Why There Is A Shortage of Christian Men, Even To Date?

[Thomas1984]

I only go to Christian bars

Lemme guess, they only serve Communion wine?

 

[SonicBOOM]

I was reading an article from

ChristianityToday​

about the shortage of Christian men in the church or the lack thereof. I wonder why there is a shortage of Godly men? is it because the church has been too

femininzed​

or not too many men are interested in being in the church or what?

And at my age, there is a shortage of men and they go to their younger counterparts to date also.

Why there is the shortage of bible believing christian men?

I actually think i would call it more of a coincidence more than anything

but on the off chance that I'm wrong, yes I do believe churches become to feminized at times. We preach the loving side of Jesus with stories about him forgiving the woman caught in adultery, but we don't preach more on the tough side of Jesus like him taking a strain of cords and driving people out of the temple while proclaiming "your making my father's house into a den of thieves!"

I have a theory that we would see a "male revival" in our churches if we taught men how to fight in God's army. with people buckling under the pressure and Christianity constantly being oppressed, there is a real need for strong Christian men who will take leaderships roles in the church and teach the Word of God with passion and not for a paycheck.

I believe this revival would happen because the church does this to men because it's taking after our culture. Men need to live for much more than "getting through the day" and women have this need as well but it almost feels like men are made FOR this purpose and without this purpose the world lacks it's strength and might [and so does the church]

 

[hockeysistah12]

I actually think i would call it more of a coincidence more than anything

but on the off chance that I'm wrong, yes I do believe churches become to feminized at times. We preach the loving side of Jesus with stories about him forgiving the woman caught in adultery, but we don't preach more on the tough side of Jesus like him taking a strain of cords and driving people out of the temple while proclaiming "your making my father's house into a den of thieves!"

I have a theory that we would see a "male revival" in our churches if we taught men how to fight in God's army. with people buckling under the pressure and Christianity constantly being oppressed, there is a real need for strong Christian men who will take leaderships roles in the church and teach the Word of God with passion and not for a paycheck.

I believe this revival would happen because the church does this to men because it's taking after our culture. Men need to live for much more than "getting through the day" and women have this need as well but it almost feels like men are made FOR this purpose and without this purpose the world lacks it's strength and might [and so does the church]

I agree with this. I'm beginning to think that the church is sometimes wants to be with the "culture". Even they want to deal with the "pop" culture--you see it with the reality shows and especially when they see women in the magazines--you know what they are thinking that every christian woman should look like that instead of loving her as Christ loved the church and learning how to defend their families, And you are right about people preaching with passion instead of a pay check. There are pastors who want to go after the greed and unfortnatly, they are the new role models until they are found out about their sin in the press.

But I believe the church is illequipt in teaching our men how to be servants, servants to their families and ministring to their families. Same with the women too because they want to be too much like the world also.

 

[mina]

It's an ebb and flow at my church- I think sometimes there are more women, sometimes there are more men and the same thing with different ages. I have noticed at my old church and at the churches i've been visiting - most of the single women have a college degree or degrees or are working on their masters and own homes or live out of their parents home; while many of the guys of the same age have only a high school education or technical / vocational certificate and either still live at home or rent . Not that there is anything wrong with that, i think it's just hard to find common ground when there is that strong of a divide. This is what i've noticed in my area.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Don't know. I only want one though And so far, God hasn't brought Him to me. I believe that if it is meant to be, that God will orchestrate my life and that guy's life (whoever he is) so that we meet. Even if it seems impossible to us....the waiting is just the hardest!!!!

 

[joanna1]

A friend recently shared a thought-provoking theory with me. Totally un-PC, but interesting and consideration worthy none the less.

She pointed out that the problem was not the discrepancy in figures... It's just that following the logic of human nature and spiritual inclination, a christian woman seeks a husband who is as, or more, committed to Christ than her, and equally mature in his spiritual walk. Chosing a husband who is less advanced or committed quicky becomes problematical - it's likely to cause permanent stress and worry to the woman, maybe cause nagging, and very often intimidate the man. Women, however liberated they may be, do not want to find themselves in a position of "teaching" their man. And men often hate being in a position where their wife is teaching them...

Christian men are able to comfortably date women "all the way down the pyramid" of spiritual maturity. It is not that important to them if they are less advanced in their walk with Christ, or less knowledgeable about scriptures. That makes the pool of available women to them constantly growing and expanding. In the case of the woman, it decreases each time she grows.

The more committed to Christ a woman is, the harder it is for her to find a husband. Even presuming demographical equality in churches (unfortunately far from the case), there will be less men from her to chose from. The man can chose from the whole spectrum, the woman finds herself limiting her prospects because of necessarily harsher requirements.

