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wait, wait, wait... you mean thats not true?
I can get a phone number but not a date... you text me one day then randomly stop? We text text text then I ask you out and then no more texts... I mean what the heck?! I am starting to think God is not wanting me in a relationship because every single one just ends before a date... I am almost 22 I am good looking and have a career... I don't understand.. This is mainly me venting because it just keeps building up but man o man.. I am christian I treat women right I am charming good looking athletic I just don't get why I am single.. I know this is wrong but I see just gorgeous women with... again im sorry but ugly weird guys.. and I just think in my head how the heck does that work? I hope someone can shine some light on all this because I been having some baaaad days lately with this and now my back is messed up and missed some days of work.. ugh
If a good looking woman is with an ugly man, it means the ugly man is loaded with cash. Women are attracted to men with money, whether they're ugly or not. Now, women will say this is crud and that they go for men who are nice, caring and have good senses of humour. Don't believe them. They like money.
The trick is to be interested in their personality; they're not a piece of meat and they don't like being treated that way.
It's a species of dishonesty, and recipe for frustration and hurt feelings, to build a faux friendship when you want to date someone. It also reeks of leading someone on when you build a "friendship" knowing they want something else. Not to mention an easy way to make yourself out to be the good guy when they discontinue the relationship.
If you want to date them, you ought also want a good, solid friendship - because a relationship won't survive unless you have a good friendship as a solid base. I'm talking about patience - being patient and getting to know a woman before launching yourself immediately into a romantic situation.
I'm just not a fan of "let's immediately get romantic even though we don't know each other" thing. I know that it is common today, but I honestly think it is backwards. I'm not saying that he should lie about having feelings for a woman. I am just saying that he should be prudent and patient and calm down. Taking time to get to know a woman in a friendship shows her that you might genuinely care about her, rather than just going after her because you felt some spark of shallow sexual attraction (and it would be shallow because you don't know her well yet).
If a good looking woman is with an ugly man, it means the ugly man is loaded with cash. Women are attracted to men with money, whether they're ugly or not. Now, women will say this is crud and that they go for men who are nice, caring and have good senses of humour. Don't believe them. They like money. They also like bad-boy types though; the James Dean's of this world. Rebels. If you don't have much money but are a bad-boy type/free spirit, then women will like you (until a man with more money comes along). If you're an average guy with a mediocre career and/or low income your chances with women are low.
If a good looking woman is with an ugly man, it means the ugly man is loaded with cash. Women are attracted to men with money, whether they're ugly or not. Now, women will say this is crud and that they go for men who are nice, caring and have good senses of humour. Don't believe them. They like money. They also like bad-boy types though; the James Dean's of this world. Rebels. If you don't have much money but are a bad-boy type/free spirit, then women will like you (until a man with more money comes along). If you're an average guy with a mediocre career and/or low income your chances with women are low.
I think you're failing with women because you're probably (despite what you may think of yourself) in that latter category I just mentioned (average looks, low income). If you genuinely are good looking and have cash to splash, perhaps you're coming across as too needy/creepy. Women can tell when guys are desperate. Also, are you trying to date Christians or non-believers? Non-believers (especially educated women) won't date Christians; you'll spend all your time trying to convert them and they don't like that because it doesn't make for fun dates. If you're trying it on with Christian women, then you're either coming across as needy/creepy or you don't have enough money (or maybe both).
Tips; Wear suits, look flash, be confident and pretend you're not interested in them; women hate being ignored, even by fat ugly blokes with no money (though they still wouldn't date you). Oh, if you're overweight, stop eating the cakes and run like Forrest Gump every day until you can actually see your feet instead of your manboobs. Next, be genuinely interested in what they're saying. Women love to talk about themselves. You don't have to say much and it's better if you don't because then they think you're a good listener. Don't pester them with texts as soon as you've met one you like (again, you come across as desperate). Wait a day or two. Pace your texts out, and again, ask them about themselves; but not shallow stuff like "How are you?" Ask them what they think of their job, whether they like it, etc. The trick is to be interested in their personality and not their breasts; they're not a piece of meat and they don't like being treated that way.
I hope that helps because it's about all I've got.
I don't go up to them and say your hot can I get your number. I do not go after someone just because of there looks. I go up to them at first because of there looks yes but I talk to them and see if they are what I am looking for. Big difference.. I don't understand why I can't go talk to a women? Your sorta saying I can't talk to any women I don't know because I am a random.
So your saying talking to women is ineffective but not talking to any women is effective? That makes no sense... If I don't talk to any.. i will NEVER find one.. lol
If you want to date them, you ought also want a good, solid friendship - because a relationship won't survive unless you have a good friendship as a solid base. I'm talking about patience - being patient and getting to know a woman before launching yourself immediately into a romantic situation.
I'm just not a fan of "let's immediately get romantic even though we don't know each other" thing. I know that it is common today, but I honestly think it is backwards. I'm not saying that he should lie about having feelings for a woman. I am just saying that he should be prudent and patient and calm down. Taking time to get to know a woman in a friendship shows her that you might genuinely care about her, rather than just going after her because you felt some spark of shallow sexual attraction (and it would be shallow because you don't know her well yet).
If one person doesn't have romantic feelings for the other, then you aren't in a romantic relationship. It takes two to tango.
I would agree 100% with this. If I am interesting in a romantic relationship with a women; I will not try to go for a buddy friendship first; while all of the while hoping for her to like me romantically at some later date. That is not fair to her or me.And I would say you point out exactly why this is a species of dishonesty. A friendship isn't a romantic relationship, apples and oranges. A sibling relationship isn't a friendship. Just because relationships share some characteristics of other relationships doesn't mean they're the same thing. Romantic feelings are the basis of a romantic relationship, not a friendship. Dating someone doesn't mean you have to get overly romantic right away. You can take your time to get to know someone without pretending your interest in the other person is something it isn't. If you're over there telling someone your feelings for them then it's pretty clearly not a friendship anyway. You don't have to rush to touchy feely romance to be straight forward about why the relationship exists and where you're expecting it to go. If it's not going to go there because one person lacks interest then the other person has the right to know that so they can move on. As opposed to wasting months of someone's life building a "friendship" when they want something else and you don't.
It does, and that's exactly when you start leading the other person on. If you don't share their feelings it's just extremely crass and selfish to waste their time. A real friendship is devoid of romantic feelings on either side. It's a faux friendship when one person has romantic feelings and the faux friendship only exists because of their belief that a romantic relationship will be the outcome. It's just dishonest when you know how someone feels, and you don't feel that way, to allow them to continue to hope for something that isn't going to happen.
If your assumption is true, then the list of available women is like zero. There are a lot of attractive women out there, but that I actually connect with....so small of a number.I think that your point of view neglects the fact that most lasting marriages do so well because the couple are friends as well as lovers. It isn't about deception. It is about being patient and prudent.
I don't believe that friendship is ever a waste of time. I find it insulting when men only want to give me the time of day because they are sexually attracted to me. That is shallow. I have expressed a desire to wait and get to know each other and build a friendship first, but they take off. That tells me that they only want to get into my pants, and don't care about who I am as a person unless they can get something out of it. That is selfish... but I suppose according to your understanding, at least they are being honest that they don't care about getting to know me first.
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