Why??

[Irascible]

Why is it the one you seem to connect with the most... usually is one that will never work?

Why is it that food that's bad for you tastes good? Why is it that sin is so tempting and doing good so hard? Because all of the above appeal to a sinful flesh.

Even "clicking" with someone, while not a sin unto itself, is usually a fleshly event because those things that cause us to click usually have little to do with important things like faith and character. It's a rare person that clicks with another because of faith and character. They usually click for superficial reasons and then hope that the rest falls into place. Unfortunately, if that hope for substance behind the superficial isn't fulfilled most people choose to ignore the problem and stick with their fun yet ultimately shallow "connection".

(That's the second time you've gotten that answer. Yet somehow the world is still imperfect. )

 

[Niels]

Maybe we just notice it more... because we connect with them on some level. Would we notice it as much if things didn't work out with somebody that we never really connected with?

 

[silentpoet]

I think it is because God's sense of humor is not the same as ours. And frankly I don't find it amusing most of the time.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Why is it that food that's bad for you tastes good? Why is it that sin is so tempting and doing good so hard? Because all of the above appeal to a sinful flesh.

Even "clicking" with someone, while not a sin unto itself, is usually a fleshly event because those things that cause us to click usually have little to do with important things like faith and character. It's a rare person that clicks with another because of faith and character. They usually click for superficial reasons and then hope that the rest falls into place. Unfortunately, if that hope for substance behind the superficial isn't fulfilled most people choose to ignore the problem and stick with their fun yet ultimately shallow "connection".

(That's the second time you've gotten that answer. Yet somehow the world is still imperfect. )

I know.. I know.. glad you came out of hiding

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Maybe we just notice it more... because we connect with them on some level. Would we notice it as much if things didn't work out with somebody that we never really connected with?

true enough..

 

[GQ Chris]

It's just Unrequited Love, and yes it hurts. Almost everyone goes through it at one time or another.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I almost responded incorrectly to the above post since I misread it. I think one day you may get what you didnt know you wanted, but was much better than you had originally thought you wanted. Then you will say to yourself "Wait, why did I get this? How can I have this? What did I do to deserve this?"
But in a good way.

awesome post!

 

[white dove]

It just works that way.. But one day.. something will happen and you will actually get what you want. And then you sit there questioning... "Wait, why did I get this? How can I have this? What did I do to deserve this? Im scared."

I think those questions follow us around throughout our relationships; perhaps at the beginning, at the end of them and lingering on afterward. Why, why, why??? They're always there.


In answering the OP, first thought that came to my mind was, sometimes people's needs and desires are just too different. I'm sure a lot of us aren't willing to bend in certain areas of character, spirituality, personality or physical appearances....how surprising is it that other people reason the very same way?

 

[OhhJim]

There's a scientific reason for it. This is a theory I just made up, so maybe it works, maybe not. But, look at each person of the opposite sex as having two characteristics that we are considering:

1. How they are attraction-wise
2. How they are relationship-wise

That means you have four types of people:

1. Good attraction, good relationship
2. Good attraction, bad relationship
3. Bad attraction, good relationship
4. Bad attraction, bad relationship

Now, we aren't even going to consider numbers 3 and 4, right? (Besides, the Bible says that if God wants you to marry someone, you'll be physically attracted to him/her.) So, we've got numbers 1 and 2. Number 1 is much more likely to already be in a relationship, am I right, here?

So, logically speaking, we are much more likely to encounter #2.

 

[JPPT1974]

Look at it this way...wouldn't you rather be

1. Happy and single
or
2. Miserable and in a relationship

Just think about it!