Will I Ever..

Reuby · Jun 5, 2008

Find the girl of my dreams?

I'm 18 years old, I am totally committed on God and he is the man I live for. Always has been and always will be.

For nearly two years I've been waiting for that girl, you know the one we dream of.

I think I'm quite attractive, so it's not that girls think I'm ugly or anything. I just don't understand. In Feb I met this Christian girl and we became really good friends, I honestly believed she liked me. We're still really good friends now but in April she let me know we'd be better as friends.

There's another christian girl I quite like and would like to get to know better at the moment, but it's like the devil keeps telling me I'm not good enough and will never end up with her.

Don't know what to do. I love God with all my heart, and I'm a firm believer and follower. I guess we all get to a stage where we want to find a partner, I've felt like that for two years now and nothing.

Will I ever find that girl? I know everyone says 'God has a plan', and you've just gotta' be patient but it just seems like it'll never happen...

Thanks, God Bless

MrsSeptemberPenguin · Jun 5, 2008

I know for sure you're not the only person here who feels that way... I wish I had a enlightening answer for you... but I don't cuz I'm in the same boat and wondering when/if it'll ever happen.

Trashionista · Jun 5, 2008

You're 18. You have plenty of time to settle down with the right person.
Just focus on what you like and what you want. Sucsess, confidence, and happiness in one's self attracts people.
It will arrive when you least expect it. And most likely, when you're not looking for it.
What is meant for you will not pass you by.

Sketcher · Jun 5, 2008

In God's timing.

Inkachu · Jun 5, 2008

Yes, you are still very young! I know nobody wants to hear that at 18, but it's true You're still becoming a young man, learning who you are, what you have to offer the world, what you believe, etc. Concentrate on developing yourself, whether through college or a career. Enjoy your hobbies, see what you can of the world, enjoy being 18 and SINGLE!

kingoffools13 · Jun 5, 2008

haha, i know it sounds a bit patronizing to hear people say "oh your still young" and "you have plenty of time"

but trust me when i say they all learned by experience and had the same exact thing said to them. what they are saying is true, you are young enough that you have time, and you should learn to enjoy that instead of feeling pressured to find someone and get married right away. some people get married young, but you could end up waiting until you are 25 or 30 and when you finally do you will look back and say to yourself "yeah i was only 18, i had so much more time to put in before it actually happened"

and hopefully when you realize that you will be happy with how you took your time and just learned to enjoy being single and who you are while you could, because if you think its stressful just looking for a significant other, just wait until you have to juggle all the pressures of a relationship.

Just trust God and you will be fine, He has your back.

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Inkachu · Jun 5, 2008

Even 25 and 30 is not "old" or "too old" to begin a romance!

Better to find a godly mate at 50 years old than to marry on impulse at 25 and wind up in a messy divorce and custody battle.

HopeFaithLove4u · Jun 5, 2008

Don't worry about it.....I have yet to meet 'that guy' (I've even been married).....it's better to go slow and proceed with caution, then to stress about not being 'involved' and make a HUGE mistake by rushing.

God has a plan for you, trust Him.....I know I do.

Luther073082 · Jun 5, 2008

You won't if you hold a downer attitude like that. Keep an upbeat attitude.

Few people have met their marriage partner at age 18.

memoriesbymichelle · Jun 5, 2008

Do you know a guy that's like you that's about 30 years older? LOL J/K . There's alot of women looking for an older version of how you describe yourself. Praise God for young men like you.
Unfortunately, God's timing is never our timing and God's ways are not usually our ways. Maybe he's still preparing you (or her) for the relationship. Keep the faith, do not lose heart...btw it probably will happen, when least expect it, or finally stop looking for it. Anyway, good luck and God Bless.

HopeFaithLove4u · Jun 5, 2008

memoriesbymichelle said:
Unfortunately, God's timing is never our timing and God's ways are not usually our ways. Maybe he's still preparing you (or her) for the relationship. Keep the faith, do not lose heart...btw it probably will happen, when least expect it, or finally stop looking for it. Anyway, good luck and God Bless.

Most often times, if I ever feel frustrated that I may not have the right guy around me to spend time with......I just realize that I'm just not ready, myself, and God is still doing some work within myself, to get me ready.

So, don't lose faith, it'll happen, when it's supposed to.

soccerdad66 · Jun 5, 2008

Exactly mentioned above, you don't want to be in a hurry to find the girl of your dreams, otherwise it could end up being a nightmare, and my ex isn't that bad, compared to others, and yet it's still not fun to go through a divorce.

Seriously though, just date and have fun. You'll meet different gals, and in a few years, the girl of your dreams then will probably be different then the girl of your dreams now.

BlessedLYT · Jun 5, 2008

twistedsketch said:
In God's timing.

Yes I agree with this. Of course you can just take your time and let God guide you. How can you go wrong? You will find your equal.Just pray and let God.

Supplanter · Jun 5, 2008

I'll just say that I understand what you are going through. I'm 25 and still waiting and have been through a failed engagement, which was a devastating experience, but I trust God that He knows what will be the most glorifying to Him and best for me personally. I would much rather be single than be with the wrong person.

What helps me is to truly focus on what God has for me right now and not worry about what others are doing. I have many friends who are getting married this year and I was going through a pity party about how could they be "ready" for marriage with some of the things that they do and I'm not ready when I've have served God passionately for quite sometime.

