I felt so upset when I realized that the guy whom I liked, abused my offer to be there for him, by lying to me that he needed me to be there for him cos he felt he wasn't good enough for work, when in fact he was upset that the other girl he wanted was not showing much interest in him in return.
How can someone do this to someone who likes him? Abusing her love? How can he come to her for "support" and "love" and hugs, when he is feeling sad that someone else he likes seems to be ignoring him, or when she isn't around for him? And worse, how can he lie to the person who likes him? He calls her his "friend", but treats her more like a disrespected backup whom he turns to when things don't go well with his main interest, and expects on-demand love and support from? He one-sidedly determined this "friend" to be his support, and therefore expected her to make him feel better whenever he felt low cos of his main interest. And when she did not, he would get upset with her. ><
To use your admirer's feelings for you isn't right in the first place, to call her and lead her on as your "friend", while treating her as a disrespected backup for your own pleasure and ego boost, is even worse, and then worse than that, is how he immediately dropped that "admirer", after she found out about what he had been up to, and how he had only been leading her on to use her in that way for up to 2 years plus.
All along she hoped for more with him, and tried to be a good friend to him. Yet he just took her pretty much for granted, treating her shabbily whenever she was around, yet not letting her leave (and even got upset), whenever she wanted to move on from him. He would be pleased that she still liked him and could not get over him, and wanted her love for himself. Yet he wasn't willing to respect her or love her or commit to her in return, but only sought to keep her around as a backup, or lead her on so as to experience being chased and desired by her, with little interest in her in return.
He also wanted sex from this admirer, and got upset when he could not get it from her. He would be proud, tell her he still wanted to meet her, but then turn her down easily, cancel plans last-minute, or only make last minute or very loose plans with her, and also go tell his main interest about how this girl was desperately trying to chase him (when he was the one who led her on to, in a way). So as to look desirable in front of his main interest.
And the very moment this admirer of his realized all that he had been doing, she confronted him, and he quickly ignored her and dropped her altogether, saying that he no longer has time for her. By this time he already managed to be with his main interest. After having used his admirer as his backup for two years, and chasing his main interest at the same time, his main interest finally broke up with her ex-boyfriend and returned his interest. And as he realized he could no longer use this admirer of his, he decided to drop her just like that.
How could someone be like this guy?
Why is he like this? ><
How can someone do this to someone who likes him? Abusing her love? How can he come to her for "support" and "love" and hugs, when he is feeling sad that someone else he likes seems to be ignoring him, or when she isn't around for him? And worse, how can he lie to the person who likes him? He calls her his "friend", but treats her more like a disrespected backup whom he turns to when things don't go well with his main interest, and expects on-demand love and support from? He one-sidedly determined this "friend" to be his support, and therefore expected her to make him feel better whenever he felt low cos of his main interest. And when she did not, he would get upset with her. ><
To use your admirer's feelings for you isn't right in the first place, to call her and lead her on as your "friend", while treating her as a disrespected backup for your own pleasure and ego boost, is even worse, and then worse than that, is how he immediately dropped that "admirer", after she found out about what he had been up to, and how he had only been leading her on to use her in that way for up to 2 years plus.
All along she hoped for more with him, and tried to be a good friend to him. Yet he just took her pretty much for granted, treating her shabbily whenever she was around, yet not letting her leave (and even got upset), whenever she wanted to move on from him. He would be pleased that she still liked him and could not get over him, and wanted her love for himself. Yet he wasn't willing to respect her or love her or commit to her in return, but only sought to keep her around as a backup, or lead her on so as to experience being chased and desired by her, with little interest in her in return.
He also wanted sex from this admirer, and got upset when he could not get it from her. He would be proud, tell her he still wanted to meet her, but then turn her down easily, cancel plans last-minute, or only make last minute or very loose plans with her, and also go tell his main interest about how this girl was desperately trying to chase him (when he was the one who led her on to, in a way). So as to look desirable in front of his main interest.
And the very moment this admirer of his realized all that he had been doing, she confronted him, and he quickly ignored her and dropped her altogether, saying that he no longer has time for her. By this time he already managed to be with his main interest. After having used his admirer as his backup for two years, and chasing his main interest at the same time, his main interest finally broke up with her ex-boyfriend and returned his interest. And as he realized he could no longer use this admirer of his, he decided to drop her just like that.
How could someone be like this guy?
Why is he like this? ><
