Winking?

[Amélie Unbound]

If it does fall to you to confront her about it, maybe you could do so in a way that won't offend her and cause more trouble than necessary. Maybe say, "Hi there. Could we talk? Look, my hubby is a really shy guy, and I'm sure that your winking and stuff is harmless, but it really makes him feel uncomfortable and he worries about what others might think when you do it. So, like I said, I'm SURE that you don't mean anything by it, but could you please try not to direct that kind of attention at him?" Something like that so she doesn't take your getting involved as a confrontation or that you're accusing her of anything (even though you have your suspicions that it's not harmless). Just play up the fact that your husband is just the old-fashioned, proper sort, and he's not at all comfortable with that kind of interaction with other women.

I don't know...it seems like it might blow up into something major if you confront her and accuse her of flirting...especially if she's well connected within the business, ya know?

HeatherJay, I completely agree that if it comes down to me having words with her, what you have suggested here is the best approach. That is the way I'd handle it.

 

[Telrunya]

I wink all the time. Usually it's in a "You get the joke?" type manner. Then again I'm from the south too.My wife definately takes it as flirtaciousness, so I try not to do it, but it's almost on an unconcious level. My wife knows I'm not flirting but she says alot of people we know think I'm a huge playful flirt. (Meaning they all realize there is no intent behind it, just being playful) I really don't percieve that I am flirting and am just being my fun warm and fuzzy self.