Why are you still single?

[Hyperchick]

I think I'm single right now because God is forming me. I praise God that I'm single now! I will also praise God when I....stop being single. I've got two analogies for all of you.

1) Immagine yourself running towards God <chariots of fire playing in the background> God says "well done, my child, now look beside you" you reply, "no way, God! I'm running towards you and nothing can stop me!" then He says, "My child, look beside you, I have something special for you." You look to your side, and you find someone running right beside you. That's when you know you've met the partner that you will get to serve with for the rest of your life!

2) Immagine an architect. they have the plans for a house. They start building that house, but then some of the construction workers say, "hey, I'm bored with working on just this house. I want to add another house into the mix" Then, they start working on another house. Unfortunately, they get the two plans mixed up, and both houses end up being mutated. This is what happens when you get into a relationship too early. You mix up the plans God has for your own life with the plans He has for the other person's life.

So rejoice in being single now! Praise God that He is forming you! Run full on towards Him, and serve while single. You'd be surprised with what God can do with singles!

 

[plum]

I am not yet ready to be a wife. And he (whoever he may be) is not yet ready to be a husband. So.... I wait.

honestly though, i need to straighten a few things out in my life before I think of marrying...

 

[hockeysistah234]

Well, the reason why I am still single is that even though I am yearning to be married again, no one will not take a chance on a widow who is going to turn 45 years old in May, but it seems her time is running out for having children.

You see, I want to have kids, but you see, and here is another issue, my race is black and people who I met online and in real life do not want to look beyond color, but they pre judge me because of the neighborhood I live in or the job I have, which does not make money, but they pay the bills.

And people who I get online take advantage of me and all I get is those who had substance abuse issues and other problems and there is no decent men outhere, online and otherwise.

I'm just tired of people who toy with my feelings, cheat on me to get someone else or not being honest.

And then again, people who are getting married around me and I have a feeling God has pass me by.

I'm not trying to be whiney here, but sometimes this is the way I feel and as it is I do not have any freinds (I do have freinds in real life and in Church who support me and care about me) online who see how I am doing.

 

[hockeysistah234]

I think I'm single right now because God is forming me. I praise God that I'm single now! I will also praise God when I....stop being single. I've got two analogies for all of you.

1) Immagine yourself running towards God <chariots of fire playing in the background> God says "well done, my child, now look beside you" you reply, "no way, God! I'm running towards you and nothing can stop me!" then He says, "My child, look beside you, I have something special for you." You look to your side, and you find someone running right beside you. That's when you know you've met the partner that you will get to serve with for the rest of your life!

2) Immagine an architect. they have the plans for a house. They start building that house, but then some of the construction workers say, "hey, I'm bored with working on just this house. I want to add another house into the mix" Then, they start working on another house. Unfortunately, they get the two plans mixed up, and both houses end up being mutated. This is what happens when you get into a relationship too early. You mix up the plans God has for your own life with the plans He has for the other person's life.

So rejoice in being single now! Praise God that He is forming you! Run full on towards Him, and serve while single. You'd be surprised with what God can do with singles!

This is a great post--And as a Christian I do serve in my local church and with other para church minitries, but there are some who say that I am wasting my time doing this and not finding a husband.

I know what God wants me to do to be of service to him, but there are dissenters who wants you to do otherwise and I pray that I will seek his will.

 

[Lbiagm]

I am still single because God has not yet provided me with my mate.

 

[absosteele]

I honestly don't know why I'm still single. People often tell me I would be a great wife, that whatever man marries me will be very lucky etc. etc. I used to pray for the desire to be married or in a relationship be taken away,(because I don't have good luck in that area) but it remains growing stronger each year.

I even thought that maybe because I'm overweight and not drop-dead gorgeous is the reason I'm still single ( from a worldly point of view). But women bigger than me are still able to find lifemates so I know that's not the reason.

I would love to be a wife, but for now I will enjoy being single (hey there are things in life that are easier to do as a single person). LOL despite no luck thus far I'm still hopeful that I will be Mrs so and so one day

 

[GeorgiaGuy]

I'm a single 27 year old male, and I am still single because, well, women don't appear to be attracted to me. I'm not a bad looking guy, but they apparently aren't attracted to me for some reason or another.

Other issues as to why I am still single: I spent time in college earning two degrees, using valuable prime dating years studying hard to do well.

I really would like to meet a nice Godly woman. If you're in Georgia and are interested, send me a line.

 

[GeorgiaGuy]

This is a great post--And as a Christian I do serve in my local church and with other para church minitries, but there are some who say that I am wasting my time doing this and not finding a husband.

I know what God wants me to do to be of service to him, but there are dissenters who wants you to do otherwise and I pray that I will seek his will.

Hello Hockey sister.

 

[Lbiagm]

hi georgia.

 

[GeorgiaGuy]

hi georgia.

Hello, Libigam. How are you?

 

[Lbiagm]

i am fine u georgia.

