Why?

[Aspireman]

Why did God give us sexuality and then tell us to use it with responsibility? Over and over the Bible talks about sexual immorality. Why give us such a powerful feeling knowing we would fail? I'm single, plan on staying single. I just want a release, and then guilt and shame come in. I know that's from the devil, but it seems like after I fail the days events go bad. Is God disciplining me? I wish I didn't have feelings. It's ruined my relationship with God, and with women. I'm suppose to go to a Bible study tonight with unfortunately a bunch of pretty girls. How can I go and not feel ashamed by my acts? Lord have mercy on me.

 

[Purge187]

What goes on between you and God is, just that, between you and God. None of those girls have a say in the matter.

God restricted sexuality because He knew what would happen if it got out of hand, and obviously He was right. And like anything else that has the potential to harm, God can help you with it. He has with me. Just a year or so ago, I was desperate to get married; now, a single, celibate life sounds awesome.

 

[Johnnz]

All our capacities are God given and we can misuse any of them It's modern society that has brought about the long period between sexual maturity and marriage, making life more difficult for single people. And don't assume <staff edit> that finding girls attractive is wrong either.

John
NZ

 

[Saucy]

That's why it has ruined your relationship with God and with other women. It was meant to be used responsibly in the confines of marriage.

The thing is, back in the day up to modern times, people were married as soon as they were old enough to reproduce. No one had to wait very long.

I'm 30 and have been waiting for my future wife. I understand it's not easy, I'm proof that you can have a strong drive and wait.

God understands your struggle. Just talk to Him about it. That doesn't mean you can then go out and sleep with women because you know you struggle to wait. Just be patient.

 

[tunnelhckrat]

We are sinners, we fail. But if we learn to rely on god for all our needs then there is strength in failure. Do not burden yourself with guilt.

 

[faithguy917]

When it comes to giving into temptation you have to look at it from a logical standpoint...Is this really worth it to give into satan and lust or follow Christ and beg him step in bc you are struggling. (see galatians 5:17) The women can't save you, so when you put things in perspective you have to prioritize what is important to you. Building a solid relationship with Christ or thinking ab women. Don't think or live short term..many people abstain from sex, lust etc most if not all of their lives, but God gives the gift of celibacy...to help overcome these temptations. When we pray..we must first open our prayers asking for forgiveness for all sins known and unknown bc God does not listen to sinners. (see John 9:31) You want him to hear you so he can help you with his spirit..pray with an honest heart and let him know your struggle. When these struggles start to happen you need to step away and pray about it..before you know it..you will find yourself handling situations better and better. Its a gradual process but its definitely possible to overcome. God know his children and when we are testing he gives us an escape. (see 1 cor 10:13)

 

[quartzy]

I had to battle with lust and temptation and changed my ways which eventually changed my thinking. Dont encourage it for one, like by watching porn etc. Dont give in to self abuse the feelings will pass eventually. And above all, dont give in to women or men, again you will learn how to control these emotions but you need to learn by not doing them. God bless in your trials.

 

[tundrawolf]

I talk to a young man who struggles with porn and addiction, and he frequently asks why he was even born. I can understand him... All I can say is, "You are here" I do not know what else to say. I know that in my passionate lusts and desires, if they were channeled properly through Gods perfect will in my life, towards the mate He has for me, I would be one happy man.

Instead, they were twisted and distorted at a very early age by adults, and my peers.

It's not my fault, I don't think, but I am the one who now has to deal with these crippling issues that paralyze my life, and have since I was a child. Fair? Well, what can I say? Life isn't fair.

 

[Purge187]

I talk to a young man who struggles with porn and addiction, and he frequently asks why he was even born. I can understand him... All I can say is, "You are here" I do not know what else to say. I know that in my passionate lusts and desires, if they were channeled properly through Gods perfect will in my life, towards the mate He has for me, I would be one happy man.

Instead, they were twisted and distorted at a very early age by adults, and my peers.

It's not my fault, I don't think, but I am the one who now has to deal with these crippling issues that paralyze my life, and have since I was a child. Fair? Well, what can I say? Life isn't fair.

There's no rule that says you have to remain in that place. I struggled with guilt and shame over my sexuality for years and God delivered me; He can do the same for you.