Why?

[motherprayer]

Why is everyone so surprised that we went to church Sunday?

For those who don't know, we lost my husband's son suddenly over Christmas. He was 13, and he went to sleep and never woke up.

 

[RuthD]

I am so sorry for your and your husband's loss. Going to church is the right thing to do. You get support and guidance there and if anyone doesn't like it there is something wrong with their thinking and not yours. I am praying for you.

 

[raven1]

I am so sorry.

 

[conamer]

Why is everyone so surprised that we went to church Sunday?

For those who don't know, we lost my husband's son suddenly over Christmas. He was 13, and he went to sleep and never woke up.

Maybe because they would understand if you didn't come to church? It depends on the person, each of us don't react to grief the same way most of the time.

It doesn't make anyone's response wrong or unhealthy. When my wife died I didn't go to church for many weeks. It was too painful. That was different and I would never equate that with anyone else. Some widows may go to church right after that and that's ok too.

"Blessed are those who morn, for they shall be comforted." Matthew 5:4 NIV

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." 2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 NIV

 

[motherprayer]

Maybe because they would understand if you didn't come to church? It depends on the person, each of us don't react to grief the same way most of the time.

It doesn't make anyone's response wrong or unhealthy. When my wife died I didn't go to church for many weeks. It was too painful. That was different and I would never equate that with anyone else. Some widows may go to church right after that and that's ok too.

"Blessed are those who morn, for they shall be comforted." Matthew 5:4 NIV

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." 2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 NIV

I see what you mean. Everyone has a different response. Thank you for sharing, and I will keep you in my prayers!

 

[conamer]

I see what you mean. Everyone has a different response. Thank you for sharing, and I will keep you in my prayers!

I am okay, thank you, that suffering and loss brought me to the Lord and a new wife four years ago. Romans 8:28 comes to mind. Praise be to the God of all comfort!

 

[motherprayer]

I am okay, thank you, that suffering and loss brought me to the Lord and a new wife four years ago. Romans 8:28 comes to mind. Praise be to the God of all comfort!

Praise the Lord! We have been learning at our church for the past few months about growing through trials. I'm thanking God for those lessons, I don't know where we'd be without them.

 

[Lilly Owl]

When someone close to me died I had someone take me to task for what I chose to wear to their funeral.
The thing is, they didn't know this person like I did, so they were coming at me from a place of ignorance about that relationship and instead were levying upon me their own point of view while laying judgment through that belief system.

I don't think you have to defend yourself or answer anyone who claims they don't understand why you went to church on Sunday.Rather, what they should realize, but of course don't, is that it is they who earn the curiosity when they find it strange that you went to church on Sunday after the loss of your husbands precious son.

(HUGS) Again, my deepest sympathy to you and yours. God rest his soul.

 

[motherprayer]

When someone close to me died I had someone take me to task for what I chose to wear to their funeral.
The thing is, they didn't know this person like I did, so they were coming at me from a place of ignorance about that relationship and instead were levying upon me their own point of view while laying judgment through that belief system.

I don't think you have to defend yourself or answer anyone who claims they don't understand why you went to church on Sunday.Rather, what they should realize, but of course don't, is that it is they who earn the curiosity when they find it strange that you went to church on Sunday after the loss of your husbands precious son.

(HUGS) Again, my deepest sympathy to you and yours. God rest his soul.

Oh my! My best friend had something similiar happen to her. It is frustrating that some believe that the way they do things is the way everyone should. Bless you, and thank you for sharing!

 

[dennis1777]

That would not surprise me that you went. My condolences.

 

[motherprayer]

That would not surprise me that you went. My condolences.

Bless you!

 

[razzelflabben]

was looking for something else, and just found this...our son died on Sat. evening, we were in church Sun. morning. I don't think most people expected us to be there, but...our being there, proved to show love to others who were grieving like we couldn't have done if we hadn't been there. (was a very interesting service btw, don't remember a moment of the service, but it was not your usual fair) Anyway, I remember that week, reminding our pastor that it would be okay, that God had this, and that someday, we could say that we were the blessed. Sometimes, people are surprised that they are the ones who need comforted, rather than the ones who should be doing the comforting. When a friend lost her husband, she didn't miss a single Sun. but another friend stopped going to church because she didn't want people to keep asking her how she was doing...