Will it ever happen?

[Monaleezza]

Do any of you in a LTR come across the feeling that engagement/marriage to your partner may never happen?
Have you raised the subject countless times and left enough hints that now you wonder where the relationship may be going?
And while he/she may happily talk about the romanticised aspects of marriage the discussions about practical application don't come easy and are always started by you?

My boyfriend and I aren't exactly in a LTR, we've dated just 2 years, but I can't help feeling, he's in no "rush". In fact that is a quote. Although our relationship is fairly new, I'm already can't help feeling, I'm ready to move forward.

Anyone else sharing my experience or have any ideas?
We're having the "talk" today and I could really do with some advice.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Well, the best thing you can do is pray about it. 2 years is enough time to be considering marriage, and you guys really do need to sit down and talk about where you think the relationship is going. You're dreams, hopes, and desires for the relationship. Talk about marriage in and of itself, and how you will survive the struggles that may or may not come. Avoid romanticizing marriage to the extent that you lose its realism, and the fact that life isn't always fun and games. It's work. Make sure you know that you both have to CHOOSE to love each other, that that gushy "in love" feeling can/does fade, etc.

 

[pipsqueek]

I can't say I feel the same way, cuz i'm only 17, but would it help if you sat down with your guy and asked him when he thinks a good time to get married is?

 

[notmywill]

It is always good to know where the relationship is headed...especially after two years of dating. I just had this discussion with my bf a couple nights ago. We have been preparing for engagement lately but I just wanted us to have a time in mind about when we could get married. Almost like a goal to work towards or something to look forward to!


If I were you I would just ask him where he sees the relationship going? If you two have talked about marriage, then that is probably what he has in mind. Let him know you are not pressuring him into anything right now, but would just like to be on the same page...You don't want to be wondering if it will be two months from now or two years from now, you know? Just a general idea.


If he was thinking that you two should get married within the next year or so I would recommend looking into maybe reading a book together on marriage, or seeing a christian counselor. I would recommend the book "Dating with Pure Passion" by Rob Eager, or "Saving your marriage before (and after) it starts" By Les & Leslie Parrott.


God Bless and all the best for you in your relationship!

 

[Monaleezza]

I had the talk... interesting.

He said he wants to marry me, but his concern is getting married too young and having regrets.