Why are you Single?

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Ohhhh picky. Kidding.
Actually, in my opinon it is extremely hard to stick with your standards. I applaude you on staying with yours!!
I just recently made a list (a very long one) of all the qualities I would like a guy to have, then I placed a star by the ones that is a must-have. I dropped my guard before and it ended in heartbreak. I won't be making a mistake like that again.

deliciousBass · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
Ohhhh picky. Kidding.
Actually, in my opinon it is extremely hard to stick with your standards. I applaude you on staying with yours!!
I just recently made a list (a very long one) of all the qualities I would like a guy to have, then I placed a star by the ones that is a must-have. I dropped my guard before and it ended in heartbreak. I won't be making a mistake like that again.

Yup. Show us the list.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Before I do, would you like all of them or just the musts?

deliciousBass · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
Before I do, would you like all of them or just the musts?

Well the musts are the most important. Show us.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Alright, you asked for it. *gets up on soapbox*

Firstly, he must be a Christian.
Second, Want kids or at least like them.
Have a sense of humor.
Be serious when needed.
Understand my level of sarcasm. (Of course I NEVER use it )
We have to get along to some degree.
Be smart. (Book smart is good and common sense is needed since I tend to lack it)
Friendly
Can debate me on topics that we do not agree on and not get an overheated head about it.

*steps off soap box* Ok I'm finished.

deliciousBass · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
Alright, you asked for it. *gets up on soapbox*

Firstly, he must be a Christian.

Second, Want kids or at least like them.

Have a sense of humor.

Be serious when needed.

Understand my level of sarcasm. (Of course I NEVER use it )

We have to get along to some degree.

Be smart. (Book smart is good and common sense is needed since I tend to lack it)

Friendly

Can debate me on topics that we do not agree on and not get an overheated head about it.

*steps off soap box* Ok I'm finished.

Those are all very good musts. I share the sense of sarcasm and that last one you mentioned about debate is very important to me as well... I dated a girl once who was furious with me when I said I could see both sides of the gay marriage issue. (She was very strongly for gay marriage and wanted me to be the same way but I am kinda torn between the two sides). She was that way about a lot of issues. It got to the point where I felt like I couldn't bring up anything that was potentially contraversial around her without her going off the deep end.

Thomas1984 · Dec 15, 2008

Well, I'm still fairly new to my church, and it just takes awhile to work into the various groups that naturally gravitate towards eachother. I make a fair bit of effort to meet people and get to know them, but to get to spend time with them outside of church, that takes some doing.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Yuck, thats never fun. I debate because I love to see other people's point of view and I love to just listen to my mouth run. lol

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Thomas1984 said:
Well, I'm still fairly new to my church, and it just takes awhile to work into the various groups that naturally gravitate towards eachother. I make a fair bit of effort to meet people and get to know them, but to get to spend time with them outside of church, that takes some doing.

Yeah, I must agree with you there. Then again, people can act one way at church and another in a different setting.

Thomas1984 · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
Yeah, I must agree with you there. Then again, people can act one way at church and another in a different setting.

Well, to be honest, I haven't noticed much of that. Everyone's just so busy!

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

I was just pointing out that it has happened to me before

Thomas1984 · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
I was just pointing out that it has happened to me before

Well, I hope it doesn't cloud your judgement, in case you get the wrong idea about someone good.

soccerdad66 · Dec 15, 2008

brebre said:
That might be my problem too.

That's not your problem.

Anyhow, when I was your age, I wasn't interested in getting married. I dated a lot though.

Having a list is great, but you could have someone who fits the list great, but there's just something missing. You could have also have someone who doesn't quite fit the list, but there's just 'something' about that person.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Thomas1984 said:
Well, I hope it doesn't cloud your judgement, in case you get the wrong idea about someone good.

Nope, it won't. I make that judgement after I have seen and observed the individual in a different environment.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

soccerdad66 said:
That's not your problem.

Anyhow, when I was your age, I wasn't interested in getting married. I dated a lot though.

Having a list is great, but you could have someone who fits the list great, but there's just something missing. You could have also have someone who doesn't quite fit the list, but there's just 'something' about that person.

Yeah, I've had some experience with that. I really didn't like it, and I don't want it to happen again.

That_Guy_Josh · Dec 15, 2008

I'm in Iraq and I don't believe in long distance relationships!

I have been on the move for quite sometime now, I figure in the past 6 years I have been home for a maybe a year of that. I spent four in the Corps and a year and a half of that was spent in Iraq. After the Corps I came home for a short time and tried out college but hated it and got a job to come back out to Iraq. I have been here since October of 07 and plan on being out here until April of 09. I'll probably be looking for a relationship after that though, believe you me. After this is all said and done with I plan on attending Liberty U and finally buckling down and getting that degree everyone speaks so highly of. Don't get me wrong, I have been in relationships in those past 6 years but nothing real serious. I'm a settling down type of guy and look at girls for a long term thing. I don't understand how you can just date someone to date someone. All but one of those girls have been non-Christians (is that the right term?) but the next one I get will be a Christian. So there you have it, wow that was a lot!

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

I'm half tempted to ask what is wrong with me then.

brebre · Dec 15, 2008

Wow....I agree that long-distance/over seas is a bit dumb. Or at least the serious ones are. I wish you luck on your up-coming search though!!

Gwendolyn · Dec 15, 2008

Well I'm single because my former boyfriend broke up with me

But seriously, I'd like to stay single for awhile in order to get a better handle on who I am and what my goals are. I don't want to get side tracked, and because I'm all over the place right now, dating would inevitably sidetrack me. I want to make sure that I have a solid plan of action set up for myself - get degree, get job, become financially independent. That is really important for me, to be independent in that way, and I cannot multi-task or focus on more than one thing at a time so presently dating is on hold.

deliciousBass · Dec 15, 2008

Gwendolyn said:
Well I'm single because my former boyfriend broke up with me

But seriously, I'd like to stay single for awhile in order to get a better handle on who I am and what my goals are. I don't want to get side tracked, and because I'm all over the place right now, dating would inevitably sidetrack me. I want to make sure that I have a solid plan of action set up for myself - get degree, get job, become financially independent. That is really important for me, to be independent in that way, and I cannot multi-task or focus on more than one thing at a time so presently dating is on hold.

Why don't you have your age showing? I always wonder how old you are

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