Why is there separation?

[rhema glory]

~Desi do you have a sister or a daughter(assuming your not married) Would you stand in the way of your sister seperating from a physically abusive husband! I agree w/ you that too many ppl are getting divorced over minute things,that are for selfish reasons. I would never condone divorce ,even for adultry(unless it is repetitive.) You just seem to be very cold towards the women here(from the threads I've read today)who have gone through a horrid relationship. perhaps you could make some productive suggestions.... like what should these ladies do when your husband punches you, or what to do if he slaps you around in front of your children? Instead of just saying it's not biblical why not offer some sound/alternative advice? Just a sugestion

 

[SkyeBlue8]

Michael,

As I'm sure you and everyone else knows, it can be tough typing your opinion out on a message board, without looking like you said something totally different than what you were really trying to say! Lack of eye contact, voice tone, etc, can really mess things up.

When I said divorce was "ok" and that "maybe it's impossible to get over infidelity..." I didn't use the right words. I should have said "permissable" as I know that God's first choice would be for us to work out our marriages. And I should have said "it can be extremely difficult" instead of "impossible" for people to get over adultery. Cuz of course God can change us, if we are willing.

I'm just very one-sided with this particular issue. Honestly I would never be able to stay with my husband if he cheated, I'd get a divorce hands down. I would'nt be able to stay with a man who did that to me, but that's my own opinion.
I'm amazed by those who do work out their marriages after infidelity, I think it takes an immensely strong person!!! Stonger than myself obviously, cuz that's an area where I say One strike You're out.
I just had to clarify that stuff, I don't wanna be misunderstood.

 

[desi]

~Desi do you have a sister or a daughter(assuming your not married) Would you stand in the way of your sister seperating from a physically abusive husband! I agree w/ you that too many ppl are getting divorced over minute things,that are for selfish reasons. I would never condone divorce ,even for adultry(unless it is repetitive.) You just seem to be very cold towards the women here(from the threads I've read today)who have gone through a horrid relationship. perhaps you could make some productive suggestions.... like what should these ladies do when your husband punches you, or what to do if he slaps you around in front of your children? Instead of just saying it's not biblical why not offer some sound/alternative advice? Just a sugestion

If one of my daughter's husbands hurt her I would motivate them never to do it again. If they did it again I would make it so they couldn't do it again. I've spent too much effort raising my daughters for them to tolerate such nonsense, or to choose such losers. As the father it is my duty to handle the men in my daughters lives when they become wrong, if something should happen to me my son and or father will take on such duties. Women should not have to put up with abusive men, nor should they choose them for husbands if they know better.

 

[seekfirst]

If one of my daughter's husbands hurt her I would motivate them never to do it again. If they did it again I would make it so they couldn't do it again. I've spent too much effort raising my daughters for them to tolerate such nonsense, or to choose such losers. As the father it is my duty to handle the men in my daughters lives when they become wrong, if something should happen to me my son and or father will take on such duties. Women should not have to put up with abusive men, nor should they choose them for husbands if they know better.

Just curious on how you would make sure they didn't do it again?