Women do, therefore, find themselves trapped in a paradoxical box where they suddenly take conscience that their spiritual commitment to growing in the faith entails a growing sacrifice of their personal prospects.

There I hope that was understandable. Please discuss... I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.

 

[deliciousBass]

The more committed to Christ a woman is, the harder it is for her to find a husband. Even presuming demographical equality in churches (unfortunately far from the case), there will be less men from her to chose from. The man can chose from the whole spectrum, the woman finds herself limiting her prospects because of necessarily harsher requirements.

I told my friend the exact same thing the other day. I agree with everything you're saying.

And to address what mina said, I think that as long as more and more women are going on and getting edumucated (women have been outpacing men for earned bachelors degrees for some years now) this problem will continue to exist.

Which sucks for the ladies but for the edumucated males, it's pretty sweet

 

[joanna1]

Yes, the education question is also part of the same equasion, really... It's becoming an actual dilemna as christian women take conscience of it, as far as I see, as well. To study, or not to study too much?

 

[SonicBOOM]

[disclaimer: The Gosh dang spell check screwed up the format of my entire post, so sorry if it's hard to read]

I agree with this. I'm beginning to think that the church is sometimes wants to be with the "culture".

mmhmm​

....

thats​

really the source of it. "try to be a 'Christ-like' version of the world" is the new hip way of being a

christian​

in western culture. And who can blame us? We gotta reach the lost after-all.... It really does bug me

tremendously​

. We do this in so many ways I don't even know where to began. Whatever is twisted can not be made straight again.

I remember hearing a quote from Jason

Upton​

that says this. "we don't seek out God's approval at all, we seek out man's. we are programmed to seek out man's. Oh we try and we try to be Christ-like and followers of Christ but it's a little hard when we are striving after the wold hoping that someday it will tell us that we are somebody" [this is a paraphrase of course, but in a nutshell this was his remark, kind of eye-opening

actually​

]

But I believe the church is

illequipt​

in teaching our men how to be servants, servants to their families and

ministring​

to their families. Same with the women too because they want to be too much like the world also.

indeed. We have been preaching a worldly christianity for so long I kind of wonder if anyone in western culture even remembers what it means to BE a Christian.

 

[Princess Pea]

A friend recently shared a thought-provoking theory with me. Totally un-PC, but interesting and consideration worthy none the less.

She pointed out that the problem was not the discrepancy in figures... It's just that following the logic of human nature and spiritual inclination, a christian woman seeks a husband who is as, or more, committed to Christ than her, and equally mature in his spiritual walk. Chosing a husband who is less advanced or committed quicky becomes problematical - it's likely to cause permanent stress and worry to the woman, maybe cause nagging, and very often intimidate the man. Women, however liberated they may be, do not want to find themselves in a position of "teaching" their man. And men often hate being in a position where their wife is teaching them...

Christian men are able to comfortably date women "all the way down the pyramid" of spiritual maturity. It is not that important to them if they are less advanced in their walk with Christ, or less knowledgeable about scriptures. That makes the pool of available women to them constantly growing and expanding. In the case of the woman, it decreases each time she grows.

The more committed to Christ a woman is, the harder it is for her to find a husband. Even presuming demographical equality in churches (unfortunately far from the case), there will be less men from her to chose from. The man can chose from the whole spectrum, the woman finds herself limiting her prospects because of necessarily harsher requirements.

Women do, therefore, find themselves trapped in a paradoxical box where they suddenly take conscience that their spiritual commitment to growing in the faith entails a growing sacrifice of their personal prospects.

There I hope that was understandable. Please discuss... I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.

I think you're right on.

 

[Niels]

I'm not a fan of gender wars. Quite frankly, most of these nasty stereotypes run contrary to what I know to be true, so I'm unsubscribing from the thread.

Don't know. I only want one though And so far, God hasn't brought Him to me. I believe that if it is meant to be, that God will orchestrate my life and that guy's life (whoever he is) so that we meet. Even if it seems impossible to us....the waiting is just the hardest!!!!

It just takes one. When I find her, it will totally be worth it.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I understand I'm looking from outside here. And I may be inaccurate in my description, but usually when someone makes their list, godliness is on it, but when the crush finally comes, it's off the list. Though that is of no consequence to me, just an observation. I don't know about religion and making church look more attractive, but it's not about us. It's about God. That's all that matters really. The other stuff will come. What's the scripture? Seek God's kingdom and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. What has "church" become?

 

[Cjwinnit]

I only go to Christian bars

I was about to say "the altar rail doesn't count" but I think Thomas1984 beat me to it

 

[JonMiller]

I think a decent number of us feel frustrated/etc with the opposite sex. This comes out in a lot of the threads here.

JM

 

[5pointCalvinist]

I really don't see the problem with being single. I think it is a blessing in disguise.

 

[Veryangrymonk]

Right here dang it!!