Why I hate Lust

[cedric1200]

I hate lust. But this an area I've struggled with for years, and it's hard to just stop lusting. This particular sin is an area that has had a stronghold on my life since I was a little kid.

I want to stop lusting, and not because God tells me to stop. There are actually secular reasons why I want to stop lusting.

1. I won't see people as sex objects.
2. I would feel more independent. I would not want anyone.
3. I would not get jealous of somebody for having someone that I can't have.
4. I would be able to control my body and bring it under submission, and it would obey me, not my hormones.
5. I would not be depressed. Why lust after something you can't have? That's depressing.
6. I would be able to talk to people and respect them with my thoughts.
7. I would not feel guilty. When I think about people in a lustful way, I think to myself "if this person knew what I was thinking about them, how would they respond? Not good."
8. I would be content in my single life.
9. I would be able to focus on things that matter most. When I lust after somebody, I find it hard to concentrate. Say that I had a teacher in college that I was attracted to. That would be difficult to focus on the subject at hand.
10. And I would not only be repecting the object of my lust, but I would be respecting their spouse or their future spouse.

I can't find any other reasons why. But lust is a cancer. I just have to find ways to occupy my mind.

 

[cedric1200]

Love is the great conqueror of lust.

 

[cedric1200]

Malice is the devil's picture. Lust makes men brutish; malice makes them devilish-it is mental murder.

 

[cedric1200]

The nurse of infedelity is sensuality.

 

[Neogaia777]

Love is the great conqueror of lust.

Ditto, I agree with this...

God Bless!

 

[cedric1200]

Ditto, I agree with this...

God Bless!

God bless you too

 

[Autumnleaf]

Some women like sex a lot. Those women need a man. You could marry one.

 

[PsychoSarah]

So, aren't you committing just another sin by HATING it?

 

[Audacious]

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. I like the fact that sex is a part of my life. I don't actually have sex (see: my user title), but sexual things are totally awesome and healthy. Why try to hide it? What harm does it actually do to admit that, as human beings, we are sexual?

I'm not saying to go have an orgy, but some of this "be super stingy about sex" stuff is really unhealthy and not even biblical. I mean, you're feeling guilty about something that is a natural urge that you can't even stop. That doesn't seem weird to you? Oppressive?

 

[PsychoSarah]

Some women like sex a lot. Those women need a man. You could marry one.

Unless they prefer women, then in some places they can marry each other.

 

[Neogaia777]

So, aren't you committing just another sin by HATING it?

"hating" sin, isn't a "sin", not anywhere that I can find in the Bible anyway, even Jesus himself, "Hated" sin, like God, the Father does, as he hated the self-righteous, false piety, false humility sins of the Pharisees "acts" but Jesus loved the sinner...

 

[PsychoSarah]

"hating" sin, isn't a "sin", not anywhere that I can find in the Bible anyway, even Jesus himself, "Hated" sin, like God, the Father does, as he hated the self-righteous, false piety, false humility sins of the Pharisees "acts" but Jesus loved the sinner...

Fair enough, although i do think actively hating it is less productive than seeking to spread positive feelings.

 

[lisah]

I hate lust. But this an area I've struggled with for years, and it's hard to just stop lusting. This particular sin is an area that has had a stronghold on my life since I was a little kid.

I want to stop lusting, and not because God tells me to stop. There are actually secular reasons why I want to stop lusting.

1. I won't see people as sex objects.
2. I would feel more independent. I would not want anyone.
3. I would not get jealous of somebody for having someone that I can't have.
4. I would be able to control my body and bring it under submission, and it would obey me, not my hormones.
5. I would not be depressed. Why lust after something you can't have? That's depressing.
6. I would be able to talk to people and respect them with my thoughts.
7. I would not feel guilty. When I think about people in a lustful way, I think to myself "if this person knew what I was thinking about them, how would they respond? Not good."
8. I would be content in my single life.
9. I would be able to focus on things that matter most. When I lust after somebody, I find it hard to concentrate. Say that I had a teacher in college that I was attracted to. That would be difficult to focus on the subject at hand.
10. And I would not only be repecting the object of my lust, but I would be respecting their spouse or their future spouse.

I can't find any other reasons why. But lust is a cancer. I just have to find ways to occupy my mind.

Actually learning to care about others, aside from whatever it is they can do for you, might be helpful.

I have to ask though, is this genuine? Is lust a constant state? If so, why? Why allow your contentment to be in someone else's hands?

Or, might it be loneliness that is hidden beneath your lust, and lust occupies your mind to avoid loneliness?

 

[Neogaia777]

Fair enough, although i do think actively hating it is less productive than seeking to spread positive feelings.

The one and only way to conquer lust (and other sins) through a positive feeling that I can think of is with/through Love...

God Bless!

 

[cedric1200]

Fair enough, although i do think actively hating it is less productive than seeking to spread positive feelings.

I like your uername by the way.

But you are not wrong, Sarah. I spend so much time just hating myself.

 

[cedric1200]

The one and only way to conquer lust (and other sins) through a positive feeling that I can think of is with/through Love...

God Bless!

I know. I just have to figure out how to do that. I don't want to form friendships where I can get hurt.

 

[cedric1200]

Actually learning to care about others, aside from whatever it is they can do for you, might be helpful.

I have to ask though, is this genuine? Is lust a constant state? If so, why? Why allow your contentment to be in someone else's hands?

Or, might it be loneliness that is hidden beneath your lust, and lust occupies your mind to avoid loneliness?

I am lonely. But I want to be happy within myself. Not in other people. For they will disappear anyways.

 

[cedric1200]

Some women like sex a lot. Those women need a man. You could marry one.

{laughing} Yeah, that's never gonna happen.

 

[ThinkForYourself]

... I spend so much time just hating myself.

Is that in part because you are a fallen sinner?

 

[cedric1200]

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. I like the fact that sex is a part of my life. I don't actually have sex (see: my user title), but sexual things are totally awesome and healthy. Why try to hide it? What harm does it actually do to admit that, as human beings, we are sexual?

I'm not saying to go have an orgy, but some of this "be super stingy about sex" stuff is really unhealthy and not even biblical. I mean, you're feeling guilty about something that is a natural urge that you can't even stop. That doesn't seem weird to you? Oppressive?

I guess I find it the opposite. I find sexual desires more of a curse then a gift.