Words spoken in anger are not from the heart

[tryme]

I was watching the movie Felicity on tv tonight.

These words were repeated a couple of times: "Words spoken in anger are not from the heart"

Agree or disagree?

I surmiss the thought is in the heat of an argument it may be reactionary.

 

[Tricia4Jesus]

Agree ~ Totally!

 

[Mela'h]

I don't know - it sounds good, but biblically Jesus tells us that out of the abundance or overflow of your heart your mouth speaks (Lk 6:45) It seems a bit irresponsible to say that you don't really mean the things that you speak in anger.

 

[maxmerc]

Boy, I just couldn't bring myself to tape that show. Looked sappy as all get out. Was it any good?

About the question. I dunno. Seems a bit simplistic, and a way to avoid responsibility for our actions and our words. I wouldn't trust it, myself.

 

[tryme]

I don't know - it sounds good, but biblically Jesus tells us that out of the abundance or overflow of your heart your mouth speaks (Lk 6:45) It seems a bit irresponsible to say that you don't really mean the things that you speak in anger.

The statement used sounds good.
And they way they used it was good - because it caused a forgiving heart.

Just the other day I was reading in Matthew 15 about clean and unlean.

Verses 1-28 explains clean and unclean.

10 Jesus called the crowd to him and said, "Listen and understand.
11 What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,'
but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.' "

16 "Are you still so dull?" Jesus asked them.
17 "Don't you see that whatever enters the mouth
goes into the stomach and then out of the body?
18 But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart,
and these make a man 'unclean.'
19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery,
sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.
20 These are what make a man 'unclean'; but eating with unwashed hands
does not make him 'unclean.' "

The bible says exactly the opposite in verse 18.

 

[tryme]

Boy, I just couldn't bring myself to tape that show. Looked sappy as all get out. Was it any good?

About the question. I dunno. Seems a bit simplistic, and a way to avoid responsibility for our actions and our words. I wouldn't trust it, myself.

Yes, it was good. I would recommend it.
I was not sure I was going to watch the whole thing but I did.

 

[LivingWide]

Disagree. Anger comes from the heart, but that happens when your heart is in the wrong place.

 

[Andry]

We're allowed to get angry. It's an emotion. We just need to know the time and place and purpose for it.

 

[clayharryman]

I dunno. Last night I had an experience related to mental illness. I was raging again, and said a lot of hateful, hurtful things. I didn't mean any of them, and my wife has forgiven me for what I said.

But, in my rage, I was able to get some stuff off of my chest that was bugging me (like she only works 40 hours a week, and I work 24 hours a day as a stay-at-home-dad). Those things, even though they weren't presented in an appropriate manner, did open the door to discussion later on.

Perhaps it was those things, just simmering on the stove in my mind that finally exploded. Still trying to dissect last night and find the short circuit.

 

[MMXII]

I'm not sure about anyone but me but words spoken in anger ARE NOT from the heart, they are from the head and head alone. I've said so many horrible things to the people I love years ago that it is hard to forgive myself. I've learned over the years to keep my big mouth shut in an argument so I won't do that. My heart loves these people, there is no way that I'd hurt them but in the heat of the moment whatever popped in my head came out of my mouth.

Thank God he's closed my mouth. I no longer hurt the ones I love.

 

[andiesmama]

I think words spoken in anger are from the heart....that being said, more often than not one can find a better way of expressing their feelings than using hurtful words, but that doesn't mean those feelings aren't coming from your heart. Who's to say only good feelings come from the heart?

 

[NorwayUnn]

I think words spoken in anger are from the heart....that being said, more often than not one can find a better way of expressing their feelings than using hurtful words, but that doesn't mean those feelings aren't coming from your heart. Who's to say only good feelings come from the heart?

I agree. A heart can be filled with anger and hatred, which are very strong emotions, and words can be spoken from the heart in anger, as well as words can be spoken of love.

 

[bvwsmaker]

Jeremiah 17:9 is a good verse to use with Matt 15:18 that Maggie quoted above. (That's why we need a prayer like Psalm 139:23,24!)


Jer 17:9 "The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?
10 "I, the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give to each man according to his ways, According to the results of his deeds.

 

[wrldstrman]

I think everyone gets angry we even get mad at ourselves.I think where anger gets bad is when your angry and continue to dwell on your anger building up a hatered toward people. Just like when my kids do something bad they see me as being angry but I m more hurt and disapointed that they did wrong

 

[TabCat]

We are to be angry and sin not. I believe when we turn that anger on someone else that is wrong, it may be some stored up bitterness in our hearts, or it could just be a reaction from our heads. It doesn't matter to the one you are hurting at the time which it is, and it is something to guard against.

I can only judge how things make me feel. I grew up in an angry house, and the rage that came in my direction always felt it was from an evil heart. I know only God can judge our hearts, but it does seem that some people are down right mean in what they say and do, and it has to be in their hearts. You can not have vile coming out of you unless it was in you to start with.

I know as an adult I am very careful and mindful of the things I say. I want the words of my lips to be accectable to God's ears. There is a saying I heard years ago and it has always stuck with me. "I try to watch the words I speak and keep them soft and sweet, for I don't know from day to day which one's I'll have to eat".

I'm not saying I never get angry, I just know how to handle it and think before I open my mouth. I hope that makes sense to you all.