But God told me that it is not a matter of being ready at this point in my life (He also rebuked me for coveting), but a matter of His will and His glory. Ultimately, my life is not about me, but about God and just because I have a different path doesn't make it any less beautiful than someone else's and the One who knows me and who will always know me the most intimately will not leave me disappointed in all that He does as I continue to serve Him with every fiber of my being.

And he shall not leave you disappointed either my friend.

RosaVernal · Jun 5, 2008

Yes, you will.

I don't know most of your stances on relationships and whatnot, but sometimes, you just have to say "Oh well, what the hell" and try your luck out. Why not go for the girl?

Back on topic, it's rare to find your one and only at 18... or, at least, to see past the end of your own nose to realize you already did.

*shrugs*

To repeat pretty much everyone else, it'll happen when it's meant to be.

BlessedLYT · Jun 5, 2008

Supplanter said:
I'll just say that I understand what you are going through. I'm 25 and still waiting and have been through a failed engagement, which was a devastating experience, but I trust God that He knows what will be the most glorifying to Him and best for me personally. I would much rather be single than be with the wrong person.

What helps me is to truly focus on what God has for me right now and not worry about what others are doing. I have many friends who are getting married this year and I was going through a pity party about how could they be "ready" for marriage with some of the things that they do and I'm not ready when I've have served God passionately for quite sometime.

But God told me that it is not a matter of being ready at this point in my life (He also rebuked me for coveting), but a matter of His will and His glory. Ultimately, my life is not about me, but about God and just because I have a different path doesn't make it any less beautiful than someone else's and the One who knows me and who will always know me the most intimately will not leave me disappointed in all that He does as I continue to serve Him with every fiber of my being.

And he shall not leave you disappointed either my friend.

Amen! I have not dated in 2 years because i took a stance for God. I and 23 about to be 24 and I have felt all the things that you have felt. Such an honest post.

Reuby · Jun 5, 2008

Thanks guys, I appreciate you all commenting. She will come, just gotta' keep marching a long with Christ and she'll come.

Thank you

memoriesbymichelle · Jun 5, 2008

Supplanter said:
I'll just say that I understand what you are going through. I'm 25 and still waiting and have been through a failed engagement, which was a devastating experience, but I trust God that He knows what will be the most glorifying to Him and best for me personally. I would much rather be single than be with the wrong person.

What helps me is to truly focus on what God has for me right now and not worry about what others are doing. I have many friends who are getting married this year and I was going through a pity party about how could they be "ready" for marriage with some of the things that they do and I'm not ready when I've have served God passionately for quite sometime.

But God told me that it is not a matter of being ready at this point in my life (He also rebuked me for coveting), but a matter of His will and His glory. Ultimately, my life is not about me, but about God and just because I have a different path doesn't make it any less beautiful than someone else's and the One who knows me and who will always know me the most intimately will not leave me disappointed in all that He does as I continue to serve Him with every fiber of my being.

And he shall not leave you disappointed either my friend.

Great post! What alot of us forgot ALOT in our journey with Christ, is that we were created for HIS glory, not the other way around, so we don't know the plans God has for us, but his word says he has plans for our good and to prosper us. But we are supposed to Glorify Him above all else.

CoreyO · Jun 5, 2008

Reuby said:
Find the girl of my dreams?

I'm 18 years old, I am totally committed on God and he is the man I live for. Always has been and always will be.

For nearly two years I've been waiting for that girl, you know the one we dream of.

I think I'm quite attractive, so it's not that girls think I'm ugly or anything. I just don't understand. In Feb I met this Christian girl and we became really good friends, I honestly believed she liked me. We're still really good friends now but in April she let me know we'd be better as friends.

There's another christian girl I quite like and would like to get to know better at the moment, but it's like the devil keeps telling me I'm not good enough and will never end up with her.

Don't know what to do. I love God with all my heart, and I'm a firm believer and follower. I guess we all get to a stage where we want to find a partner, I've felt like that for two years now and nothing.

Will I ever find that girl? I know everyone says 'God has a plan', and you've just gotta' be patient but it just seems like it'll never happen...

Thanks, God Bless

Dude, I feel ya.

But think of it this way... (this has helped me)... no girl is *ever* too good for you, or not good enough for you - inherently. Just because one person is born of priveledge or one is not, or one was "born" with good looks and one was not (by the world's standards) doesn't make them better or worse. It depends on what you want in a mate, not on their status. No woman is beyond any man if they want her enough. But you still have to be careful and "choose wisely", as they say.

Just be the man God calls you to be, and someone will see it eventually. Just make sure you don't miss it.

Oh, and if you think the devil is saying you're not worthy of a certain person - he's lying!

Supplanter · Jun 5, 2008

memoriesbymichelle said:
Great post! What alot of us forgot ALOT in our journey with Christ, is that we were created for HIS glory, not the other way around, so we don't know the plans God has for us, but his word says he has plans for our good and to prosper us. But we are supposed to Glorify Him above all else.

Thank you.

CoreyO said:
Dude, I feel ya.

But think of it this way... (this has helped me)... no girl is *ever* too good for you, or not good enough for you - inherently. Just because one person is born of priveledge or one is not, or one was "born" with good looks and one was not (by the world's standards) doesn't make them better or worse. It depends on what you want in a mate, not on their status. No woman is beyond any man if they want her enough. But you still have to be careful and "choose wisely", as they say.

Just be the man God calls you to be, and someone will see it eventually. Just make sure you don't miss it.

Oh, and if you think the devil is saying you're not worthy of a certain person - he's lying!

Nice post Corey!

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