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Why is it so hard to forgive myself?

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Thankful For Grace

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Dear Cindy,

Humans are always flawed and the products of their own struggles.

God will never leave you nor forsake you. Hang on to that fact.

Blessings,

tfg

Dear lifewanderer,

Pain hurts--it just really does. Lies hurt, also. You are having a normal reaction. I am praying for you that you can forgive, for your own sake.

God's blessings and love to you,

tfg
 
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UnitynLove

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When do you start liking yourself?

I've been so mean to myself. I repeat over and over "I hate me." I don't take care of me. I get angry and punish myself mentally and physically. I don't listen to my pain, reach out or openly grieve when I need to cry.

When does the self-punishment end?

God has forgiven me.

Why is it so hard to forgive myself?

This isn't what God wants.

There must be some need to victimize myself over and over. Otherwise I would forgive myself, right?

Cindy

Sorry but God does want you to forgive yourself. If you don't what you are saying initially is that What Jesus did on the cross was not enough to wipe away my sins past, present, and future so therefore I need to add my sacrifice to atone for my sins. If you believe in Jesus then you believe in what he did on the cross, "behold the lamb which taketh away the sin of world" then you must take the gift of his sacrifice this is exactly what God wants you to do.
 
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UnitynLove

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Thank you all for your words and for listening.

Right now though I'm thinking that this world is so screwed up and that there is just no goodness anywhere. :-(

I can't see any reason for forgiveness of myself because it just isn't worth it.

It just isn't worth it. :-(

I see no change. No hope. No compassion. Nothing. I see only ridicule. To be honest. I don't really care anymore. None of this world is worth it.

Now go make fun of me. :-(

I'm sure I deserve it. Yep.......that would be the christian thing to do, world. I don't fit in anyway.

Man, I hate this existence.

Don't give up on yourself. Maybe you just need a refreshment in love. Love for yourself and others.

Believers living under the New Testament have one commandment, which is to love as Jesus loved.
By keeping this one commandment we fulfill all other commandments given to stop sin.
JOHN 15:12 NKJ
12 "This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.
JOHN 13:34 NKJ
34 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
1 JOHN 3:23 NKJ
23 And this is His commandment: that we should believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another, as He gave us commandment.
One command summarizes God's will -- yet there are many aspects or outworkings of it.
Divine Love A Sign Of Divine Life 1 JOHN 3:10,14-15 NKJ
10 In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother.
14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death.
15 Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.
Natural, unregenerate humans do not have the ability to love as Jesus loved. We must have God's life in us to manifest God's love through us.
ROMANS 5:5 NKJ
5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
1 JOHN 4:7-8 NKJ
7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.
8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
JOHN 13:35 NKJ
35 "By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."
Love Fulfills The Law GALATIANS 5:14 NKJ
14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."
ROMANS 13:9-10 NKJ
9 For the commandments, "You shall not commit adultery," "You shall not murder," "You shall not steal," "You shall not bear false witness," "You shall not covet," and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."
10 Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.
How Love Acts The opposite of walking in divine love is not only walking in hate -- but walking in selfishness.
1 JOHN 3:16-18 NKJ
16 By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
17 But whoever has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?
18 My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.
EPHESIANS 4:31-5:2 NKJ
31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you.
1 Therefore be followers of God as dear children.
2 And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.
Love is the nature of God. He desires for us to be like He is.
Love Should Control Us 2 CORINTHIANS 5:14 NKJ
14 For the love of Christ constrains us, because we judge thus: that if One died for all, then all died;
1 CORINTHIANS 14:1 NKJ
1 Pursue love . . . .
1 JOHN 5:3 NKJ
3 For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome.
2 JOHN 1:6 NKJ
6 This is love, that we walk according to His commandments. This is the commandment, that as you have heard from the beginning, you should walk in it.
Without Love You Are Nothing 1 CORINTHIANS 13:1-3 NKJ
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become as sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Love Explained 1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-7 NKJ
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love Produces Victory 1 CORINTHIANS 13:8 NKJ
8 Love never fails . . . .
1 JOHN 2:10-11 NKJ
10 He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him.
11 But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.
GALATIANS 5:6 NKJ
6 For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision avails anything, but faith working through love.
Conclusion 1 JOHN 4:19-21 NKJ
19 We love Him because He first loved us.
21 And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.
 
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