Why sooo hard?

[peacechild4]

Hi Godsgirl4ever,

I wouldn't worry so much about the cussing at this point.. but dwell more on your relationship with the Lord and walking in the Spirit.. As the Word says by walking in the Spirit our flesh has no control... cussing would not be a problem..

Good answer also Reann.. to hide Gods Word in your heart.. from Psalm 119


Focusing on God who is perfect and His Word which is truth and not the sin..

Romans 13:14
Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.

Galations 5:16
So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature.

For all of us there is something.. we do which we know is not right.. for you cussing right now for others___________... We could all fill in the blank with some answer or another couple..

Isn't this a good one..

Philippians 1:6
being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

God bless you.. We will all get there because we have God to help us... He is doing a good work in us if we give him our heart and the Word makes us pliable!!

 

[Johnnz]

Hi again,

Sometimes we just develop bad habits. Then we must unlearn them, and that takes a bit of time and effort.

Sometimes there is more too it. We can be really angry and hurt, often over childhood experiences. We may busy that anger, but it remains within, like a smouldering volcano, ready to erupt at teh sligest trigger. Or, we can be really frustrated for a long period, and just can't cope with more things goig wrong.

Can you identify with any of this?

John
NZ

 

[bethdinsmore]

Hi there--

Before I was a believer, I cursed a lot. After I was saved, I asked the Lord to take those words away, and He did - except for one, which I still blurt out occasionally. Even tho God has given me victory over several huge things, that one word still lingers. I have decided it is to keep me humble, to remind me how far God has brought me.

But in your case, I would guess that it's because you haven't learned to "let go and let God". (I am supposing that you have already trusted in Christ as your sinbearer, without any good works of your own.)

We learned to let go of our own salvation, and trust in Christ to do the work. It's the same thing in our Christian life - we need to trust in God to do the work, and in this case we just cooperate with him.

*giving up (here's my story, though the problems were more extreme than in your post): I felt like a lion was pursuing me across the top of a mesa. No matter how fast I ran, he was slowly catching up to me. Finally I felt myself nearing the edge, and I was forced to give up trying to help myself. I had two choices: either be destroyed (mental collapse), or leap off the edge and hope God would catch me. I cried out to God, "Lord, I can't fix myself - if you don't fix me, I'm not going to be fixed."
*reading Scripture and about other's experiences: "They Found the Secret" can be ordered from a Christian bookstore - It tells the story of many Christians who learned how;
*learning that nature abhors a vacumn - so everytime a negative thought about God or myself would hit me, I wouldn't just stop thinking that, I would also repeat the truth to myself, often using Scripture to counter-act the lie. (for some verses, see "My Memory Verses" page on my website). This could apply to you and your cursewords, for example: when you curse, you could pray, and then say a Scripture or say something to yourself that would fit in these guidelines: Philippians 4:6-8 (lovely, good, etc.). As God's Word says so often, "put off and put on". It can get tiresome, but it helps get the job done.
*and here's a pretty good prayer (you're probably familiar with the first part):

"The Serenity Prayer

[font=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. [/font]


[font=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]"Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen."[/font] [font=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif][size=-1]--Reinhold Niebuhr[/size][/font]



God bless you, friend. I'll pray for your mouth



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[jab6q]

i think itz easy to control, just replace them with words that sound close to them

or

wear a rubber band on your arm, and snap your wrist everytime you cuss

 

[Tamara77777]

I think it is a 'heart' conditon...first of all repent for swearing all the time, and then ask God to put a watch over your mouth...and help you by cleansing you inside out. Then get into the Word of God, cause is is by the washing of the water of the word that we are cleansed. If you slip just simply say, forgive me LOrd, go easy on yourself! Also you might want to see if there are people in your life you hang out with that swear all the time, cause it can be a habit.

Blessings, Tamara77777

hi yo'll,
why is it soo hard to stop cursing cause i'm trying to stop can you please give me adive on how to stop?
Thankz
Godsgirl4ever

 

[godsgirl4ever]

UPDATE: thankz for all the advice ya'll gave me.
i Now don't swear but only when i get really really mad . anyone ? advice ? plz?

