens."

YOu cant say you havetn done it.

You are absolutely right. In fact, I can't even say that I have never had pre-marital sex. I was sexually promiscuous for many years. It ruined my self-esteem and it robbed my future husband of the treasure of my purity. While I strive for purity now I can never get back those lost years where I gave it away so carelessly.

God views these things the same, so I dont htink I should be come down on that hard.

Yes He does, but you asked for advice and opinions and I gave mine. If the issue were something else like looking at porn or habitual stealing I would have the same things to say about those particular sins.

I know its wrong, but I still did it.

Ah, but alas, you knew it was wrong before. It's like the mentality, "it's easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission". So let me ask you this, if you aren't pregnant are you going to stop having sex with your boyfriend until marriage?

You can plan to lie. You can plan to do lots.

My point is, as Christians we shouldn't plan to sin and plan to repent later. We should be able to recognize sins like these before they sneak up on us. Me getting angry and a swear word flying out of my mouth is a sin that happens spur of the moment and I ask God to forgive me and then try and control my tongue. Sitting on the phone with my boyfriend plotting how we're going to get together and have sex is falling right into the sin trap. God had the door wide open for you to resist the temptation.

And mabye you have no clue what our relationship is. Everybody's is differnt, and I know I could never fall in love a second time.

Whether you're 17 or 70 you don't know that. I had a lady at my former church who was married to her husband for fifty years. He passed away a little over a year ago to cancer. She was so devestated, obviously. A few months back she met a man at work and you know what? God has blessed her with love a second time. A woman who thought she would never love again has indeed, been twice blessed in love. When I was seventeen I lost my virginity to the guy I had been with since I was thirteen. I just knew I would never anc could never love anyone ever again, but when it ended three years later I did love again.

 

[laura_killian]

just for reference...
we planned the next day we didn't want to do it again. We decided that even though we felt really close, that we should obey God and wiat until we are married b/c then we have nothign to feel bad about or anything. Just before we were reallly tempted and it was hard.

 

[Iggster]

Word of advise......Listen to your Sisters-in-Christ who are rebuking you out of love and are taking their time out of their day to respond to you because they care about you. Quit being so defensive and naive.

 

[PurpleBunny]

There is a difference between rebuking someone who is repentent and rebuking someone who is unrepentent. The OP certainly sounds repentent -- she did say that she and her boyfriend have stopped having pre-marital sex. Rebuking someone who already knows they have done wrong and has asked for forgiveness and HAS STOPPED COMMITTING THAT PARTICULAR SIN is worse than useless--it's harmful. Now's the time to give her some good ol' fashioned Gospel and assure her that her sin IS forgiven since she has repented, and to help and support her as she deals with the consequences (which still exist, of course).

Of course, if she hadn't repented then it'd be the time to lay down the Law and show her the error of her ways.

 

[Cherub8]

Laura, don't worry yourself to death over this; put the situation in God's hands. If you are pregnant, it's not the end of the world. You've repented and God has forgiven you. Now it's time to make the best of the situation you're in.

I'm actually more concerned about your boyfriend. What kind of a husband and father will he be? Anyway, he owes your parents a huge apology for what he has done. If he hasn't already done this, please insist that he does, regardless of whether or not you are pregnant. It will be a long road but he needs to earn back the trust.

Those are my thoughts.
My prayers are with you.

 

[laura_killian]

hahaha, me and my boyfriend are both in familes on ten. He's the oldest, im second youngest. I have no doubt his fmaily skills with be most excellent if we are faced with this and thanks for everybody who's been giving advice, it's very helpful to know that Im not alone in this.

 

[lisarn]

The sin has been committed and there is nothing she can do now except to be pure from this day forward. We have all sinned and come short of the glory of God. I am willing to bet that at sometime everyone of us have sinned intentionally at some point. I know I have. So lets encourage this girl to learn how to resist temptation and avoid temptation from this day forward and leave the past behind by focusing on Jesus Christ everyday. She needs our support right now regardless of whether she keeps the baby or gives the baby up for adoption...if there is a baby.

