Why is dating the unsaved easier?

[If Not For Grace]

having gone out with an unsaved woman for 4 years

4 YEARS? (Why anyone would date 4 years at our age is beyond me)
Relationships usually either move forward or they die. Dating matures into love/marriage or usually ends. Most women I know especially at our age are either looking to complete the Adam/Eve thing (marriage) or not looking at all (Been there and done it for most of em, ended one way or another).

I find mature Christian Women to be less "needy" (I use that for lack of a better word). Women in this age range are usually widowed/divorced and not looking to have children and are in/nearing menopause and less marriage minded. They are often financially secure and have their "own" homes, lives, friends, jobs and a good support group setting within Church/Volunteer type activities. It takes someone very special to come into and existing setting like this and get much attention.

These may just be age related problems---I had buried 2 husbands in 10 years
(1 good, 1 bad) so I figured I'd quit while I was ahead. i really was not lonely, I had a group of friends for socializing and did not look much to men for any relationship outside of that of husband(s). Most of the men I dated "Christian or otherwise" just wanted a sexual experience or a part time cook domestic type. I did not meet that criteria

Later, I fell pray to a matchmaking "friend" of mine who was in love herself and went out with a guy just to shut her up--we are now married and I'm very happy. I do not believe who we marry is pre-destined, just that we should seek out "Christians" and not end up unequally-yoked if we can avoid it.

I hated dating and the stupid games everybody (including me) seemed to play, so I just did not. If you want a good relationship with a woman get out there and you will find one. You have to make yourself available and go where the women are.

If you want a buddy, women may not be the best bet--.