Why does he stare at me?

[Emma2332]

He's a Christian we work together and often times I see him staring at me. Other people I work with say the same thing. We went to a church service not together. I was seated all the way in the back and I turn and I saw he was near the door entrance of the church, so I turned around and kept on talking.

The preacher called all of us to stand up, so as I was looking around to find somewhere to place my purse as I looked up everyone is facing forward. I look to the middle and he's staring hard directly at me. He's the only one out of the crowd of people facing my way. His body facing the front, but his neck was turned around.

Is that the way other Christians show their interests in another Christian?

If this isn't the right thread to post on can someone please be kind enough to direct me to the right one thank you.

 

[Neogaia777]

He's a Christian we work together and often times I see him staring at me. Other people I work with say the same thing. We went to a church service not together. I was seated all the way in the back and I turn and I saw he was near the door entrance of the church, so I turned around and kept on talking.

The preacher called all of us to stand up, so as I was looking around to find somewhere to place my purse as I looked up everyone is facing forward. I look to the middle and he's staring hard directly at me. He's the only one out of the crowd of people facing my way. His body facing the front, but his neck was turned around.

Is that the way other Christians show their interests in another Christian?

If this isn't the right thread to post on can someone please be kind enough to direct me to the right one thank you.

Confront him about it (but maybe not in front of, or in full sight/hearing range of everybody) matter of factly, but not angrily, and let him know 100% truthfully if you are, or are not interested in him or not, or maybe not in anybody at all right now or not, etc, and if you want him to stop, then just politely ask him, or request of him that he just please stop, etc.

If it continues after that, and you are against it, or don't like it, then you may have to talk to someone with some authority in that church like the pastor or somebody and explain to them about how you confronted him with it once already, and politely asked him to stop, but he's still doing it still, and it's now making you uncomfortable, etc, and ask them if they could maybe talk with him maybe, or if there is maybe something they can do about it or not, etc. If you're not at all interested in him, have confronted him once about it already, and politely asked/requested of him to stop, but it hasn't stopped, etc. But that's also only if you really want it to stop or not, etc. Because if you're considering him, then this might be the right time to start considering him, before you decide to confront him about it maybe, etc.

God Bless.

 

[Emma2332]

Confront him about it (but maybe not in front of, or in full sight/hearing range of everybody) matter of factly, but not angrily, and let him know 100% truthfully if you are, or are not interested in him or not, or maybe not in anybody at all right now or not, etc, and if you want him to stop, then just politely ask him, or request of him that he just please stop, etc.

If it continues after that, and you are against it, or don't like it, then you may have to talk to someone with some authority in that church like the pastor or somebody and explain to them about how you confronted him with it once already, and politely asked him to stop, but he's still doing it still, and it's now making you uncomfortable, etc, and ask them if they could maybe talk with him maybe, or if there is maybe something they can do about it or not, etc. If you're not at all interested in him, have confronted him once about it already, and politely asked/requested of him to stop, but it hasn't stopped, etc. But that's only if you want it to stop, etc.

God Bless.

I do like him and talked to him and he said he didn't have the time and he had a bad experience. He recently started dating this girl for about a month in a half. So I left it alone. I was busy doing my work and when my coworker said, when she looked up she saw him looking at me from top to bottom like checking me out she said he jumped when he noticed she saw him. I was totally confused because he has a girlfriend now. Now he's no longer with her. He broke it off with her after 2 months. He is a true believer in christ. He's a great guy, but I don't get why he says one thing and do another.

 

[Neogaia777]

I do like him and talked to him and he said he didn't have the time and he had a bad experience. He recently started dating this girl for about a month in a half. So I left it alone. I was busy doing my work and when my coworker said, when she looked up she saw him looking at me from top to bottom like checking me out she said he jumped when he noticed she saw him. I was totally confused because he has a girlfriend now. Now he's no longer with her. He broke it off with her after 2 months. He is a true believer in christ. He's a great guy, but I don't get why he says one thing and do another.

Sometimes guys/men, especially when they are younger (How old are you guys?) Anyway, sometimes especially younger guys/men will sometimes get caught checking another attractive woman out even when they are currently with somebody, etc, try not to judge it too harshly, etc, especially if you are both younger, and you are a very attractive girl/woman, etc. It doesn't necessarily always mean they want anything to happen or become of it always, etc.