 

[bluedragonfly73]

Laura, Well I'm glad that ya'll have stopped you seem to be a very strong Christian even those slip at times its just what you do when you slip if you stay down or dust your self off repeant the way you did and go on....Don't beat yourself up over it..It happen you cant change it... So if you find yourself pregnant let the shock then more shock sink in then go to your boyfriend and parents.I found with out the love of my parents and family it would of been very far and knowing God was there and that he forgave me...And if your not let the relief sink in then let it stink in some more....Either way you keep your feet on the WORD GOD CAUSE HE WILL NOT FAIL YOU, EVEN IN THE WORSE OF TIMES HE WILL CARRY YOU!!!!!

 

[Singin4Him]

Laura why are you avoiding the comments and questions about you taking the test? It seems like to me you are in a way enjoying this attention this situation is giving you. PLEASE take the test so that you will know for sure, you may not even need this advice we're giving and the discussion should be directed in another direction.

 

[laura_killian]

I'm not trying to avoid the question of taking a test! I know I need to take one, but I was supposed to go to a clinic with my friend on saturday but then I figured out we can't anymore!! But tomorw for sure, it's just I dont wanna go alone b/c I live in a 'you know everybody's life stories' town b/c it's so small and I dont want word getting out incase nothign is wrong....but! Friday it is, I got a friend coming over and we can get it done, for sure Im super anxious to know whether or not I am b/c im scared! Im not seeking attention, but this is a good message bord to be up for other teens like me who could be in the situatoin and can be reading this, even if they arent having pregnatn scares

 

[bluedragonfly73]

To be honest I don't think your trying to avoid it.If you were you wouldn't have ask what everyone thought of your situation. We are all praying for you..If you could just let us all know so we can know what to pray when we pray for you and your bf...... Have you spoken to him yet??

 

[laura_killian]

I haevnt spoken to him yet, but I soo upset that I havent. but my relaly close friend said that until im sure then I shouldnt tell him, but now Im regretting not telling him but I havent seen him since ive really been thinking that I am (I thouhgt I was then i was like, no possble way, now i think i am again, you know) and I dont want to tell him over the phone...we live 40 minutes away from each other....but I feel bad, and I can only tell him to his face! so he deosnt know yet, but he knows somethings up...

 

[bluedragonfly73]

It will probably eat you up unitl you do talk to him..Yes you are the one that may be pregnant but it's something you two did together.. You should go through this together. I know it's not easy , but there is love between ya'll to and either way ya'll should both share in this. To pray about this together if you are then your going to go through it together and if your not you going to go through this together. If I was you I would tell him but that's me I'm not in your shoes it's always your call.... He may wonder why you didn't come to him so he could help you through this.. I don't know him so only you know how he may react.......Praying for you...

 

[laura_killian]

yeah I know I feel relaly upset with mysefl or not telling him sooner, but the feeling went away...like the frist two weeks after we did I felt it, but I was sure eevyrirl proably felt that...adn then it went away,a dn then the alst two weeks ive felt it, but havent seen him! so yeah, and I cant tell him unless its to his face:S ahhh. I feel horrible though! but im praying and I know God is with me...so I will face things with him strongly I hope!

 

[bluedragonfly73]

Well just keep us posted on how your doing and what you've decided. Just be strong and GOD WILL see you through this either way it goes....Can you talk to your parents about this?? IF you are how do you think they will handle this??

 

[ktosia]

Well, what did you think going to bed with a guy without protection? It's just amazing how irresponsible people can be. (I don't want to say stupid).
Sorry for saying that but it's true.

 

[Singin4Him]

Laura, please take your time when posting it's hard to understand what you're saying because there are so many typos.

How did the visit go? Do you have the results yet?

 

[lisarn]

Laura,
How did your doctor visit go? Have you found out anything yet?

 

[bluedragonfly73]

Laura,

Just know where all still praying for you.....Please let us know when you find out so we can know what to pray for....