We can cling to our identity, though. You want your personality to survive your death, that is attachment in its basic nature.
Well this brings something very significant to light! C doesn't really say this. Again, what it says is "it does not yet appear what we shall be." Now I'm not saying your preconception here isn't rooted in what many, even most C's profess, but this one small quote is enough to dismiss the notion as false nontheless. (For a Bible believer, that is)
We think our 'self' is a possession of ours, when in Buddhist terms, it isn't.
Then this aspect of Buddhism prepares you to embrace the very core of the Gospel, which is also that we are not our own, but bought with a price. Common ground! Curious that you thought this would be divisive.
Nondualism and monism are nuanced distinctions we'd need to make here. Christianity wouldn't really call itself monism, I'd imagine, but nondualism seems questionable as well in some sense, since distinction of the human and the divine seems necessary even in some supposed afterlife. After all, we can't be God, but only come close to resembling it.
This speaks about things I'm not sure about. EO has the concept of "theosis" that directly refutes what you say here, and I'm pretty sure becomes complete in this life. Anyway, we are not G-d so making that distinction doesn't address the idea of dualism at all. This is where our "3rd arm" analogy came in.
Well, part of it could just be etymology. Spirit as understood is breath and soul is usually connected with the mind, as in psyche or similar terms in Greek or Latin, or even the Hebrew understanding of nephesh versus ruach, soul versus spirit.
But what exactly do these refer to? Obviously a Jewish upbringing would help towards the Biblical understanding, and for the most part what we're conscious of is the soul; emotions etc. But there are times we can become conscious of the spirit as well.
Again, the only distinction that matters to our conversation here and recognizing G-d Himself as distinct from our own person, and the chief indicator is His eternal nature - EL. "Life" because we can tap into Him.
This soul / spirit distinction does NOT line up w/ our conscious vs sub-conscious. Meditation chiefly brings us in touch w/ our own sub-conscious which is highly valuable, but it is a typical human reaction to conclude that's all there is. I understand that in your experience that may be true, but my presence here speaks to the contrary. (As does the existence of CF. And the Church.)
Spirit doesn't have to be unified necessarily except in its nature. There can be spiritual things without there having to be one overriding spirit, so to speak. It isn't any confusion so much when we consider the human spirit as distinct in some sense, but not completely separate from the Holy Spirit
Well obviously this is a divergence between C and the belief systems you embrace more closely. C shows the distinctions btw the natural human spirit vs G-d, who is so Powerful that merely by drawing near Him our very spirits are changed
So death is only a result of conflict and not something built into nature...though that is usually claimed to be a result of the fall, which only seems to add more preconceptions into the discussion that seem unnecessary. There's no reason to believe the fall was literal or had any effect on our biology that therefore caused us to be subject to death.

While this is a totally unrelated tangent, I truly do not believe you are completely unfamiliar with the "design flaws" found by Ev proponents. These are ALL explained perfectly by a literal fall, which was solid Judeo-Christian doctrine long before we ever conceived of any such things as the current ID / Cr / Ev debates.
The bible can say many things on many subjects and not necessarily have a completely unified idea about everything.
that doesn't mean it would necessarily be absolutely unified or clear about its metaphysics or phenomenology.
There is mystery left unexplained in the Bible, that's for sure! If those instances are all you mean by "not completely unified," well then ok. But if one is seeing contradictions, that person shouldn't be sure they understand what
any of it means yet. Those contradictions can be sorted out, and
must be before the Bible becomes too terribly useful. I hold this to be "the Faith once delivered to the Saints." I've still never referred to that as "absolutely unified," nor what I argue that's an appropriate term.
Why am I suddenly reminded of the Oneness sect, which has an interesting view on the Trinity that would require another thread and research on my part? Oneness seems to be key to the Jewish notion of God, but then the Triune nature seems to be emphasized moreso by modern Christians, which might be part of why the 3 elements are emphasized so much.
My only address of this is that modern C (including CF) emphasizes this entirely too much. Various revelations are intended to
help us understand G-d Himself, not to divide.
So you're saying it's not about whether I desire it or not, but whether I accept it as true?
I don't think I'd posit that either / or. Right now it's raining, mixed with hail, and about 30 degrees. I could go out in a bathing suit like it was the middle of summer and convince myself it was, but I'd still get pelted and chilled. So our new analogy is "what is this hail stuff like?"

(Hypothetically assuming for the moment it was something you'd never seen)
Again, understanding the answer to your main question of the thread in no way implies consent, acceptance, or anything else besides understanding the concept.
Eternal life then is potentiality first and actuality later, it sounds like, to use medieval philosophy terms I gleaned from Aquinas.
C is transforming dormant potentiality into an actual difference in this world. This is what it means to "live a C life," but now we're WAY ahead of ourselves!
Does this language make it any easier for you to grasp?
I would to ask why you feel the need to attach yourself to God, but in theory one might argue this isn't clinging or attachment, but refuge[/QUOTE]
Now THIS is a profitable new line of questioning!
Refuge fits in perfectly with Scriptural ideas, a la Psalm 91:
"He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
Psa 91:2 I will say of the LORD, [He is] my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
Psa 91:3 Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, [and] from the noisome pestilence.
Psa 91:4 He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth [shall be thy] shield and buckler.
Psa 91:5 Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; [nor] for the arrow [that] flieth by day;
Psa 91:6 [Nor] for the pestilence [that] walketh in darkness; [nor] for the destruction [that] wasteth at noonday.
Psa 91:7 A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; [but] it shall not come nigh thee.
Psa 91:8 Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.
Psa 91:9 Because thou hast made the LORD, [which is] my
refuge, [even] the most High, thy habitation;
Psa 91:10 There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling."
Attachment and cling are also acceptable, but notice it is not to ourselves. "He must increase, and I must decrease."
So to address your question of "why do I feel the need to?" The fact is this is not natural at all. And I don't like the idea of G-d "calling" some, while not calling others. Even the called don't naturally feel this, but are naturally much more inclined to respond to the flesh.
But then again, why are interested in Spirituality at all? So I say yes there is common ground ...