Work, eat, sleep, repeat

[Angeldove97]

How do all you handle this? Do you have any tips for how to keep life under control? For anyone who has commute time, how do you handle long term travel without extreme stress?

Hubby and I have been married for 4 years now and have been together for 10 years Life really does seem like this a lot of the time though: wake up, work, come home, have dinner, clean/prep for the next day, go to sleep. Don't feel bad that your marriage is like this - marriage is real life and this is a pretty normal pattern for couples to have.

The goal for hubby and I is to make sure that there are times where this normal pattern is changed up. Here are some ways we are working on that:

1) We decided to move closer to our jobs - we just moved again so he will have about a 10-15 minute commute and I will have about a 20-30 minute commute now. Moving is not the easiest choice to make, but we were not happy with "wasting" time commuting to our jobs. We save a lot of time now (my commute use to be one hour or more alone) and at least $100 in toll fare too.

2) We try to hang out with friends one evening a week at least - knowing that it is okay to take a break on chores and work-related tasks. Our group includes 3 couples and a few single friends - we love getting together to play board games and order a pizza.

3) Hubby works on Saturdays, so I try to get as many of the chores completed as I can while he's gone for 8 hours. That will also include our weekly shopping too.

4) We keep Sundays - when we are both off - for ourselves and we try to do something fun on that day. Yes that means chores and work-related tasks take a break too. But we realize that we are giving 6 days up for other stuff and we need at least 1 day together.

I guess the biggest thing for us is realizing that errands and chores can wait - a sink full of dishes is not as important as our relationship. We would like to be able to travel, but our salaries and schedules are just not able to do so, so we try to do simple things instead - play games, watch a movie, go for a walk, etc (he even will read to me before bed ).

 

[Farm Truck]

how do you handle long term travel without extreme stress?

Cast your care upon the Lord for He cares for you... sounds like you guys need to develop a prayer life both together and as individuals.

 

[All4Christ]

Cast your care upon the Lord for He cares for you... sounds like you guys need to develop a prayer life both together and as individuals.

We pray together each day and are working to continue increasing our closeness to God; I will continue to do that and work more on doing it.

 

[arabianhorselover]

I've been married for 24 years, and it's pretty much always been that way. There is very little time for "us". Also, my husband really doesn't feel the same need as I do for "couple time". Unfortunately, at this point there have been so many hurts on both our parts that if we do have time together, we can't get along. I hope you get this straightened out now, and that your husband wants/needs what you do.