I would still confront him about it sometime soon though, but probably only after you've had some time to think some things through, or think about it before you do though, etc. You might ask/tell him that unless he's truly interested in you, then you'd really appreciate it if he would stop staring at you and/or checking you out, etc, or maybe something to that effect maybe, and then take it from there, or see how things go at that point from there maybe, etc.

God Bless.

 

[Emma2332]

I'm into this guy 100%. I don't know why he's saying he's not into me but get caught staring. My som was given a dream that he had feelings for me. My son described him and never saw him. And my son said he had a beard and I said no he doesn't now I worked with him for 2 years and never seen him with a beard until one day I looked into the next room and there he was sitting there with a full beard. I was so shocked. Why would God reveal his feeling for me?

 

[Emma2332]

Sometimes guys/men, especially when they are younger (How old are you guys?) Anyway, sometimes especially younger guys/men will sometimes get caught checking another attractive woman out even when they are currently with somebody, etc, try not to judge it too harshly, etc, especially if you are both younger, etc.

I would still confront him about it sometime soon though, but probably only after you've had some time to think some things through, or think about it before you do though, etc. You might ask/tell him that unless he's truly interested in you, then you'd really appreciate it if he would stop staring at you and/or checking you out, etc, or maybe something to that effect maybe, and then take it from there, or see how things go at that point from there maybe, etc.

God Bless.

Ok. God bless u too!

 

[Neogaia777]

I'm into this guy 100%. I don't know why he's saying he's not into me but get caught staring. My som was given a dream that he had feelings for me. My son described him and never saw him. And my son said he had a beard and I said no he doesn't now I worked with him for 2 years and never seen him with a beard until one day I looked into the next room and there he was sitting there with a full beard. I was so shocked. Why would God reveal his feeling for me?

Check my editing that I did to my previous post. It doesn't always mean that they are truly interested in anything, etc. And so again, you might want to say something to him of maybe to the effect of that unless he wants it to be or become something, you'd rather he not lead you on by always checking you out, and/or staring, etc. And then see what happens after that, or how things go from there, etc.

God Bless.

 

[Emma2332]

Check my editing that I did to my previous post. It doesn't always mean that they are truly interested in anything, etc. And so again, you might want to say something to him of maybe to the effect of that unless he wants it to be or become something, you'd rather he not lead you on by always checking you out, and/or staring, etc. And then set what happens after that, or how things go from there, etc.

God Bless.

Ok thank-you

 

[SabbathBlessings]

Emma,

I think you are dealing with the laws of attraction. You say you are 100% in to him, even spoke to him about it and he told you he has a girlfriend. Even though he told you that you are still into him, and he is picking up on that and responding to it, which can be human nature if one doesn't control those lingering looks when they are committed, which is a sin.

My suggestion is to not speak to him again about it but to move on. Do you really want to be in a relationship with a guy who is flirting with other women when committed. What they do with one girlfriend they will do with another.

Spend time in prayer and focus on God and ask Him to bring the right guy for you.

God bless!

 

[Emma2332]

Maybe I should've explained myself better. After I found out he had s girlfriend I stopped looking at him in that way. After I found out he broke up with her I started thinking about him in that way again but not as strongly. I'm the one who became distant. He kept trying to engage me in conversation. I know to keep my focus on guy and thats what I've been doing lately. Thanks for your opinion. God bless!

 

[Michie]

He's a Christian we work together and often times I see him staring at me. Other people I work with say the same thing. We went to a church service not together. I was seated all the way in the back and I turn and I saw he was near the door entrance of the church, so I turned around and kept on talking.

The preacher called all of us to stand up, so as I was looking around to find somewhere to place my purse as I looked up everyone is facing forward. I look to the middle and he's staring hard directly at me. He's the only one out of the crowd of people facing my way. His body facing the front, but his neck was turned around.

Is that the way other Christians show their interests in another Christian?

If this isn't the right thread to post on can someone please be kind enough to direct me to the right one thank you.

Didn’t you say you had a co-worker starting at you as well? I ask because this sounds really familiar.

 

[Michie]

Oh…nevermind. Carry on.

 

[SabbathBlessings]

Maybe I should've explained myself better. After I found out he had s girlfriend I stopped looking at him in that way. After I found out he broke up with her I started thinking about him in that way again but not as strongly. I'm the one who became distant. He kept trying to engage me in conversation. I know to keep my focus on guy and thats what I've been doing lately. Thanks for your opinion. God bless!

Sorry I was referring to him looking at you while having a girlfriend.

I wish you the best!

