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Thing is though that none of those Scriptures state that the husband is responsible for the wife's salvation.
As stated before, each person is to work out.their own salvation.
It says he will "rule" over her. He is her "head."
That means that he is responsible for her the same way that the pastor is responsible for his congregation.
Well that is the problem, we are taught to be nice, loving, honest and avoid things like power. Yet the bible tells us to some degree to have some power over our wives. I think it makes people unsure what to do or makes them feel like they are somehow a master over their wife.
I've felt that way before. But I realized it doens't mean litearlly you control her. It means more that you are the head of the house and you need to take care of your family and make decisions. Example when I sent my fiance some money she emailed me to make sure it was alright she gave 10% of it to her church.
I told her it was fine with me. She then said thanks and also said she asked because even though we are not married yet, she wanted my permission as head of the house...as her other half. I told her I appreciated that alot even though I still felt a bit odd telking her what to do. Now though I've come to be more comfortable and accept my role.
I never use anything to control her though. She knows I trust her and she knows if she wants to I am always here if she has questions to ask me! She even gave me access to her emails, facebook and bank account weeks into meeting her because again I was her future husband and she wanted to show me shes a trustworthy, loving Proverbs 31 woman. And honestly I feel so blessed because I truly do trust her and love with all my heart.
I think if anything if God forbid we stopped beign together, I'd have a hard time finding another woman to be with since most (at least in the USA) don't seem to like the idea of being submissive. I thank feminism for that btw.
Well that is the problem, we are taught to be nice, loving, honest and avoid things like power. Yet the bible tells us to some degree to have some power over our wives. I think it makes people unsure what to do or makes them feel like they are somehow a master over their wife.
I've felt that way before. But I realized it doens't mean litearlly you control her. It means more that you are the head of the house and you need to take care of your family and make decisions. Example when I sent my fiance some money she emailed me to make sure it was alright she gave 10% of it to her church.
I told her it was fine with me. She then said thanks and also said she asked because even though we are not married yet, she wanted my permission as head of the house...as her other half. I told her I appreciated that alot even though I still felt a bit odd telking her what to do. Now though I've come to be more comfortable and accept my role.
I never use anything to control her though. She knows I trust her and she knows if she wants to I am always here if she has questions to ask me! She even gave me access to her emails, facebook and bank account weeks into meeting her because again I was her future husband and she wanted to show me shes a trustworthy, loving Proverbs 31 woman. And honestly I feel so blessed because I truly do trust her and love with all my heart.
I think if anything if God forbid we stopped beign together, I'd have a hard time finding another woman to be with since most (at least in the USA) don't seem to like the idea of being submissive. I thank feminism for that btw.
here is an interesting question for you. have you ever accessed her facebook or email? if so then you don't trust her at all and that would be a bad thing. trust needs to go both ways. make sure you understand her culture. Comments you have made suggest you don't and that could cause problems. So be careful there.I never use anything to control her though. She knows I trust her and she knows if she wants to I am always here if she has questions to ask me! She even gave me access to her emails, facebook and bank account weeks into meeting her because again I was her future husband and she wanted to show me shes a trustworthy, loving Proverbs 31 woman. And honestly I feel so blessed because I truly do trust her and love with all my heart.
However that is not salvation. So as I suggested before perhaps you are not usingthe appropiate word for the situation.It says he will "rule" over her. He is her "head."
That means that he is responsible for her the same way that the pastor is responsible for his congregation.
Well theres a diffrence between being trusting and being nieve. I've met far to many christians who "trust" their other half only to find out years later they have been lying about a number of things. It doesn't mean always be suspicious either, I use to never trust women from many bad expireiences where women lied to me. But now I have gotten better about it.here is an interesting question for you. have you ever accessed her facebook or email? if so then you don't trust her at all and that would be a bad thing. trust needs to go both ways. make sure you understand her culture. Comments you have made suggest you don't and that could cause problems. So be careful there.
Boring? You do realize the bible says wives are to be submissive right? Sounds like you are letting the world tell you its views are right over Gods views.Good for you. Personally, I think that sounds utterly boring. I'd much rather be in a relationship with a woman who can be my equal, not one who is just going to be submissive and give me access to all her personal information and accounts as a matter of course.
Wow, if I ever needed marital advice (which I don't and wouldn't anyway), remind me where NOT to go! Good Lord...
The "advice" (I use the term loosely) that says women are just slaves to be controlled.
I'm not sure what century you bros are living in, but it's clearly not 2012 wherever you guys happen to find yourselves.
Kat, maybe you should post your testimony here?
Sure thing!I will put a link to my blog entry about it, since it's really long.
"How Submission Books Nearly Ruined My Marriage"
Thank God!
Doesn't God "allow" us to choose? He may command us, encourage us, and persuade us, however My God allows me to choose. Choosing because he created us NOT to be robots but to accept his word. My husband treats me with respect. I respect his opinion and yet often we agree to disagree. If he even tried to pull the rank stuff my love and respect for him would dwindle. We submit to each other and allow each other to choose. I am not a "rebellous" wife and I honor my husband greatly because he prefaces everything with God gave you wisdom. That kind of love and encouragement comes from spiritual maturity. 28 years of marriage. Thank you for being that kind of man who will allow your wife the freedom to actually make choices whether the consequences are "good" or not. Thank you for not treating her as a child. Having two married daughters, I certainly pray that their husbands love them this way.That is your view and one that I do not hold.
I will say it yet again. My wife is an adult and if she decides to go somewhere even though I have said it's not a good idea, that is her choice. I'm not going to force her to stay home.
As I said, we'll need to agree to disagree. We have different viewpoints on this subject and I know that I'm not going to budge, nor do I think you can tell me that I'm not doing so out of love based on a disagreement that you and I have about a topic.
Doesn't God "allow" us to choose? He may command us, encourage us, and persuade us, however My God allows me to choose. Choosing because he created us NOT to be robots but to accept his word. My husband treats me with respect. I respect his opinion and yet often we agree to disagree. If he even tried to pull the rank stuff my love and respect for him would dwindle. We submit to each other and allow each other to choose. I am not a "rebellous" wife and I honor my husband greatly because he prefaces everything with God gave you wisdom. That kind of love and encouragement comes from spiritual maturity.
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