Why are you single?

barbaraclarke · Sep 7, 2006

sistakrista said:
Why Am I Single?
I have answered this question, many, MANY, times in my life. I have only ever met ONE person I considered WORTH marrying - ahhhh, but I believe I'm *called* to be single, maybe JUST to be a living example that it's OKAY? Jesus completes me. I KNOW I would enjoy the companionship & sex is ALWAYS an issue. Paul wrote something about the single person has less to worry about, right? And, it's better to marry than burn! Maybe I'd enjoy being married?
NAAAAAH!

Your blessed to have even met 1 person you would like to marry I have never met anyone to date
but like you I've learned to trust in the fellowship and companionship of Christ Jesus .

misscanada · Sep 17, 2006

I have cancer, and no one wants a "sick" girlfriend. I'm not saying this because I feel sorry for myself, because I don't, it's just matter of fact. There is no cure for the type of cancer I have, but I can live with this cancer until I am 60 years old, or older. Most guys, when they find out about my cancer, are really sympathetic, and want to hang out, but then, they get tired of me having to sleep during the day, and me sometimes being sick from chemo , which I take every day at home. They think that because I am sick, I am not fun, but ask my friends....I'm a blast! . So, in a nutshell, that's why I am still single, but I'm ok with that, because I know God has a WONDERFUL guy out there for me

Jenster · Sep 19, 2006

That's a good attitude you've got, misscanada. Keep your chin up, and God bless you for sharing!

floridasun · Sep 26, 2006

Hi, I'm new here to CF...I'll be in this forum often...

As for why I'm still single?...I'm not sure...looking back in my mid to late 20's, I should have pursued one or two girls I thought I might marry...however, things seemed to happen where other priorities took place in my life (plus I made mistakes on handling some of my dating relationships)...so, I never got around to thinking about marriage...God could easily bring a person to my life the next day, but it's not my priority at the moment...

faithgoeson · Sep 26, 2006

I first became single because my husband died. I was blessed enough to have him for a few short years. I then didn't want to be single and met about a dozen men who were not equally yoked with me, let alone my children and our love for Christ. I then decided I would not marry until my children are grown. I'll still be young enough. But, now I think I'd like to maybe date again. I guess the why for me now is that no one even asks me out anymore. I guess I must have lost whatever I once had or something. I suppose God will send who He intends to send in His own time, though, if and when He even decides to.

Gemstone · Sep 28, 2006

My marriage of 20 years ended a couple of years ago, after considering divorce back and forth for many years. It was a good decision at the end, the only one in a way. Sometimes Christians stay too long in a hopeless marriage. If it can't be made better even after a lot of counselling and constant discussion with the spouse I think it is better to give up.

I now get on much better with my ex than while we were married.

overit · Oct 3, 2006

Never mind don't really feel ready to talk about it, sorry guys.

mixiejoeusa · Oct 3, 2006

mwb said:
Women seeking men online is probably riskier than men seeking women online. The two women I met online were pretty truthful. The one woman was 31 & wanted to make sure I wanted children. She told me that was her number one priority. She is very successful but very down to earth & has strong values. Thanks to her honesty, I didn't feel hurt or misled. I still respect her & hopes she finds someone. The other woman was in the same life stage (in many aspects) as me. We chatted back & forth for a few months then talked on the phone once. She then emailed me & told me she didn't think it would work out. This was a little disappointing but even though she continued to email me, I stopped replying because I want to waste my time with someone who wasn't interested when I could be spending my time finding someone who was interested.

I have tried online dating as well, and I think you do have to be more carefull as a women. I have found that the Christian online dating sights are better. the men there seamed to be looking for a real relationship, not just a one night stand.

smiledaily · Oct 12, 2006

I'm a widow, that's why I'm single.

Gazoo · Oct 12, 2006

I lost my wife while she was giving birth. I also lost my child in that delivery.

Jenster · Oct 13, 2006

Welcome to all you new CFers! (Or new to Mature Singles!)

RiseAgain · Oct 13, 2006

I'm single because I am a widow. During the first years I was in deep sadness over the loss of my late husband. Then I was worried how my son would feel. Now it has been almost four years and my young teenage son says, "mom, I want a man around the house". Now I'm just scared, of dating, getting my heart broken again, of everything. I kind of like being single, no one to boss me around, I can cook and eat what I want, when I want to. It's kind of nice. But I do miss the closeness of sharing your life with someone you love.

Sorry for your loss, I know how you feel, I lost my husband this last year too. I am reading many sad posts on this thread, have not read where any one has been praying for God to bring the right person in to there lives. Sorry for your wife & child (Gazoo ) I know you are going thr hell right now, but the sun will shine again, and yes it's ok to be mad at God. What helps me is talking to God, and having the Holy Spirit wrap himself around me. I pray that each and everyone of you find joy & happiness again

ScottF · Oct 20, 2006

You wouldn't want to hear my sad sob story. The reasons are too long list here. Besides, after a while they stop sounding like reasons and start sounding like excuses instead.

HoosierCanuck · Oct 20, 2006

Everyone says my reasons are excuses.

"No man in his right mind has ever or would ever want to be with me" is not merely an excuse but a proven fact.

Jenster · Oct 20, 2006

Hey welcome back, HC! I was wondering where you'd been....

HoosierCanuck · Oct 21, 2006

Howdy, Jenster! 'been pretty busy....work, home stuff, family stuff, yadda yadda yadda.....

ChrisCountryGirl · Oct 21, 2006

I choose to be single because I feel it's my calling from God. I also enjoy being single too.

HoosierCanuck · Oct 21, 2006

being single beats being in a bad relationship anyday!

Jenster · Oct 21, 2006

HoosierCanuck said:
being single beats being in a bad relationship anyday!

Amen, sistah!

jane1 · Oct 21, 2006

Boy do I get this question a lot too !

Well I have had many boyfriends (before I made Christ the center of my life..), even shacked up with one for 6 years. The opportunity to marry
was there but I knew the man wasn't the right one. ANyway, I have made bad decisions ,in dating men that were not at all marriage-minded, even though being a wife was something I'd always wanted ; always thought it would happen.
Still haven't given up yet but I'm not usually "looking" very hard...

Also, now that I am striving to live a Christ centered life it is much more difficult to meet the right men.

I cannot allow myself to spend much time with secular folks, so the field narrows considerably; which could be a good thing !! Equally yoked is where it's at for me !!

As for dating websites, both christian and secular... this much I've observed;
folks are able to hide their flaws too easily.

The atmosphere is out of context to the rest of the world.

There is a "instant date" quality to them...

Even christian dating sites --- Big Church.com comes to mind-- are not that appealing...

I'm ranting a little here, but ,,, ahhh never mind... I'm single because haven't met the man that wants me to be his wife... ?

Why are you single?

Well-Known Member

Member

Jenster

Guest

Regular Member

Senior Member

Active Member

Veteran

Praise God With All Your Heart

Keep smiling!

Member

Jenster

Guest

Junior Member

ScottF

Guest

Senior Contributor

Jenster

Guest

Senior Contributor

It's better to give than to recieve

Senior Contributor

Jenster

Guest

Active Member

Similar threads

Privacy & Transparency

Privacy & Transparency