 

[Neogaia777]

Yes, the way I understood it was that he had a girlfriend for a short while, but now does not any longer.

Either way, if he is young, and you are both young, then either he, or both of you might need some training maybe, or to grow up and mature a little bit before one of you or both of you is ready for something like maybe say like "marriage", or something like that maybe, etc. Hopefully if you do get together, you'll both learn along the way, etc. Because that's how most other people do it or have done it in the past, or in their pasts, even if some have forgotten that, etc

God Bless.

 

[Jo555]

I'm into this guy 100%. I don't know why he's saying he's not into me but get caught staring. My som was given a dream that he had feelings for me. My son described him and never saw him. And my son said he had a beard and I said no he doesn't now I worked with him for 2 years and never seen him with a beard until one day I looked into the next room and there he was sitting there with a full beard. I was so shocked. Why would God reveal his feeling for me?

My advice is don't make another move, say a prayer on it, and try and move on. Leave it in God's hands. Don't obsess over it or dwell too much on it.

You can either live in fear that you are going to miss out on a relationship God may have for you, or you can trust it in his hands.

It's not like we never do anything, but you did already. You made your interest known. The ball is now in his court. Be nice and chat if the opportunity presents itself, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and the rest will fall into place.

But that's just my advice. You do what is right for you. Just don't make a move out of fear on losing out on something God has for you, but just remain in His love.

 

[Jo555]

I'm into this guy 100%. I don't know why he's saying he's not into me but get caught staring. My som was given a dream that he had feelings for me. My son described him and never saw him. And my son said he had a beard and I said no he doesn't now I worked with him for 2 years and never seen him with a beard until one day I looked into the next room and there he was sitting there with a full beard. I was so shocked. Why would God reveal his feeling for me?

My advice is don't make another move, say a prayer on it, and try and move on. Leave it in God's hands. Don't obsess over it or dwell too much on it.

You can either live in fear that you are going to miss out on a relationship God may have for you, or you can trust it in his hands.

It's not like we never do anything, but you did already. You made your interest known. The ball is now in his court. Be nice and chat if the opportunity presents itself, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and the rest will fall into place.

But that's just my advice. You do what is right for you. Just don't make a move out of fear on losing out on something God has for you, but just remain in His love and seek Him / the Lord.

It's a very attractive quality and if he doesn't see it, then you are probably better off without him.

 

[Emma2332]

My advice is don't make another move, say a prayer on it, and try and move on. Leave it in God's hands. Don't obsess over it or dwell too much on it.

You can either live in fear that you are going to miss out on a relationship God may have for you, or you can trust it in his hands.

It's not like we never do anything, but you did already. You made your interest known. The ball is now in his court. Be nice and chat if the opportunity presents itself, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and the rest will fall into place.

But that's just my advice. You do what is right for you. Just don't make a move out of fear on losing out on something God has for you, but just remain in His love and seek Him / the Lord.

It's a very attractive quality and if he doesn't see it, then you are probably better off without him.

What's a very attractive quality?. Also I prayed about it and told myself I'm done. And that's when I was given a dream that I had a phone in my hand and I put it to my ear and heard his voice on the other end. It's like we were thinking the same thing and I said to myself we're connected like a connection ( meaning to one another). Then he started talking to me. He was opening up to me like we were close friends. Another dream was given but not to me, but to my son. In the dream I was calling him and he was ignoring me until I called him baby, that's when he seem to respond to me.

Strange dreams. Anyway He keeps watching me. To the point my coworker said something about it. Even when I'm laughing alone in the breakroom he sticks his head in and walk off lo.... he just keeps on looking and sometimes I'll look up randomly and he'll be there and ours eyes would lock on to one another another. Maybe he sees the glow of God on me lol....

 

[Lost4words]

I had an issue myself with someone looking at me. It went on for about 3 months. Every time i walked past this certain area i always saw this 'person' looking at me! It started to really get to me. Plus, they looked very familiar to me. I thought i had seen them before...

In the end my friend told me that it was a mirror!! I was looking at myself walking past that same spot!!

Remembering i have very short legs and i am not one for vanity!!.....woof!

 

[Michie]

@Emma2332 -

How long has this been going on? I notice this has been going on since last January and he is still just staring? It seems odd nothing has moved forward since then. Is he a super young guy?

 

[Emma2332]

We work together that could be the reason. Yes he's in his mid 20 twenties. Or he could just have a bad habit of staring it's either that or he sees the glow of the lord upon me lol.