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Why Do Some People Get All The Attention?
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Trashionista
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Personality is what seperates. In popularity/dating, I honestly believe that is the ultimate division.
There are plenty of dudes who are physically attractive. But not all have the sparkling personality to go along with it.
There are plenty of dudes who are physically attractive. But not all have the sparkling personality to go along with it.
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Confidence? and personality (Charisma). This is if we're talking about the good stuff, not the drama queen/kings.
Forgot, a big one for women is openess and maybe some flirtatiousness (although I'm not sure I agree on the later).
Forgot, a big one for women is openess and maybe some flirtatiousness (although I'm not sure I agree on the later).
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I do cuz I'm a motormouth who never shuts up and is ashamed of nothing I do. Somehow that translates to "confidence" and "charisma"... crazy things like that 
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Don't know, but I know how to avoid it. I don't want a bunch of annoyances around all the time. Maybe because they smoke?
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I think some people just kind of stand out more
also some people are more confortable in large groups than others.... well than also you got the show offs who love being the center of attention
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I think it's confidence... the confident people usually get alot of attention. I usually notice the confident men but direct myself toward the ones who are shy...
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It has been my experience that women are attracted to confident men just as has already been suggested many times in this thread BUT I feel that it is incomplete.
The confident male that women are attracted to IS NOT necessarily the outgoing man who is confident in his ability to attract the opposite sex and thinks he can have any girl he talks to or smiles at. While that will attract at least some women, in my opinion, it will not, in most cases, develop into a lasting relationship.
The confidence needs to be better placed than that. A man needs to be confident in where he is headed in life and have goals, dreams and aspirations. He needs to be passionate about things in his life. I think most men don't understand that they need to become what a woman is looking for.
If you are afraid of rejection to the point that you cannot comfortably talk to a member of the opposite sex then you are probably just as afraid in the job place or business world and are too timid to have the "eye of the tiger" type attitude that will result in promotion or financial success. In my opinion, you will attract strong minded women that do not like dominant males. These are usually very demanding and bossy women.
We men are very visual oriented and we like to look and see beauty. That is usually the thing that gets our attention first. There are many other attributes that will need to be present in the prospect but we tend to notice physical beauty first. I think that most women are not as concerned with the way a man looks so much as they are who a man is and what comes out of his mouth. Men like to see and women like to hear. So, saying the right things in the right way makes a huge difference in how a woman perceives a man.
Being confident enough to display your sense of humor as well as your intellect and show at least some signs of future prosperity is confident enough to get your foot in the door is my humble opinion.
ladies, please feel free to educate me if I've missed the mark anywhere.
The confident male that women are attracted to IS NOT necessarily the outgoing man who is confident in his ability to attract the opposite sex and thinks he can have any girl he talks to or smiles at. While that will attract at least some women, in my opinion, it will not, in most cases, develop into a lasting relationship.
The confidence needs to be better placed than that. A man needs to be confident in where he is headed in life and have goals, dreams and aspirations. He needs to be passionate about things in his life. I think most men don't understand that they need to become what a woman is looking for.
If you are afraid of rejection to the point that you cannot comfortably talk to a member of the opposite sex then you are probably just as afraid in the job place or business world and are too timid to have the "eye of the tiger" type attitude that will result in promotion or financial success. In my opinion, you will attract strong minded women that do not like dominant males. These are usually very demanding and bossy women.
We men are very visual oriented and we like to look and see beauty. That is usually the thing that gets our attention first. There are many other attributes that will need to be present in the prospect but we tend to notice physical beauty first. I think that most women are not as concerned with the way a man looks so much as they are who a man is and what comes out of his mouth. Men like to see and women like to hear. So, saying the right things in the right way makes a huge difference in how a woman perceives a man.
Being confident enough to display your sense of humor as well as your intellect and show at least some signs of future prosperity is confident enough to get your foot in the door is my humble opinion.
ladies, please feel free to educate me if I've missed the mark anywhere.
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psht! i AM the center of attention to all and sundry...
mostly because I talk to myself and walk into walls on a regular basis
I think that in most cases the people who are the center of attention are the "people persons" the ones who make others laugh and feel included themselves
mostly because I talk to myself and walk into walls on a regular basis
I think that in most cases the people who are the center of attention are the "people persons" the ones who make others laugh and feel included themselves
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Great post.It has been my experience that women are attracted to confident men just as has already been suggested many times in this thread BUT I feel that it is incomplete.
The confident male that women are attracted to IS NOT necessarily the outgoing man who is confident in his ability to attract the opposite sex and thinks he can have any girl he talks to or smiles at. While that will attract at least some women, in my opinion, it will not, in most cases, develop into a lasting relationship.
The confidence needs to be better placed than that. A man needs to be confident in where he is headed in life and have goals, dreams and aspirations. He needs to be passionate about things in his life. I think most men don't understand that they need to become what a woman is looking for.
If you are afraid of rejection to the point that you cannot comfortably talk to a member of the opposite sex then you are probably just as afraid in the job place or business world and are too timid to have the "eye of the tiger" type attitude that will result in promotion or financial success. In my opinion, you will attract strong minded women that do not like dominant males. These are usually very demanding and bossy women.
We men are very visual oriented and we like to look and see beauty. That is usually the thing that gets our attention first. There are many other attributes that will need to be present in the prospect but we tend to notice physical beauty first. I think that most women are not as concerned with the way a man looks so much as they are who a man is and what comes out of his mouth. Men like to see and women like to hear. So, saying the right things in the right way makes a huge difference in how a woman perceives a man.
Being confident enough to display your sense of humor as well as your intellect and show at least some signs of future prosperity is confident enough to get your foot in the door is my humble opinion.
ladies, please feel free to educate me if I've missed the mark anywhere.
The only comment I would have to disagree with is the one about strong-minded women not liking dominant males. Quite the contrary - for me, anyway.
I'm not bossy and demanding, either. I just know what I want and am typically not afraid to ask for it.
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