 

[Monk7]

Well, to be perfectly honest, I am not sure exactly why I am still single. I am looking, but not really trying to hard. I know God has a plan, what it is I am not exactly sure. I do know that as of now I really don't have much time to go out and meet people, as I work 24 hours a day 5 days a week as a counselor for in-crisis youth. And to be more honest, I have been out of the dating loop for so long, approx. 10 years (6 years studying to be a friar) that I am not sure exactly how to get back into dating or meeting people that are my age. I just trust that God has a plan, and that I am open to that plan. Just kinda wish I knew what the plan was, to make sure that I am not heading in the wrong direction.

 

[Lbiagm]

I am kinda looking but not really when God is ready to provide me I am ready.

 

[BigTank82]

Well I just got out of a relationship and my relationship with god dwindled and I fell so to speak during that timeframe sp obviously she wasn't good for me.. I hope he forgives me. Now, I'm just going to wait and hope The Lord sends me someone special and that is meant for me.

 

[bubblegirl23]

I'm 23, but will surely be single for years yet. Many people say I am smart, intelligent, humourous, pretty and loving, but there's many reasons why I'm still single:

some relationships start with casual sex: I only want to Be sexual with someone I love and trust

Children: I am unable to care for children properly

health: some frown on dating someone with severe allergies. Often I get offers of sympathy, when I want someone to see past my disease & love ME

Men aren't suitable: disrespectful, don't try, mean, law-breakers, or hate animals

Sex: they want it, I can't provide it because the contraceptive options aren't safe; and most me are misinformed and afraid of vasectomies

victim: something I'm not, even though men attempt to make me. I don't regret things, and will not be abused or controlled

hate animals: my pets are here to stay - if they don't like it, stiff!

environment: many men don't want to stop using colognes and similar products

work: their line of work affects my health, such as mining or mechanics

Mood: Can't laugh at trials, and they get depressed they can't take me out places. They continually say, "I wish you could be cured", which I don't appreciate hearing. It's like saying, "you are no longer a person being ill."

Lies: I won't tolerate liars or cheaters. I refuse men who want me as "something on the side".

Money: They want a woman who can pay her own way. I'm trying to get a writing career, but it doesn't mean promised funds. I hate to admit it, but I might be stuck financially independant.


Quite a list huh!

 

[Lbiagm]

yep bubble.

 

[hundredspokes]

for me I guess it's my weight girls don't really go for the fat guys im 31 I have a good job heavily involved in ministry God comes 1st in my life I feel like giving up on women they are just not interested in me outside of being friends

 

[I'mHis]

Well, I know I am single because of my looks. I am overweight and really not too pretty. I am also shy, and it is hard for me to get to know people. Sometimes I feel like no one will ever want me, because all guys seem to care about is if someone is "hot". I have had guy friends, but I am always looked over for the cute girls. An advantage is that my relationship with God is so much stronger. But sometimes I wish I would be able to have someone to share my life with. The future looks lonely!

 

[Living4Him03]

I think my singleness has to do with my confidence. I mean I'm only 22, so I'm not really sure yet if I am going to get married...I think I'm pretty young,ya know! But, I know that the reason I was never asked out, never asked to dance, and still hardly ever asked out, is because of confidence. I have much, much more confidence than I did 4 or 5 years ago, but I'm still working on it. I am overweight and I'm not what you'd call "hot" but I don't think that's the main reason guys aren't drawn to me. It's because guys want a girl who is confident and who believes she is worthwhile, whether she is "hot" or just plain or whatever, it's about believing that God made me beautiful from the beginning and realizing all the talents I have.

A few years ago I just did not think I was that great. I had a somewhat close relationship with God, but I had no confidence. I didn't think I was as pretty, as smart, as funny, as interesting, etc. as all the other girls in my school. I looked down mostly, was fairly quiet, avoided talking to the guys I really liked much because I just knew I was not good enough for them, and I didn't smile much. What guy wants a girl like that? I can't think of one!

So, that's probably why I have not been asked out too often and why I am still single. Although I've improved, I still need to develop my confidence because I still think guys see me as shy or snooty/standoffish and boring (I am not the type of person who goes and smiles at everyone I see...I usually don't smile that much if I'm nervous or feel inferior to others around me, thus the reason I hate visiting churches alone! ). If a guy gets to know me, they seem to enjoy my company, but my first impressions are not that great.

 

[Cright]

Hi All,

I'm 26, have dated a few guys, but none with love for God. One Catholic (went to church on Sunday, just because he always had, or felt guilty if he didnt). Another raised Catholic, practiced nothing. Another Christian (don't know the denomanation, eastern european) but he moved back to Europe... and well that says that.

Now.. (since Oct 03) I have been dateing my current bf. He loves God, reads the bible, encourages me to learn, search, find answers. He's introduced me to several new churhcs. We found one we both want to join! He loves to do stuff.. volleyball, hiking, walks, ect... we have sooo much in common. I love him!

So... why still single?

I made tons of mistakes in my past, mostly w/ some big cross country moves and my finances. I need to get my finanical past cleaned up. I don't want to walk into a marriage in debt. With as hard as the first couple of years are with out major problems are I don't want to bring more in.

I think that marriage is going to be wonderful. I will be blessed to have my bf as my husband one day. And quite possibly I might be the luckiest girl in the world! We both want children too.. so I need to get outta debt asap.. don't want to wait til i'm too much past 30 to start (due to added health risks).

Pray for diligence for me, that I might be able to pay off my past debts sooner than later!

C