Why do you ask questions here?

[3girls2dogs]

I've avoided asking questions here, but now I think I need to avoid responding to them too.

LOL, I was just thinking the same thing.

 

[heart of peace]

I like to post on message forums as I like to practice honing my communication skills. I have always had the gift of gab but alas, I also had the gift of sticking my foot in my mouth...lol So through prayer and years of learning alternative communication methods, internet forums are my best outlet for putting these newfound skills I learn to the test. The more I practice here, the better I am able to communicate offline.

As for personal questions, I rarely post them. If I post a question that is personal in nature, I will word it in a general sense without giving specifics (this is rare). When I do this, I too am looking to bounce my ideas and thoughts on to another human being which helps me sort out what it is I am already thinking inside so that I can get a better perspective on things. Normally, though I can be very objective in most situations, even emotionally charged ones (after I have taken some measures to ground myself though).

 

[dmp]

I'll be honest - Sometimes, I just like the attention. Especially when I post photos and what-not.

 

[heart of peace]

Interestingly, I like internet forums as a way for me to use personality alone to form impressions. People tend to form opinions of others based on one's exterior and I like to know what a person's true impression is without the use of subjective things like one's appearance.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Suppose then that whenever you posted about your situations, all you got from people (ie. 100% of responses) were people giving you scathing negative feedback and constantly telling you that all of the problems are your fault and you were being nothing but a nag.

Would you continue to post? Or would you suddenly find that "talking to people online about it" was suddenly not as appealing as you had originally thought?

Well, i kind of talked about that in my first response. And I also wanted to add that I do agree with the scenarios you guys gave by the way.... however, sometimes people just want emotional support. You see, on a personal level... my husband doesn't "get" this and if he "got" this then we'd have less misunderstandings... sometimes I just need to vent, and I need his sympathy or comfort. Does that mean he has to agree? NO! I try to tell him that. You see, maybe it's because i'm a woman, or my personality, spiritual gifts, or all three that I am able to discern and seperate myself from needing to correct my friends, and to JUST BE A FRIEND. There are times in the past when I've listened to my best friend vent and I disagreed with her... but did I need to tell her that? No, I didn't, because at that moment she didn't need someone else's opinion, but just a shoulder to lean on. Unfortunately for me and some others here, this (online) is really the only support we feel we have... so we come here in an emotional crisis.... even KNOWING we are in the wrong... that we shouldn't think or feel the way we do.... but nevertheless coming her for someone to help shoulder the burden with us. I don't think others here are personally involved enough to be a good emotional support system for such a person... seems a lot of people just lay it on the table, giving advice, correction... sometimes condemnation... without so much as a hug. At those times I personally have become defensive... and have been accused of not wanting to hear the truth... but truth was that "the truth" wasn't even the issue.... it was about a need for a caring shoulder to cry on. That's all, someone to understand.

HB

 

[dayknee]

I post here becuase I hope to find others who are in or have been in my situation. Someone who can relate to things going on in my life kind of thing.
I know that often my words are not the favorite around here nor are my thoughts on some things.
I am a very interested person. I like knwoing things and I like asking questions. I like getting responses and seeing others thoughts or points of view.
I have gotton heated before and I have "flamed" a few people...sadly.
I think overall getting some feed back helps me to see things in a different light possibly.
I pretty much take all advice. I don't get too upset anymore about those who do not agree with me..I just chalk it up to their life is perfect and mine sucks..lol..

 

[Catholic Wife]

Sometimes, I'm just not in touch with reality (I sometimes live in a fantasy world). When I think this is the case, I might ask for a reality check.