I was heavily involved with singles and other church activities.
Yes, there are various counterfeit versions of Christianity; and people use these counterfeits as their excuse to reject God. Plus, counterfeits can fight with each other, as if one of them has to be the right one.
So, in case you please to get into this, I hope to offer what I have found is in the Bible.
One basic of Christianity is we do not only hang out with people who are our own speed and age. We share with our mature seniors who are role models of how to be with God and submit to how He rules us in His peace > and how to relate in love with any other child of God while caring for any and all people. Jesus died with hope for any evil person, at all; so in God's love we have hope for any wrong horrible impossible person > love
"hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7).
But I was a Pharisee conceited misfit; so I because of my own character could just filter out whatever told me I needed to get a clue how to love, how to be intimate with God. People and scriptures all along were telling me about real Christianity, but my personality simply had me not getting it. I could find gentle and humble and quiet and kind people to be boring; this was not their fault.
One basic of our Christian calling is how we submit to how our Heavenly Father rules us with His own peace in our hearts >
"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)
So, God who is so superior is so not conceited, that He personally cares about each of us, so much that He desires to personally rule each of us for our good, while sharing His very own peace with us.
So, God is not just theoretical, but personal; but I was the one who was impersonal, and so this kept me from being capable of personally sharing with God and personally caring for any and all people.
There is no human label to put on God, but we need to personally submit to Him and trust how He personally rules us, all the time. And because we are not perfect, we need to constantly offer ourselves for how we need to be corrected (Hebrews 12:4-11) so we more and more share with Him intimately and submit to how He rules us in His peace.
And this feeds us into how we are all called to relate in love >
"I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." (Ephesians 4:1-3)
Our basic calling, then, as Christians, includes to love one another in God's gentle and humble love; so, of course, my lust stuff degraded me from this. And His peace is almighty to make us strong so we can do well while relating with various people, and not break down emotionally and get into hurts and arguing and complaining and unforgiveness; but my snobby show-off way of ministering got me hurt and bent out of shape and frustrated about not getting what I wanted from people. But God's love does not have us just using any person.
"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)
So, God's love has us being
"tenderhearted" with our various brothers and sisters, not picking and choosing whom we hope to use.
"For if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46) And, like I offer, we need to seek to share with our senior and very mature people who are our examples of how to be and relate. And then ourselves be gentle and humble, not trying to lord ourselves over others, to control and use them >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
Therefore, as you can see, there are plenty of people who do not want to do this; and they can easily find others who are counterfeits, and use false people as their excuse not to find out what real Christianity is. God is allowing us to be tested, by allowing the wrong ones to be in our midst; we need to obey God, in spite of however wrong people would be our excuse to get nasty and frustrated and unforgiving and self-righteously judging, and obey the good example of ones who are for real > Hebrews 13:17. There are people who are very clever > they stay where the leadership is wrong; and they excuse themselves from finding out who God trusts to
"take care of the church of God." (in 1 Timothy 3:1-10) This way, they can point their finger at the wrong people, and say how great they themselves are, but without finding out who are the real ones whom God trusts and expects us to obey > Hebrews 13:17.
So, a person needs to first trust in Jesus for salvation (Ephesians 1:12), receiving how Jesus crucified has obtained forgiveness and reconciliation with God. And then seek how God has us submitting to Him in His peace and finding out how our Heavenly Father has us relating in His love which is family love and all-loving even with ones who refuse to be gentle and humble in this love.
God's love is unconditional, then; He never gives up on us . . . even while humans conceitedly make themselves the judges of God and give up on Him. And God being unconditionally loving and forgiving is our example, also required of us . . . how He expects us to follow His example >
"Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma." (Ephesians 5:1-2)
"Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world." (1 John 4:17)
So, this is basic Bible. But ones who do not want God can easily filter out what they don't want Christianity to be, because they do not want to deal with what is required of us. And then they can invent some false version . . . a counterfeit . . . and say this is wrong and so they don't want it. But it is never wise to judge what is real, by means of judging counterfeits of it.