While I too am very happy to see your recantation of the error and false doctrine of Arminianism, the texts you mentioned in your original post were not addressed. I know the text that kept me from being Reformed (
Heresies - 2 Peter 2:1) had to be addressed prior to me making a commitment.
Today we have to deal with several types of misunderstandings. Besides the numerous types of false teaching of the cults, there is relativism "I believe the Scripture is teaching this and you can believe that the Scripture teaches something else." Though one or both of us is twisting, turning, and torturing the text, "I'm ok, you're ok" is the philosophy of many. There is also the classic scenario of just not understanding how to look at Scripture how to interpret it (an important reason for good teachers Eph. 4). Some assert:
While all these verses are connected, the above interpretation is far from the truth. However, it does illustrate how far some will go in their interpretation gymnastics. But there is no gold medal for them.
You mentioned some texts in your original post in which you built a foundation of your error. Since I did not see these dealt with (but I only read the first and last page of posts) I would like to comment briefly upon them. For instance, you mention:
1 John 2:2 - He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.
First, we need to realize that John was a Jew. Second, as a Jew he would embraced two people groups us and them, or more specifically Jews and Gentiles, or Jews and the rest of the world. Third, the term "world" has numerous definitions in Scripture. Take for instance part of A.W. Pink's study of the term "world" (kosmos) in Scripture:
Fourth, John is not here refuting what he wrote earlier concerning limited atonement. For instance, only those the Father gives Christ will come to will him (John 17:6, 9; 6:44, 65). Christ came to die for the sheep, not the goats (John 10:15). The Lamb's Book of Life written before the foundation of the world contains for whom Christ died (Rev. 13:8; 17:8). In essence, an interpretation of 1 John 2:2 which puts it at odds with the rest of what John and others (Paul, Peter, etc.) wrote cannot be correct. See
Atoning sacrifice - 1 John 2:2
Other texts were cited (1 Timothy 2:4, 2 Peter 3:9, Matthew 11:28) as meaning that God desires each and every person in the world without exception saved. However what does the "context" and the "words" actually mean in these texts?
For instance, in 1 Timothy 2:4, Paul is speaking about "all kinds of people" not every person in the whole world.
In 1 Tim. 2:1-3, the text just before 1 Tim. 2:4, Paul speaks about all kinds of prayers (requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving), but not every type of prayer (cf. imprecatory prayers such as Psalm 55:15, 69:28, and 109:8).
What Paul is doing is that in response to the narrow perspective of the false teachers (1 Tim 2:7; cf. 1 Tim 1:7), he addressed the issue of those for whom Christians should pray. As can be seen from the expression - "for kings and all those in authority" - this does not mean for "every human being" but rather for "all types of people," whatever their station in life. Paul makes this point thru-out his letter dealing with "all types of people" mentioning: (1) men 1 Tim 2:8), (2) women (1 Tim. 2:9-15), (3) young men (1 Tim. 4:12), (4) old men (1 Tim. 5:1-2), (5) old and young widows (1 Tim. 5:3-16), (6) slaves (1 Tim. 6:1-2), etc. Christ is the Savior of all types of people (1 Tim. 4:9-10).
Kistemaker reveals the "full counsel of God" (Acts 20:27) regarding the meaning of the term "all," does not always necessitate understanding it to mean "each and every without exception." What about:
Cleary, as demonstrated above, the meaning of the word "all" (or "every", or even "world," etc.) in these verses does not mean "every member of the human race." Paul is saying that Christ died for all kinds of sinners, but not every sinner.
As RC Sproul (Ligonier Ministries, the teaching fellowship of R.C. Sproul) explains:
See:
Everyone - 1 Timothy 2:1-3
2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with
you, not wanting anyone to perish, but
everyone to come to repentance.
Note that the scope of the word "everyone" (literally, "all") is qualified by the word "you." So, the repentance in view, for the sake of which God delays judgment, is that of God's people rather than that of the world at large. God is not willing that any of his elect should perish (John 10:28-29).
Matthew 11:28 Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
This verse must be interpreted with in the context of the preceding verse "All things have been committed to me by my Father. No one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son
and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him."
So, the ones being summoned by Christ's "come unto me, all you who" is qualified by the "no one knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him." The ones Christ is calling, are the same ones he is revealing the revelation of God too. This does not entail "everyone" without exception (cf. Matt. 25:31-46, et. al.). As Jesus says, "For if the miracles that were performed in you had been performed in Sodom, it would have remained to this day" (Matt. 11:22-24). In other words, Jesus did not do certain miracles in Sodom that would have caused them to repent. This is not unjust as the people in Sodom - save Lot - were not his people.
Arminians limit the Cross as only "an opportunity" for salvation. By claiming Christ died for every person without exception, Christ is seen as actually accomplishing the salvation of no one it merely provides a way. In other words, in order to say that Christ died for all men in the same way, the Arminian must limit the atonement to a powerless opportunity for men to save themselves from their own depravity. But they are dead in trespasses and sin (Eph. 2:1-3) and dead men cannot choose anything. So, in essence Arminianism offers a gospel another gospel (Gal. 1:6-9) which cannot save. On the other hand, in Calvinism we do not limit the power and effectiveness of God and his atonement. The Cross actually accomplished salvation for those whom Christ died (Isa. 53:11-12; Mark 10:45; Heb. 9:28; 13:20; cf. Tit. 2:14).
One of the arguments used against election is that it is "unjust." However, when understood biblically it is not. See if this helps:
Election - A Concise Account (PDF file read the first 4-5 pages).