 

[UnitynLove]

What if I told you that the source of most of your problems could be found within you—from the neck up? You'll find them in the thoughts that come from your mind and the words that come from your mouth.

We must realize and understand the power carried by our thoughts and words. They are so powerful that they can bring either blessings or curses into our lives, depending on their nature. Our thoughts and words are like the rudder of a ship—they may seem small, but they affect the very direction of our lives.

Many years ago, my life was in a state of chaos because of years of wrong thinking and speaking. I had encountered so many disappointments because of all the devastating things that had happened to me. I was afraid to believe that anything good might happen. In fact, my philosophy of life was, "If you keep your expectations low, you'll never be disappointed."

Over the years, I became very cynical and negative. I often said that if I had two positive thoughts in a row, my mind would have gotten a cramp. My thoughts were negative, which caused my words to be negative...which all reflected poorly on my life.

Finally I decided to change my ways and stop talking so negatively. After a while I realized that I needed to do more than just not talk negatively. Cutting out the negative wasn't enough; I had to begin to think and talk positively!

For example, a person sneezes and says, "Oh, I'm probably getting the flu." Or someone hears a rumor that the company he works for is going to lay off some employees, so he thinks,That's the story of my life—every time things start to go well, something always happens. Then he says, "I'll probably lose my job." These types of negative statements seem to come so naturally to all of us. We need to discipline ourselves to be more positive—it's not so easy!

When we react negatively, we allow fear to take over our thinking. We begin to dwell on things that haven't even happened, and may not happen. Our negative thoughts cause us to speak the words that will shape our future.

We're constantly tempted to think wrong thoughts, but we don't have to accept them! We have a choice! We need to purposely choose right thinking and speaking.

In the Bible, Proverbs 18:21 says, Death and life are in the power of the tongue.... We must choose life-generating thoughts. When we do, positive, powerful, life-giving words will naturally follow. I think some people try to control their mouths but do nothing about their thoughts. That is like pulling off the top of a weed--unless the root is dug up, the weed always comes back. You'll never control your mouth, unless you first learn to control your mind.

Believing is the first important step in switching our thinking from negative to positive. Remember, what is in our hearts and minds will come out of our mouths. If our soul (mind, will, and emotions) is full of negative things, we'll find those things coming our way. On the other hand, when we hear, read, think, and talk about God, the truth, and more positive things, we'll find that those good things will come our way. The choice is ours!

 

[bumblebee62331]

hi yo'll,
why is it soo hard to stop cursing cause i'm trying to stop can you please give me adive on how to stop?
Thankz
Godsgirl4ever

I curse a fair bit too.

One idea is to get a Swear Jar. Put 10c in it every time you swear. You MUST put money in it. If you don't have the money, put a piece of paper with an IOU or get someone to write down a chore you have to do. At the end of ever month, donate the money to charity and/or do the chores too.

Soon you will clean up your language...while cleaning the shower... It's been helping me.

 

[bumblebee62331]

UPDATE: thankz for all the advice ya'll gave me.
i Now don't swear but only when i get really really mad . anyone ? advice ? plz?

That's great news!!

Have you tried taking a deep breath and counting to ten before you speak, when you're mad?

You know that you swear when you are mad, so when you can feel yourself getting mad or getting into a situation that might end up with you being mad, how about you stop and think and try to slow down your mind so you can pre-empt your swearing and stop it before it even exits your mouth?

 

[huk]

hi yo'll,
why is it soo hard to stop cursing cause i'm trying to stop can you please give me adive on how to stop?
Thankz
Godsgirl4ever

why is it soo hard to stop cursing cause i'm trying to stop can you please give me adive on how to stop?

Yea, Don't do it!!

 

[NJA]

i Now don't swear but only when i get really really mad . anyone ? advice ? plz?

Yes, nothing should make you "really mad". What is doing it ?

 

[newyorknewyork]

http://www.gotquestions.org/cussing-swearing.html